What It's Like To Have A Family Member Who Is Overweight...

pretty damn difficult to get fat on low fat food

i eat over 10000 calories a day of low fat stuff (fruit) and i still aint putting on much weight (i'm trying my hardest too, some guys giving a 10grand prize to anyone who can prove they got fat on fruit, its proving damn near impossible)

unless she's somehow packing in more food than me which is doubtful of 99% of the population of the world, then she didn't get fat without eating fatty stuff.

My husband is morbidly obese. It's hard, I'm his carer - without me he can't even have a wash or anything. But he's making an effort to lose it which is positive at least.

If you don't mind me asking, does this not bother you?

Yeah, I get what you mean. My Mum's the opposite she realises her mistake, but now she does all she can. But with her health problems like she has arthritis in her knee and varicose veins it's almost impossible for her to loose weight... I hope everything is okay with your Dad. I worry a lot in general, bur I've spoke to my Mum about this. And I guess... If something is going to happen, it's going to happen, so there's no point in worrying about it. Plus my Mum manages it well. Thanks for your story though, it's nice to hear.

I'm not sure whether to answer this sarcastically or not lol. It's tempting. Obviously it bothers me, it would bother any sane person!

Something that wouldn't agitate her knee might be swimming? It's so low impact.

My mum, aunts and a cousin (mostly mums side, maybe a few aunts on dad's side) are but they aren't obese or noticably bigger. My mum is mostly because of her thyroid, she still works full time, suppose middle aged spread and a lot of them didn't lose the weight they put on being pregnant counts for a lot of them.

Yeah, I get what you mean. My Mum's the opposite she realises her mistake, but now she does all she can. But with her health problems like she has arthritis in her knee and varicose veins it's almost impossible for her to loose weight... I hope everything is okay with your Dad. I worry a lot in general, bur I've spoke to my Mum about this. And I guess... If something is going to happen, it's going to happen, so there's no point in worrying about it. Plus my Mum manages it well. Thanks for your story though, it's nice to hear.

My mum (who is medically obese) has just been prescribed exercise and she's getting a swim membership for 12 weeks because of her rheumatoid arthritis in her ankles, knees, hips and fingers. I also have a condition in my knees and a separate one in my hands and we both love swimming together because virtually nothing hurts as long as they weren't hurting too much beforehand. So as long as she can actually swim (my best friend and my nan can't swim) then swimming might be a good option for your mum. Edit: You've said she can't swim and doesn't show her legs. Maybe she can get some sort of costume to cover her legs or wrap herself in a towel/sarong till she gets poolside then get in (nobody can see her legs under the water) and take a course for adults? Just a suggestion.
My dad is also very overweight and won't do anything about it, no matter how often we try to make him. He's started eating healthier because my mum's arthritis has gotten worse so he has to cook for her and it's easier to cook something like spag bol or sweet and sour chicken from scratch than do two ready meals, so that's kind of a start. I keep trying to 'trick' him into exercising, asking him if he'll walk with me to the shop when it's after dark because I'm worried about being attacked because I can't really run away and stuff like that, but he'd usually rather drive than walk the 5 minutes and it annoys me.

Ah, she can't swim... Plus she never shows her legs because she has vagarious veins...

I guess it sort of feels like a dead end. I honestly highly doubt the swimming idea will interest my Mum in any way, plus I don't know how to bring it up without it sounding wrong. She's eats healthy, but I guess it's a little too late, because once you have a certain amount of weight it's hard to shift.

I know quite a few people on here have said there parents eat a lot and make no attempt to change there diet, well my Mum is completely different as her diet is okay, but she just finds it hard to exercise...

A lot of my family is overweight, it doesn't bother me in the slightest, I love them to bits. I don't notice any of the small things, and If I did I wouldn't mind.

I would never judge anyone based on their lifestyle choices, of course if I thought they were going to get hurt, I'd let them know I was concerned. But if they choose to be overweight and don't want to do anything about it then that's fine with me

Sorry, I honestly didn't mean to offend you. I don't know how to explain what I meant... I guess I just wanted to hear other people's opinions. Like my Mum's overweight and it doesn't bother me, as I still love her. It's more other things. That what I meant. Sorry if I offended you.

I don't really know why I'm posting this, I guess I've always wondered if there others in the same position as me.

My Mum is rather "overweight". This doesn't bother me (but you're probably thinking it does bother me otherwise I wouldn't be writing this) because she's my Mum and that's how I see her.

A lot of people think people who are large don't work and claim benefits. This isn't true. My Mum has a job and always has had a job and we don't claim benefits.

I don't really know what others are going to think of this post. It's just small things... Like when we go on holiday the taxi has to be low so my Mum can climb in it. And when we go to the cinema's we sit in the middle rather than the top. It's nothing major.

She does try to loose weight, but it's not as simple as that. She doesn't eat any fatty foods but in the past before I was born she did... But now with the amount of tablets she takes, it's almost impossible for her to loose weight.

I don't know if anyone will read this, but if you can relate to this in any way, feel free to reply.

Thanks.

Everyone on my Dad's side of the family are overweight, it only bothers me when it begins to severely effect their health.

My dad is overweight and to be honest it's quite worrying. But sometimes annoying especially considering his health issues. The rest of my family isn't exactly the healthiest but it'd rather my dad lose weight first. The sad thing is, is that he doesn't really care. He'd still eat foods that are bad for him, try eating healthy then stop after a day.

Other than that, it doesn't really bother me. Though it is more difficult eating healthy - but I can manage.