(Original post by redferry)
I'm not talking about the obvious things, like the pay gap, or women in sport etc etc.
I'm talking about the way we are brought up and this ingrained idea of 'female traits' and 'male traits, that is forced upon all of us from a very early age.
As a girl that has always struggled with female relationships from around the age of four, I always had male friends. Instead of ballet I went to football, much to my dads pleasure and mums disappointment, and I was always getting into scraps in the playground. As I have got older I have made some female friends, but has been a struggle.
As a girl the expectation is that you must be vulnerable, and show these vulnerabilities to other girls in order to enter into a friendship. As a result of severe bullying throughout my school-life I am unable to do this. This leaves the majority of female relationships closed to me.
Similarly, as a girl, 'banter' and joking does not go down well.
I have always been brought up to take the piss and it is amazing how many people of both genders take it far too seriously coming from a girl, when from a guy they just laugh it off. I have the same problem with the fact I am independant and outspoken. I get a lot of guys cutting me down in conversations, or cutting me out altogether.
An example of this was me taking the piss out of a friend of mine, his housemate turns to me and says 'Oh, she thinks she's funny, doesn't she
'. I would have though 21 year old male students had got past the point of finding independent outspoken females threatening, but apparently not.
Ingrained in both genders is the expectation of girls to be womanly, needy, vulnerable and most of all submissive. It is not immediately obvious to most as the majority have the fortune of fitting these stereotypes imposed upon them by society, but as someone who doesn't really fit the extent of this issue has recently become blindingly obvious. I have come to realise the reason I have always resented being born a girl, and the reason I have always struggled with relationships other than friendships with men (Despite all the male complaints about girls liking shopping and not football I've heard over the years, 99% of the male population would never date a girl that likes football and hates shopping seemingly).
I would also add that I am sure that the opposite is true for men, and this is equally as ****. Although In my experience girls are a lot more forgiving in terms of relationships with these types of guys, and in some case even prefer them.
Can anyone see this deep rooted sexism going away?
To what extent do people think this is an issue in society?