I've been thinking about my friendships from high school and feeling down about the fact I kept in touch with friends who don't actually help me in terms of elevating myself to a higher level. Half of my friend group at the time were the 'elite' type of people, some of them went onto good universities and are from wealthy backgrounds. The other half of the group were from less wealthy backgrounds and less into cultural stuff like art etc. Despite us all keeping in touch more or less after a year of uni, relationships fizzled out naturally.
The general fact that they fizzled out does not concern me, the thing I'm feeling down about is that I have stayed good friends with the 'simpler' friends rather than the other group, and although they're great people and I am able to have jokes with them, they don't stimulate my mind in any way, and I sometimes regret not making more effort with the others who seem to have 'brighter' futures. At uni I have v few friends because I lived at home, and because of the layout of the uni it's not that easy to get to know people, which I guess is why I'm thinking about this. Usually people meet like-minded, intellectually stimulating people at uni, but now that I'm graduating I have no idea where I'll find friends who can accomodate such needs especially friendship bonds are always weaker as we get older...
Anyone got any thoughts or advice, much appreciated
I have also lost contact with almost all the people from my secondary school. I made a couple of friends in my lectures at uni and some more from soceities. So my advice to you is to make an effort to join clubs/societies/volunteering when you leave uni and start work. You will meet good natured people there who you will be able to discuss things with. Good luck