[Deep Thought]

So Apparently according to the ladies here, I'm metaphorically screwed.

[lisah]

I personally never had a sex partner with a huge penis. I think huge penises are rare in nature. I think many women cannot speak about it and should not give their opinion as long as they never tried it.

Furthermore, it is difficult to have an opinion based on pictures. We would need to see it in real and handle it.

[Schroedinger's Pandora]

It would be a welcome change for me.

[Aisha~~]

Some facts;

Less than 1% of men are 8 inches +
The average woman overestimates penis size by 1-2 inches
If you can fit a regular condom over it without it being painful for the guy, it's not huge
The vast majority of girls bottom out by about 7 inches, that's stretched to the max

Most of this thread is bull

[Farseer]

When I think of the word huge I think abnormally large, freakish - but maybe that's just me. I think it's easy to overestimate size as a factor, it certainly is one, but not the most important. The vast majority of guys range between 5-7 inches in length and 4.5-5.0 in girth. So finding a guy very much away from these numbers is rare on either scale - it becomes more of a fantasy than a reality.

(Original post by Schroedinger's Pandora)
It would be a welcome change for me.

[mel_1991]

I wouldn't want someone with a giant penis as it'd be more pain than pleasure. Average size is good enough!

[Chumbaniya]

Some pretty hilarious stuff in this thread. So many men who clearly have no idea how to please a woman.

[kMt]

LOL not huge but just a bit above average.

I slept with a guy once and he was HUGE not even exaggerating, when I saw it I was like OMG :O it was at least 8 inches. anyway the sex was good, painful especially next day.

[shy-girl666]

tbh im not a fan of the 'big' penis i likes about average length and girth...... my bf is a nice size, but tbh it's not the size it how you use it!

but to me penis size doesn't really matter it's tongue and finger technique that makes a difference

i think i always post too much on these threads x

[Silver Arrow]

(Original post by hollywoodbudgie)
It's an insecurity that's been exaggerated too much by the porn industry.

Unless a woman craves very painful sex, then it won't actually make a difference because when the average woman is aroused, the vagina usually extends only to a length of about 10cm, (though it can lengthen by almost 200% if 'forced to'), so unless the length is considerably less than 10cm during erect, then length will make no difference whatsoever.

EDIT: Why is this being negged?

Sounds like a challenge

[bloomblaze]

(Original post by shy-girl666)
tbh im not a fan of the 'big' penis i likes about average length and girth...... my bf is a nice size, but tbh it's not the size it how you use it!

but to me penis size doesn't really matter it's tongue and finger technique that makes a difference

i think i always post too much on these threads x

What length and girth is a 'nice size' for you?

[shy-girl666]

(Original post by bloomblaze)
What length and girth is a 'nice size' for you?

ermmmm i guess 5 or 6 inches in length and just so i can get my hand around for girth..... not somehting i can easily describe online lol x

[Foo.mp3]

(Original post by ZizziHikaru)
I prefer average, I'd rather go for more rounds than be torn and sore after one.

This is the problem with being 'large and in charge', one has to learn to pace oneself and constantly ensure things are operating smoothly down there with certain partners or you may not get 'seconds' (I'm not exactly "huge" btw either)

(Original post by Pink Liquid)
You get used to it after a while and the vagina can stretch to great lengths

True. I've only had two long term sexual partners and it was awkward at first but improved as time went on (they were real troopers bless 'em)

(Original post by Antifazian)
Stop worrying about your size, get good at the other stuff, ask the girl what she likes, put the time and effort in and you'll have no problems

Some good advice for 'blokes', some not so good

(Original post by sweeter than a cherry pie)
these two guys were also the most enthusiastic of my lovers and had the better techniques. But damn, I miss being kissed all along the insides of my legs

Girls Never satisfied

..maybe take them back to the shop, get a refund and wait for a better model to come on the market

[Michaelj]

Do half the women talk from experience or just anticipation? I wonder because almost everyone is like "I will never have sex with someone bigger than 6 1/2 inchs!!!"

[Antifazian]

(Original post by Foo.mp3)

Some good advice for 'blokes', some not so good

I'm not quite sure what you mean by this...if you aren't willing to talk to your partner a.d listen to what they want then that's selfish and naive...unless you are a mind reader that is.

[Mrx123]

i dont think their that bothered, unless its their thing but alot aint fussed

[HoneyFlux]

i once was seeing a guy, who had a massive penis. and i mean massive. i was bit intrigued by it, but a bit scared. needless to say when we were at it, i had to stop cos i just couldnt carry on, it was too painful. i was more focused on the adjustment and uncomfortable pain of it, than actually enjoying the sex. it really put me off. and ever since i had no desire to be with a guy with a massive penis. my current boyfriend is average so im grateful for that. tiny isnt great either. so just an average size should suffice for the ladies.

although i think the actual question is girth dick vs. pencil dick?

i personally think the larger the girth the better the feeling..

[Foo.mp3]

(Original post by Antifazian)
I'm not quite sure what you mean by this...if you aren't willing to talk to your partner a.d listen to what they want then that's selfish and naive...unless you are a mind reader that is.

Perhaps I was being unduly facetious/tactically minded.. but, being something of a retrosexual myself, and seeing the way weaker minded/'metrosexual' types often get treated by (relatively strong willed) women in the post-feminist age, I do not consider it particularly sound to encourage young men to bend over backwards to investigate/satisfy the wants and needs of a (female) partner too early on (although I conceed that ultimately, once ensconced in a loving relationship communication in all matters is key)

As for being a mind reader, I personally am still learning plenty about how to please (different) women even at my age but, yes, lessons that come intuitively/through experience, rather than through forensic description/instruction, sit better. Apart from the issue over taking love making/pleasure seeking from a spontaneous act and turning it frankly into something of a mission, it can (rightly or wrongly) be interpreted as emasculating the male from either partners' POV, and particularly early on in a relationship

Of course when raised to the conscious level and debated in this way such gender role linkages as the female as the submissive love giver, and the male as the dominant/selfish receiver predominantly concerned with the drive to inseminate, may seem ridiculous/antiquated, but the fact is they do influence relations/self perception (mostly through the subconscious) and thus determine related intra/inter-personal psychological and relational outcomes

[Antifazian]

(Original post by Foo.mp3)
Perhaps I was being unduly facetious/tactically minded.. but, being something of a retrosexual myself, and seeing the way weaker minded/'metrosexual' types often get treated by (relatively strong willed) women in the post-feminist age, I do not consider it particularly sound to encourage young men to bend over backwards to investigate/satisfy the wants and needs of a (female) partner too early on (although I conceed that ultimately, once ensconced in a loving relationship communication in all matters is key)

As for being a mind reader, I personally am still learning plenty about how to please (different) women even at my age but, yes, lessons that come intuitively/through experience, rather than through forensic description/instruction, sit better. Apart from the issue over taking love making/pleasure seeking from a spontaneous act and turning it frankly into something of a mission, it can (rightly or wrongly) be interpreted as emasculating the male from either partners' POV, and particularly early on in a relationship

Of course when raised to the conscious level and debated in this way such gender role linkages as the female as the submissive love giver, and the male as the dominant/selfish receiver predominantly concerned with the drive to inseminate, may seem ridiculous/antiquated, but

the fact is they do influence relations/self perception (mostly through the subconscious) and thus determine related intra/inter-personal psychological and relational outcomes

It's odd that you think that a woman wanting to gain pleasure from sex, by having the man do what she likes is in any way damaging the man's masculinity. The fact is that its harder for women to gain pleasure through it than it is for men, and I don't see why men shouldnt put in some effort - which need not involve bending over in any direction - to find out how to make things more enjoyable for a woman. It's in your interest from a more selfish point of view because if you can please a woman she will probably appreciate t, because not all men can or even try to, and so she will likely put more effort into pleasing you back.

Ultimately sex involves two people, I agree you will likely put less effort into sex with someone you aren't in a remationship with, however there is no reason why you still shouldn't try to make it enjoyable for the woman, especially if you expect to get pleasure out of it yourself.

[Foo.mp3]

(Original post by Antifazian)
I don't see why men shouldnt put in some effort

Me either (in certain situations) which is why I noted that my original comment was a little facetious/tactically minded, and then went on to elucidate how it pertained to the chronology e.g. phasing in greater interest and sensitivity the more secure in a relationship one becomes as being the most (tactically) efficacious approach where most (willful) women are concerned

(Original post by Antifazian)
It's in your interest from a more selfish point of view because if you can please a woman she will probably appreciate it, because not all men can or even try to, and so she will likely put more effort into pleasing you back

Once settled of course you are right, it's an important part of what sorts the men from the boys

However I am a big believer in the import of framing given the power of impressionability and conditioning vs. power dynamics/expectations within relationships going forward

To put it another way, the trajectory you set at the outset typically determines, or at least influences, the 'arc' of a relationship (through the precedents thereby established)

Furthermore, like it or not, there is always the potential for a thematic crossover into other realms e.g. if a guy starts exhibiting over-keen/deferential behaviour in one domain, a girl may start lording it/lose respect for him (if only on a subconscious level) in another, whether either are aware of it or not, whether she's fundamentally a nice person or not - it's in our nature to test boundaries

(Original post by Antifazian)
there is no reason why you still shouldn't try to make it enjoyable for the woman, especially if you expect to get pleasure out of it yourself

Up to a point; the point at which you stop is the point at which you feel your masculinity/natural desire for 'self-actualization' is at risk of being undermined by the will to please (in the short term)

In the long term such tradeoffs are not as self defeating as you have established your credentials as a man and, presumably, get ample opportunity to indulge different modes of intimacy too

I can get pleasure out of any woman with whom I am physically compatible, whether I 'please myself' or am more of a 'gentleman lover'. Lettuce be cereal, if we couldn't have a good time with y'all just lying there there'd be a protest movement by now

As something of an aside, and I am not as manipulative as to actually conceive of this as being a legitimate MO, given the fairly ingrained gender roles touched on in this realm, it's not all that unheard of for women to feel the need to give more and more, the less they receive