[SciFiRory]

(Original post by LifeIsGood)
So take it easier and slow down but don't stop and just give up. Wake up to reality changes are hard work and there are no quick fixes so stop expecting to feel better without putting a conscious effort into your goals. Exercise doesn't matter for looks it's for health. I don't care what anyone says about the way I look but if I wasn't comfortable I'd go and change not complain about it. This post seems harsh but I think you need to be told the truth rather than us to convince you

I have MENTAL health issues, my physical health, even though I think I need to lose weight as I have said is actually perfectly fine, other than my ear that is, but that has 0 to do with my diet or anything else like that so...

this is what people just seem to refuse to understand: I don't see the point, if I do then im sure I will lose weight, but it's not negatively effecting my health right now and I have much bigger and more immediate mental health issues im working through...

[Jaydiee]

(Original post by Drewski)
Says who? Why? Where is the rule of life saying that people absolutely have to be paired up?

As much as I appreciate you two trying to be friendly and helpful, lines like this are entirely meaningless. Plenty of people remain single all their life. never get married, never have kids. Where is it written that I can't be one of them?

I know plenty of people stay single but I just think that you possess many good qualities (or the few I've seen in your posts on here) that someone will find attractive and that one day, possibly , you will change your mind. I'm not saying it will happen in 5 or 10 years, heck you might even be 65 before you find someone.


I don't think I have any more to contribute to this because I'm single and not really looking, so I can't preach to anyone

[morris743]

[Drewski]

(Original post by SciFiBoy)
it's one thing that bothers me...as part of a wider thing of feeling ugly...I like how people all focus in on it though, cause that's what matters in our society, not the mental health issues, not the emotional problems, not the person I am, NO NO NO **** all that, he thinks he is fat so he must lose weight and idolise the idea of looking like vacous **** **** celebs we all worship in society.

I want to feel better, but why people focus ALWAYS on this pisses me off even more than it helps tbh.

sorry about the angry ranting btw, but stuff like this just really ticks me off, it's nothing personal, just society and **** in general's attitude to these things irks me.

Can you not see their point in the sense that all of the issues have some crossover? Feeling better physically helps you feel better mentally. Because you don't do the exercise you don't get the natural endorphins released that make you feel good mentally.... ?

[SciFiRory]

(Original post by Stray_talk)
Can you not use that hate to fuel a desire to work towards a better mindset of how you view yourself? Use that anger and passion towards something productive.
There are people who view things that shallowly but it can also be detrimental to your health.

how? I live in a ****ty world full of ****ty things and ****ty people who have all the power and money...how does that help me at all? it just makes me angry tbh.

I channel most of my anger and **** at myself already (you really don't want to know how this manifests itself at times trust me)

I know it can be detrimental to my health...as if im not bombarded by that on every tv channel and in every newspaper/magazine I care to read...in our society you can't not be aware of that...like I said I have no physical health issues though, yes I am overweight and at some point I probably will want to do something about that, but right now I have much bigger concerns about my mental health...

[SciFiRory]

(Original post by Drewski)
Can you not see their point in the sense that all of the issues have some crossover? Feeling better physically helps you feel better mentally. Because you don't do the exercise you don't get the natural endorphins released that make you feel good mentally.... ?

I do see the crossover, I would just much rather come at it from the opposite direction (i.e making myself feel better mentally to the point where I want to lose weight and see the point in doing so...), my mental health issues effect me far more than my being overweight (which in fact has never impacted on my actual physical health at all, heck I know my vitals are good cause they showed me when I was in hospital for my ear...)

[Drewski]

(Original post by Jaydiee)
I know plenty of people stay single but I just think that you possess many good qualities (or the few I've seen in your posts on here) that someone will find attractive and that one day, possibly , you will change your mind. I'm not saying it will happen in 5 or 10 years, heck you might even be 65 before you find someone.

I don't think I have any more to contribute to this because I'm single and not really looking, so I can't preach to anyone

See. 'Possibly'. Not certain. And right now, I neither know nor care. Done.

(Original post by Stray_talk)
Sure, if you want to see it that way.

Well, you've not convinced me that there's anything I'm missing so far!

[Stray_talk]

(Original post by SciFiBoy)
how? I live in a ****ty world full of ****ty things and ****ty people who have all the power and money...how does that help me at all? it just makes me angry tbh.

I channel most of my anger and **** at myself already (you really don't want to know how this manifests itself at times trust me)

I know it can be detrimental to my health...as if im not bombarded by that on every tv channel and in every newspaper/magazine I care to read...in our society you can't not be aware of that...like I said I have no physical health issues though, yes I am overweight and at some point I probably will want to do something about that, but right now I have much bigger concerns about my mental health...

The world is not entirely like that. Being overweight is a physical health issue. I appreciate that your mental health is more important but the two are linked, working on one will help the other.

[Spontogical]

I've read every post so far tonight. I'm going to bed but I have a question..

What qualities do you people look for in a partner.

[morris743]

(Original post by Spontogical)
I've read every post so far tonight. I'm going to bed but I have a question..

What qualities do you people look for in a partner.

Nobody from this thread?

[Stray_talk]

(Original post by Drewski)


Well, you've not convinced me that there's anything I'm missing so far!

I'm not trying to convince you. I'm merely providing an alternative option to what you see.
I know better than to persuade you otherwise

[Drewski]

(Original post by SciFiBoy)
I do see the crossover, I would just much rather come at it from the opposite direction (i.e making myself feel better mentally to the point where I want to lose weight and see the point in doing so...), my mental health issues effect me far more than my being overweight (which in fact has never impacted on my actual physical health at all, heck I know my vitals are good cause they showed me when I was in hospital for my ear...)

They're two sides of the same circle, you can get round either way.

And, as much as I'm no doctor, the line that being overweight isn't negatively affecting your health, is, I'm afraid wrong. Yeah, your vitals might be ok now, but they're just the topsheet. Deep down there is an effect; life expectancy, susceptibility to other illnesses... it all adds up

[LifeIsGood]

(Original post by SciFiBoy)
how? I live in a ****ty world full of ****ty things and ****ty people who have all the power and money...how does that help me at all? it just makes me angry tbh.

I channel most of my anger and **** at myself already (you really don't want to know how this manifests itself at times trust me)

I know it can be detrimental to my health...as if im not bombarded by that on every tv channel and in every newspaper/magazine I care to read...in our society you can't not be aware of that...like I said I have no physical health issues though, yes I am overweight and at some point I probably will want to do something about that, but right now I have much bigger concerns about my mental health...

That's an excuse because everyone is dealing with everything. It's negative here it's negative there but people who are off worse make something positive don't see why you're different. Apologies for disregarding the mental health issues but even then changing your daily routine so youre not sitting wasting time feeling sorry for yourself, try to focus on rebuilding yourself. If you had another life what would you like from it? If it seems out of reach it doesn't matter because its just visualisation

[Drewski]

(Original post by Stray_talk)
I'm not trying to convince you. I'm merely providing an alternative option to what you see.
I know better than to persuade you otherwise

Yeah, but every time you say "what you see" makes me feel as though you're saying I'm deliberately not seeing it just to wind you up.

[Jaydiee]

(Original post by Drewski)
See. 'Possibly'. Not certain. And right now, I neither know nor care. Done.

All I said was that everyone deserves a chance to have a relationship. That included you Mr Drew.

[Stray_talk]

(Original post by Drewski)
Yeah, but every time you say "what you see" makes me feel as though you're saying I'm deliberately not seeing it just to wind you up.

I got over that way back, Drewfus. I'm not so big-headed to make this about me. Although I'm sure morris would disagree...
Just suggesting what you truly believe about yourself, which has been like this for so long, may not be the sole way.

[LifeIsGood]

(Original post by Spontogical)
I've read every post so far tonight. I'm going to bed but I have a question..

What qualities do you people look for in a partner.

Kind as in genuinely caring for others and putting others first it just shows a lot of consideration and not always thinking of yourself first which is new. Someone who has drive and ambition, someone who dreams big and makes things happen. A lovely personality and someone who I feel comfortable with

[Mr Smurf]

(Original post by Spontogical)
I've read every post so far tonight. I'm going to bed but I have a question..

What qualities do you people look for in a partner.

Looks or personality wise?

[tehFrance]

Evening guys....

Just been hearing about a guy that got cock-blocked (x5) by a girl he was at a club with... they aren't even dating I feel so sorry for whoever the guy was though

[Drewski]

(Original post by Jaydiee)

All I said was that everyone deserves a chance to have a relationship. That included you Mr Drew.

nah, said already that I don't deserve owt

(Original post by Stray_talk)
I got over that way back, Drewfus. I'm not so big-headed to make this about me. Although I'm sure morris would disagree...
Just suggesting what you truly believe about yourself, which has been like this for so long, may not be the sole way.

It's not the sole way. If it was, I wouldn't need to explain it to people as they'd all feel it too. It's just my way.