[Anonymous]

I was meant to meet friend A at a bus stop, and join friend B in town today. We'd made plans a few days ago and friend A confirmed last night she'd meet me at the usual bus stop at 10am this morning.

I leave my phone charged overnight so didn't get friend A's text at 9am to reschedule (she said she wanted to go another day as she had work at 3 and would have to leave at 2) although she did previously tell us this and was ok with it.

I didn't check my phone that morning and waited at the stop for nearly half an hour before getting into town and deciding to wait where we were meant to meet up anyway, neither friend turned up and I did a bit of shopping before heading home.

I realised I should have had my phone on me but is it not rude to make last minute changes like this? Her text read "oh, we're meeting up at 4pm today because i've cancelled my shift. text me if you can come".

I wasn't free then, as I'd said I'd pick my younger sister up from gymnastics at 5pm.
I rang her when I got home at 4-ish and she said "oh i'm sorry. (she didn't sound sorry). well we've just ordered food now but we'll meet up again next week". I just said "ok well i waited for about 40 minutes in total at the stop and in town. but yeh let's meet up next week" and left it.

She's done this twice n a row. It's like she expects us to both change to suit her schedule. Pretty annoyed I had to spend nearly £5 on a return bus journey to town.

Anyone else have friends that are like this?

[Ladyliesel]

I've had a friend like this. For example - once we arranged to go to see a movie, then 7 minutes before we're meant to meet she calls to say she wanted to pop out and buy a new hairdryer. I said okay. When I arrive at our meeting place she doesn't appear and 10 minutes later I get a call saying that she wants to try the new thing out so will be late. It takes her 20 minutes normally to get to where I am so it's a long wait. When she finally gets there she says she wants to go back to her house to eat and come straight back. The showing times meant that we'd be at her house for 15 minutes if we rush to get the next one as we'd missed the first. I was pretty annoyed by her screwing around so refused. She'd already down similar 4 times before.

I wouldn't be furious about it once or twice but when it comes a habit it's certainly irritating. It may not feel like much but they're being selfish and forget other people have lives.