How do you feel if someone calls you spoiled?
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Re: How do you feel if someone calls you spoiled?I don't generally have this problem... I don't wear fancy clothes and (until probably tomorrow) use a really old and cheap phone. I have a few expensive things, but these are rare purchases where I've paid for a lot of it myself. My parents don't give me a lot of money to live off compared to some people I know, or pay for non-essential items when they easily could.
But hypothetically if someone were to call me spoilt then it wouldn't really affect me, I know they're wrong and that's their problem, not mine. -
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Re: How do you feel if someone calls you spoiled?"Spoiled" seems to mean different things - the two main meanings appear to be (1) "you've been given some cool stuff I haven't been given, so you're spoiled" (eg, common or garden envy) and (2) "you're not a very good person because you get lots you didn't work for and you don't have a nice attitude." (some envy but more objective)
My parents are generous with me and my sister and we don't want for anything, but I don't feel it would be fair to describe me as "spoiled" because I don't think I've developed a bad attitude to people just by having some nice things "easy" and by not having to work hard for quite a nice lifestyle for someone my age. On the other hand, someone seeing me from outside might conclude that I'm somewhat "spoiled by it" as presumably it does affect my perceptions of the world around me.
It doesn't have to turn out that indulged or "well-treated" kid = "spoiled kid" but I suppose it happens often enough that people reach for the label. Sometimes it's wrong though. I've known people through school for example who are from very wealthy backgrounds and really have a lot of lovely things and advantages given to them with no effort on their part and yet are still decent, caring people. A lot of it is your family's values and way of living. -
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Re: How do you feel if someone calls you spoiled?I'm spoiled quite a lot by my mum as she earns well. She doesn't seem too bothered about teaching me the value of money, and she will buy me most things I want (within reason). There's a big difference between being a good mother and being a like-able mother, and sometimes I wish she'd do stuff that will piss me off but teach me something, rather than me liking her but not learning anything from her. I wish she'd spend more on herself too.
