Is it 'pedestrian' not to have particular sexual fetishes or fantasies?

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  • View Poll Results: Is it 'pedestrian' not to have particular sexual fetishes or fantasies?
    (male respondent): "YES"
    10 20.83%
    (male respondent):" NO"
    13 27.08%
    (female respondent): "YES"
    10 20.83%
    (female respondent): "NO"
    15 31.25%

  1. Foo.mp3's Avatar
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    Is it 'pedestrian' not to have particular sexual fetishes or fantasies?
    Pretty much what it says on the tin..

    I've been told this by a lover (in jest). I'm a simple creature, content just to smash it

    Out of curiosity/boredom, does that make me 'pedestrian' as far as y'all are concerned?
    Last edited by Foo.mp3; 11-04-2012 at 11:27.
  2. cgraham15's Avatar
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    Re: Is it 'pedestrian' not to have particular sexual fetishes or fantasies?
    a what?
    :confused:
  3. Schmokie Dragon's Avatar
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    Re: Is it 'pedestrian' not to have particular sexual fetishes or fantasies?
    I'd use the term 'vanilla' but that's not a value judgement. It's just a way of saying you're not into kinky sex, you don't enjoy BDSM and you don't have any fetishes.
  4. Tahooper's Avatar
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    Re: Is it 'pedestrian' not to have particular sexual fetishes or fantasies?
    I think most people will have some form of fetish, they just might not realise it.
  5. Lucia.'s Avatar
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    Re: Is it 'pedestrian' not to have particular sexual fetishes or fantasies?
    Surely everyone has a bit of kink?
  6. lilywolf's Avatar
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    Re: Is it 'pedestrian' not to have particular sexual fetishes or fantasies?
    Genuinely find it a hard to imagine sex without at least a little kink.
  7. Nice Marmite's Avatar
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    Re: Is it 'pedestrian' not to have particular sexual fetishes or fantasies?
    You have a fetish for people that walk on the curb?
  8. Herr's Avatar
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    Re: Is it 'pedestrian' not to have particular sexual fetishes or fantasies?
    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Pretty much what it says on the tin..

    I've been told this by a lover (in jest). I'm a simple creature, content just to smash it

    Out of curiosity/boredom, does that make me 'pedestrian' as far as y'all are concerned?
    Not big into kinks or fetishes..... rather just get on with it and do something else after that.........like making money
  9. Ben_LiveYourDreams's Avatar
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    Re: Is it 'pedestrian' not to have particular sexual fetishes or fantasies?
    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Pretty much what it says on the tin..

    I've been told this by a lover (in jest). I'm a simple creature, content just to smash it

    Out of curiosity/boredom, does that make me 'pedestrian' as far as y'all are concerned?
    The thing is, lots of people will have dif ideas about what being 'pedestrian' is.

    I don't have any 'hardcore' fetishes, i.e wouldn't anal a girl.

    But then again, big on foreplay and trying new positions etc.

    Also big into sensual things, massages and the like.

    So I'd hardly consider myself pedestrian, but I also wouldn't say that I'm really experimental/looking to 'push boundaries'.
  10. polaroid13's Avatar
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    Re: Is it 'pedestrian' not to have particular sexual fetishes or fantasies?
    As long as you're willing to try stuff, it's fine. Maybe you haven't discovered what your kinky desires are yet :P
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  12. BKS's Avatar
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    Re: Is it 'pedestrian' not to have particular sexual fetishes or fantasies?
    Even if it's not really a kink surely everyone has to have fantasies? Or just things they are particularly into or want to try. Some of mine are full more full scenes, some are just little details. But having those things I'm into make sex fun and interested. Sex as substandard as it comes is all well and good but some variety in life is need.

    I'm not sure I'd say pedestrian. But I'd find you boring as hell to be with
  13. Foo.mp3's Avatar
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    Re: Is it 'pedestrian' not to have particular sexual fetishes or fantasies?
    (Original post by Nice Marmite)
    You have a fetish for people that walk on the curb?
    You could say that.. seeing as most of those who do the reverse are either 6ft under, horribly mangled or live in the developing world.. :holmes:
  14. Sophiemaybabe's Avatar
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    Re: Is it 'pedestrian' not to have particular sexual fetishes or fantasies?
    i think its a bit boring if youre with someone for a while and you have sex often. it becomes predictable. i like someone that will mix it up alot

    xx
  15. Foo.mp3's Avatar
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    Re: Is it 'pedestrian' not to have particular sexual fetishes or fantasies?
    (Original post by Herr)
    Not big into kinks or fetishes..... rather just get on with it and do something else after that.........like making money
    I'm not that extreme! Although I am quite a functional/non-romantic person. I guess I'm just content with the lovers I have and don't feel any need to enhance it/them, or make it any darker
  16. ForKicks's Avatar
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    Re: Is it 'pedestrian' not to have particular sexual fetishes or fantasies?
    Meh, happy with being a bit too vanilla. Each to their own!
  17. sweeter than a cherry pie's Avatar
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    Re: Is it 'pedestrian' not to have particular sexual fetishes or fantasies?
    (Original post by Ben_LiveYourDreams)
    I don't have any 'hardcore' fetishes, i.e wouldn't anal a girl.
    I thought anal was pretty mainstream these days?

    Also, loving that all the girls so far have been at least a little kinky, and the guys haven't seemed to be at all.
  18. Foo.mp3's Avatar
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    Re: Is it 'pedestrian' not to have particular sexual fetishes or fantasies?
    (Original post by Ben_LiveYourDreams)
    I don't have any 'hardcore' fetishes, i.e wouldn't anal a girl
    Aye me either. One girl I’ve been with has broached the subject of anal and effectively offered it, and two others (American chicks) have hinted that we could give it a shot, but I'm not bothered

    Again it’s a case of things being/feeling ‘rewarding’ enough as they are, rather than me being particularly anti spicing things up/trying new things..
  19. RichyFrench's Avatar
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    Re: Is it 'pedestrian' not to have particular sexual fetishes or fantasies?
    I'm willing to try pretty much anything and I find new sexual experiences exciting. I don't care how weird things might be seen by other people, I'm uninhibited and that's what I value most in a sexual partner. If there's a chance something gives sexual pleasure, I'm gonna try it.
  20. Foo.mp3's Avatar
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    Re: Is it 'pedestrian' not to have particular sexual fetishes or fantasies?
    (Original post by polaroid13)
    As long as you're willing to try stuff, it's fine. Maybe you haven't discovered what your kinky desires are yet :P
    I am up to a point aye, and I suppose I’m naturally a little ‘kinky’ in that I am quite domineering and physical with girls – but I don’t really have particular fetishes or fantasies..
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