(Original post by sammyria)
I get what you mean about the course but I think you just need to try and stick with it. I've had this sort of experience all through my education, hell I took last year out and self taught for A-Level retakes.
The concerns we all have have been voiced to Callum and the course reps, so there isn't really any more we can do about that. Have you tried speaking to your LSR and Criminal tutors? My LSR is pretty obtuse but the criminal guy was really helpful with this critical perspectives stuff before we broke up.
I'd say if you have time this holiday, once you've managed to get the essays out of the way, have a look over your notes and the text books and make note of any particular areas that you need to work on. Like ones you think you could get with a bit of reading, and then others which you're completely lost on. Then take the ones your really struggling with to your tutors and see if they can help. We've only got a couple more contract tutorials, and at least one of those is revision so I'd bring up any contract related issues sooner rather than later.
With regards to the social side I understand what you mean but a lot of people are in your position. The fact that you didn't get halls isn't too much of an issue, to be honest I never speak with my flatmates, and the halls I'm in aren't social so I don't really know anyone in my halls. I've made a really good friend in my tutorial group, but that took a while. You need to get to know what everyone is like and who you think you'll get on with best. At the start of the year I sat with a completely different group of people but they weren't really my sort of people so as I got know different people I switched groups- ok not really groups seeing as including me we are a threesome that sit together, but I suppose anything more than one is a group. It takes time to get to know people and find out who suits you.
Outside the course I've really only got one close friend, and I'm living with them and their flatmates next year. I'm not a clubbing sort of person so I didn't do a lot during freshers but I met this person at one thing I did go to. I don't really know any of the other people I'll be living with next year, I've met them a couple of times but I don't think it really matters. We don't know who will be staying in the house the year after, we all might decide we don't want to live together. I don't think you should worry too much, everyone is on such different timetables if you don't get on it's not too hard to avoid people.
One thing I have found on our course is that a lot of people are quite anti-social. In one of the first few weeks I got to our lecture really early, before anyone I knew so I sat slap bang in the middle of a row on my own. And what did people do? They left empty seats either side of me!
I'd say don't fret too much about the social side of things for now, try to get out to some things if you fancy but don't force yourself because you won't have fun. I'd try to focus on the academic side of things, see if you can sort yourself out in that respect then at least you have one thing going, you can make it to September without too many friends but if you don't pass you won't be coming back.
I plan to join all of the societies I was too scared to at the start of next year and make a real effort to get to know some more people. I don't know if our tutor groups change next year but we might get to meet different people that way.
Or you can always just try to tag onto a group. God knows me and my friends wish people would be a bit more welcoming instead of being content to sit in their little groups- and we're all too shy to introduce ourselves. Why not just go up to a group of people in lectures, ask if the seat next to them is free and introduce yourself if it bothers you. There are plenty of people who sit on their own why not just take the leap, I know I sat there for the whole of that lecture wishing someone had spoken to me...
Damn this turned out long! Oh well the long and short of it, don't worry, but if it really bothers you try to take the leap. Good luck with everything, maybe I'll see you in lectures.
I must stop procrasinating with my essays now.