[Anonymous]

Im very insecure about how I look at the best of times, i suppose you could also say im pretty uptight and traditional, as in I dont believe in sex outside of a relationship (my personal opinion) would never sleep with somebody on first date, would like to be taken on dates 'wooed' before i went out with somebody blah blah.

The guy ive been with for 6 months has for the past month asked to send him pictures at first he asked if i would send him 'naughty/ sexy' photos, I know alot of girls do this for their boyfriends but im just not that kind of girl and I feel really uncomfortable with the idea, he obviously realiased that i didnt want to so asked for 'cute photos' i just dont want to take a photo of myself at all because i feel ugly and i look awful in photos, i told himthis and said id rather we have photos of us togther natural photos as i feel very out of my debth posing for pictures everytime he has asked he asks atleat twice a day i explain why i wont and all he says is ' you clearly hate me then'


Am i in the wrong?

[Chumbaniya]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Im very insecure about how I look at the best of times, i suppose you could also say im pretty uptight and traditional, as in I dont believe in sex outside of a relationship (my personal opinion) would never sleep with somebody on first date, would like to be taken on dates 'wooed' before i went out with somebody blah blah.

The guy ive been with for 6 months has for the past month asked to send him pictures at first he asked if i would send him 'naughty/ sexy' photos, I know alot of girls do this for their boyfriends but im just not that kind of girl and I feel really uncomfortable with the idea, he obviously realiased that i didnt want to so asked for 'cute photos' i just dont want to take a photo of myself at all because i feel ugly and i look awful in photos, i told himthis and said id rather we have photos of us togther natural photos as i feel very out of my debth posing for pictures everytime he has asked he asks atleat twice a day i explain why i wont and all he says is ' you clearly hate me then'

Am i in the wrong?

In an ideal world you'd be able to work on your feelings about the way you look and gain some confidence, but this can be a difficult and lengthy process. Your boyfriend isn't out of line in asking about getting photos of you, but he definitely shouldn't be constantly nagging you about it, and the fact he's attempting to guilt trip you over it suggests that he feels getting a relatively insignificant thing that he wants is more important than your feelings.

If you haven't done so already, make yourself very clear about how you feel, and if he continues to pressure you with no regard for the way you feel, I'd begin to question how much he cares about you. I don't think it's worth being in a relationship with someone who is so needy about getting photos of you that he is prepared to belittle you over the body image issues you have, but obviously this is a decision you need to make for yourself.

[ratherchloe]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Im very insecure about how I look at the best of times, i suppose you could also say im pretty uptight and traditional, as in I dont believe in sex outside of a relationship (my personal opinion) would never sleep with somebody on first date, would like to be taken on dates 'wooed' before i went out with somebody blah blah.

The guy ive been with for 6 months has for the past month asked to send him pictures at first he asked if i would send him 'naughty/ sexy' photos, I know alot of girls do this for their boyfriends but im just not that kind of girl and I feel really uncomfortable with the idea, he obviously realiased that i didnt want to so asked for 'cute photos' i just dont want to take a photo of myself at all because i feel ugly and i look awful in photos, i told himthis and said id rather we have photos of us togther natural photos as i feel very out of my debth posing for pictures everytime he has asked he asks atleat twice a day i explain why i wont and all he says is ' you clearly hate me then'


Am i in the wrong?

"I don't want to take photos of myself because it makes me feel insecure, I'd rather we just took some pics together "

"WELL CLEARLY YOU HATE ME"

I don't understand his logic

[MancBoy]

Unless you're married to the guy I would suggest not to send them. Imagine if you break up? Your vagina will be beaten off to by men around the world.

[Staceycake]

You're not wrong at all. If he is trying to guilt you into taking and sending them, should you really stay with him and could you trust him?
He should be making you feel comfortable about yourself not trying to force you to do something you're so uncomfortable with.

[For The Love Of Giraffe]

He doesn't sound like he really is willing to understand your view at all. Instead of being supportive, he is just nagging you for the photos and trying to guilt you by saying rubbish like 'So you must hate me then'.

Tbh, I wouldn't stand for that. If you have told him that you don't want to send the pictures and have explained why, then he should respect that and try to help you with your confidence issues, rather than make you feel worse. You shouldn't send those pictures if it's something that you're not comfortable with and tbh, I would only in a long-term relationship where I really trust and love the guy. If you break up and he has those photos, they could end up anywhere, so you need to be CERTAIN that you trust the guy completely. There are so many horror stories of pictures like that being leaked out, so please do not do it if you don't want to and if he keeps pressing, he doesn't care about your view enough. Just tell him that you've said no once and that you're not going to change your mind and if anything, the nagging if probably even more off-putting.

[xXHolly_90Xx]

if you dont want to then you shouldnt have to!