Would you marry outside your social class ?

Threads like this really bug me.

Why does a persons class, race, age, gender etc matter? If you are attracted to someone, you like them and you want to be with them and vice versa, then none of the above matter in the slightest.

Some people just need to take the pole from out of their bum and realise there's so much more to life.

If you want an intelligent partner you're less likely to find one who is working class, in my experience. I am working class and the quality of people here is generally lower, most of the people I grew up with are either in prison (or have been), on the dole or in council flats and houses with young kids and they are in their early 20s. None of the people I grew up with were particularly smart. Education is not good here.

I've met some intelligent working class women but it's rare for me to find one and as a general rule of thumb, middle class women or women who come from better backgrounds are more intelligent, probably because they've had a better education. It's not set in stone and I'd date a woman of any class if I liked her but it's the truth. And intelligence is very important to me and probably the most attractive trait in a woman.

I generally get on better with people who are working class though (btw I'm not really a fan of "class" but it is what it is).

IA but I think the reason for this is because of compatibility. So people would find someone of a different race/age/class/gender etc incompatible. So, for example, someone of a middle class background might find themselves incompatible with someone of a working class backgroud.

That is a hypothetical situation which has no relevance because it is just that...hypothetical. People don't date over the phone. Even when online dating, you'll have a certain idea of a person's social status through their profile (suffice to say they're honest). And both these situations make up a marginal part of dating, and is probably not what the OP had in mind.

Every time you meet someone, you have an idea about their social status, even if it is subconsciously. If I meet someone from my home country, I'll be able to tell within 5 seconds what 'part' of society they belong to. That is not judgment, that's how everybody is, at least those with remotely good observation skills. It's the same thing as observing someone is good-looking or not, elegant or not, charismatic or not, introverted or extroverted. You can choose whether you think those things matter, but you will always notice. You cannot say social class is a factor people care about or not, because it's not ONE factor, it's made up of plenty of things. Being 'upper class' carries with it a HUGE number of things (positive and negative), to such an extent that if a guy or a girl only dates upper class people, I wouldn't hold it against them. They know what work for them.

I will naturally surround myself with people of the same social status (from my neighborhood, my private uni, my sports club). I could choose to go outside of that to deliberately find a guy of a different background, or I could choose to deliberately seek out those few guys from school who happens to be from less fortunate families. But speaking from experience, that gives no particular profit, at least not to be worth the effort.

Yes but not everyone thinks like you thats why i am asking .
Some might say that people from a certain class have more in common with their own class

Depends on their personality. My mum was brought up in a working class background, my dad was definitely middle-class, they've been doing fine for the past 18 years, and long may it continue. The important thing is that you have the same values. But I don't think any working class person would want to go out with me, my accent sounds quite posh. It's not that bad really, but when you're surrounded by people with different accents it's quite obvious. I imagine that would turn off a lot of guys. My friend describes me as a "posh Tory bird". Which I find amusing because I'm no more posh than anyone in my town. But anyway, back on topic. No, I wouldn't mind, but if I married someone who was working class I suppose I'd feel guilty somehow for having a more priveleged upbringing. It's only an issue if you make it one though.

Threads like this really bug me.

Why does a persons class, race, age, gender etc matter? If you are attracted to someone, you like them and you want to be with them and vice versa, then none of the above matter in the slightest.

Some people just need to take the pole from out of their bum and realise there's so much more to life.

Well said

Are you trying to say only one class can be considered intellectual? I presume your middle class. I can assure you that there are working class girls who are intellectual as well.

OP - I don't really buy into the idea of marriage, but an individual's class doesn't change my perception of them and wouldn't prevent me forming a relationship with them.

Would I? Yeap. Will I? Probably not

Aspiring upper-middle I guess (snap)

My own background is a mixture of North/South (parents family's based up North vs. I was born/raised in London), working class Catholic mother's side (descended from hard drinking Irish immigrants) vs. upper-middle class father's side (double-barreled super-rich Scottish merchant ancestry), and a mixture of state/private education. When you come from a mixed background you're probably more open to the notion of class transcendence/can conceive of class as becoming less and less relevant, and more fluid in a temporal sense