Which group is less appreciated: Asian Men or Black women?

Besides "hoping" for better luck, what else can I do to attract white girls?

Imagine a black chick and an asian dude made a baby!!

Kill it with fire.

(after all, our hair is quite relatively weak compared to the hair of other races). Natural afro hair can be difficult and/or time consuming to look after, so straightening (whether that's with relaxers or heat tools) can often just make life easier for oneself for maintenance reasons.
That said, I agree it is quite sad the negative attitudes that many black people have towards their own natural hair. I'm a black woman with natural hair, and any ignorant comments I've had about it are always from black people, even my own family! Heck, the last time they ever complimented my hair was when I straightened it (with flat irons) the other month . It's also sad that hardly any black woman in the media wears her hair natural, and whilst I have nothing against hair extensions and straightening (I do them sometimes myself in fact), it's a bit sad when wearing natural hair is such a minority. There are plenty of lovely styles one can do with it, it doesn't always have to be a bushy afro (not that there's anything much wrong with that either)! Look at how awesome Janelle Monáe looks!

Hope is a very powerful thing, as lame as that sounds

Obviously different girls have different tastes, but I would say:
-Keep your hair short, you don't want to look like Goku from Dragon Ball Z.
-Dress well, always look clean, etc. Don't smoke
-Stay in shape. Oriental guys with chubby faces tend to look really young. If you're short, don't overcompensate by getting really muscly though, it just looks ridiculous.
-Smile lots. Can't stress this enough. I'm guessing you're not actually as miserable as you come across online, but friendliness and confidence are very attractive qualities.
-And please don't go on about how much you love white girls. If you end up dating a white girl and you've told her that, it could really damage her self esteem. She will feel like you're only dating her because she's the only white girl who will have you, not because you actually like her.

Hey peeps. i just wanna say to those oriental dudes, that me being an Asian has attracted a lot of attention at skool a lot of the girls, actually asked me out. One started ushering me towards the toilets- i cringed, i was too shy back then .

So, yeah i've had a lot of white female attention, but I'm a bit laid back from it now. After coming into Uni.

Imagine a black chick and an asian dude made a baby!!

Kill it with fire.

You mean Lou jing :P


or Amerie




Admittedly these are the offspring of black male chinese female couples.

Obviously lying.

Admittedly these are the offspring of black male chinese female couples.

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4. No im not like this in real life.

5. I never tell people about my preferences unless they ask, in which case I never lie about it. I have gotten different reactions from "awwww" from a white girl to "" from an Oriental girl.

I dont see why that would damage her self esteem anyway. If I liked a white girl and she told me that she liked Oriental guys it would just raise mine.

'kay, so I wanted to disagree with the first half of what you said! Firstly, our hair's not necessarily weaker than that of other races. We just INSIST on doing things to it that other races do to theirs when our hair behaves in an opposite way and needs opposite handling. If you handle your hair the way it's supposed to be handled, then it's no weaker than anyone else's. Second: It's not more difficult to care for either. I feel like a lot of natural girls do WAAAY too much to their hair thinking that being natural= needing to spend 6 hours every day taking care of business! Not true. I spend the same amount of time doing my hair now as I did when I had it relaxed pin straight. Oh, and my hair's healthier.

The second part of what you said was pretty good though, it's sad that we aren't taught how to care for hair, and it's downright scary that what we're taught about hair care is completely and entirely opposite to what our hair actually needs, thus leaving us thinking that our hair is difficult and or ugly. Frankly, I was a girl who thought her hair had to be PERFECTLY straight or everyone would find me hideous. These days, I don't really give a crap what everyone finds, and surprise surprise, my hair's a lot nicer in its natural state.

As for the topic: Honestly, I think both groups are highly stereotyped and underrepresented aesthetically, but I couldn't tell you which is more so. As darker skinned girl myself, it does suck to find that you aren't considered pretty by the same media outlets your consumerist youth culture relies upon. *Sigh* it's been a tough road to self acceptance, but I mostly rely on my mirror: if I like what I see, everyone else can piss off.

Asian men are highly valued, particularly in mathematical and engineering circles.

I already said why. She will feel like you're only dating her because she's the only white girl who will have you, not because you actually like her. People want to be valued for who they are, not their skin colour.

Even though you say you're not like this in real life, I still think you need to be more confident. Everyone has setbacks. I know how frustrating it is when things seem much easier for other people, and it seems like what you want is never going to happen, but you just need to be confident that things will eventually work out. Since I started thinking that way things have got a lot better for me

I already said why. She will feel like you're only dating her because she's the only white girl who will have you, not because you actually like her. People want to be valued for who they are, not their skin colour.

Even though you say you're not like this in real life, I still think you need to be more confident. Everyone has setbacks. I know how frustrating it is when things seem much easier for other people, and it seems like what you want is never going to happen, but you just need to be confident that things will eventually work out. Since I started thinking that way things have got a lot better for me

By Asian do you mean Oriental or South Asian?

If you mean Oriental guys, then I would say its us.

Don't you think Mr Smurf is a bit prejudiced and superficial for pedastalising white girls. I mean white girls do look good but there are plenty of other attractive women from other races. What's wrong with Asian girls, Mr smurf?

I can sort of understand people having a preference for their own race, but when they start to prefer others it just smells a bit too much like self-hate for my liking.

Thanks

I was raised to just keep trying even when things seem hopeless anyway. So while it does seem like I will never attract a white girl, that doesnt mean that I wont try. My confidence would go up if I saw some Oriental guy-white girl couples, but I dont.