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    I didn't really know where to place this, sorry. Going for health because I'm starting to think I'm not mentally well.

    Anyway, I hate life basically. This mundane routine that I seem to be stuck in. A path of loneliness, I've lost all my friends and I have no-one now. I do the same thing everyday, and I find it so painful and dull. I find myself taking sleeping tablets at around 6pm, so that I don't have to endure the lonely night. I even took some as soon as I woke up the other day, because sleep is the only time I can escape my feelings. As soon as I wake up I'm upset again.

    I have an appointment with the uni counsellor, but the wait is like three months. I'm finding it quite hard to cope. I'm really not comfortable with being on medication for my feelings. I don't like that, it just sounds so unnatural.

    I think at the end of the day I feel so ****ing lonely, I have no-one in my life but my boyfriend, and I'm very grateful for him but he has his own friends and his own life so he can't always be there.

    Honestly don't know what to do. I just want to runaway from all this, but I don't have enough money to.

    Don't know why I posted this thread. Sorry. I just need to talk
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    Going to see the uni counsellor sounds like the best thing you can do right now. Don't know what advice to offer apart from to remember that thousands of people have felt like you do right now, and have gotten out of it, so don't give up hope I know it's what everyone says but....could you not take up some new hobbies to make some new friends? Even something like zumba, or getting a job? Also if you got a job you could make some money and go travelling or something, you would make loads of friends and might make you feel more positive about life.
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    I didn't really know where to place this, sorry. Going for health because I'm starting to think I'm not mentally well.

    Anyway, I hate life basically. This mundane routine that I seem to be stuck in. A path of loneliness, I've lost all my friends and I have no-one now. I do the same thing everyday, and I find it so painful and dull. I find myself taking sleeping tablets at around 6pm, so that I don't have to endure the lonely night. I even took some as soon as I woke up the other day, because sleep is the only time I can escape my feelings. As soon as I wake up I'm upset again.

    I have an appointment with the uni counsellor, but the wait is like three months. I'm finding it quite hard to cope, I feel like there is no hope in my life or reason for living. I'm having quite bad thoughts about life, if you know what I mean. I'm really not comfortable with being on medication for my feelings. I don't like that, it just sounds so unnatural.

    I think at the end of the day I feel so ****ing lonely, I have no-one in my life but my boyfriend, and I'm very grateful for him but he has his own friends and his own life so he can't always be there.

    Honestly don't know what to do. I just want to runaway from all this, but I don't have enough money to.

    Don't know why I posted this thread. Sorry. I just need to talk
    wat about talking to parents? they can support u cant they
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    The answer is not to escape reality. The solution is to improve reality, trust me...

    Get an objective, figure out why you want it, visualise how thinks will work out, implement the plan <3 (and when thinks get bad visualise what you visualised :L)

    Ive made it through some *******s times thanks to me keeping sight of the end goal to be an RAF REGIMENT officer

    again if you need to talk PM meh cos i can see this thread either going very good or degenerating into a pile of rep whoring ****.
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    Definately think a job would help, even if it was just a couple of hours a week or voluntary whilst looking for paid work. Its a great way to meet people and use up your spare time whilst looking good on your cv and (hopefully) making money. Also, you should consider seeing a doctor as that wait is very long. I personally don't like the idea of taking medication for feelings either but my best friend suffered from such bad depression (post natal but she described it very similarly to you) and as she also didn't want to treat it, it got way out of hand. After getting the right medication and counselling she's back to her old self luckily.
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    I've been in a... similar position.

    I developed an eating disorder, left uni (hated the end of the course, would have been ejected on health grounds, etc), lost most of my friends due to social sides of the brain shrinking with that sorta thing, etc. I became... not depressed, but sad. Very sad. Also I suffered from anxiety. >__>' Good times.

    But planning helps. Plan what you want to do with your life. Don't know what to do? Look at what gives you a little buzz. From art to writing to cooking to computer programming, etc.

    Next plan how you will achieve that. Do stuff in the middle. Do things you enjoy. Find people on the same level. As senator88 said, explore! Join clubs, societies, groups, gaggles (of geese?)...

    But you must realise that any change won't happen magically, you have to make it happen. If you need to talk, talk. Talk till your mouth goes numb, but please, you have to get the drive to make your OWN life better.
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    I feel like this too, would rep but got none left. I feel that the life i am leading now is pointless
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    :console: I know how you feel. Good luck with the counsellor, and if you do want someone to chat to, feel free to PM me
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    I'm really sorry you're feeling this way, it must be hard. :hugs:

    You say you're taking sleeping tablets. I guess you got them from the Doctor and if so have you talked to him about how you feel? He/she may be able to help you and point you in the direction of other help?

    Please don't run away. There are people who care for you. The other TSR members and I care about you enough to help and comfort you, and we haven't even met you!

    I had depression about 5 years ago, I understand how it can feel but there is a way out whether you can see it now or not. Is there a passion in your life? Something secret that you've never told anyone about and always wanted to do it? You can do that in your lifetime if you just hang in there!
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    I have experienced similar feelings to this and been in a very similar situation. I lost a lot of my friends (by 'fallouts' which to this day I still don't understand..) or simply drifting. For a long time, I also felt my boyfriend was the only person I could turn to, but I didn't want to hassle him or drag him away from his friends and hobbies.

    All I can say is hang in there. There are so many people who have experienced, or are experiencing, the feelings that you currently are. Just remember that things can and will get better. I am still working my way out of my little rut, and it is tough. I still have days where I just wake up feeling so alone and I just want to sleep or cry all day. But I did some things to try and improve my quality of life and to try to help turn this around. E.g I took up a new hobby and put more effort into exercising more (I started swimming again because it was something I always enjoyed, but even something little like going for walks will really help) because it just does wonders for your wellbeing. I also got a job (I dislike it, but it helps me socialise and stops me from sitting in home all day doing nothing).

    It may not be a quick process..I advise that until you can get access to counselling, then use the support you do have. Your boyfriend is one, but remember that us TSR members are always here. You can PM me, talk to me via facebook,whatever you like. I hope you feel much better soon :hugs:
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    (Original post by Airfairy)
    I have no-one in my life but my boyfriend
    Read this, lost sympathy for you.

    1) You aren't really alone. a significant other is probably worth 5 friends. many truly lonely people would kill for a relationship. You know, someone who loves them to spend all their time with so they aren't lonely.

    2) If you managed to get a boyfriend then obviously you can make friends your probably not trying hard enough. Which brings me on to my last point.

    3) The amount of girls I see on here whining "waah i'm so lonely got no friends always on my own.....except for my boyfriend who I spend loads of time with and he loves me lots" leads me to think that you did what a lot of couples do and got so wrapped up in each other that you drove away all your friends.
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    Meh, sometimes I feel the same, but then the next morning its all good...
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    It's bad advice and a bad soloution perhaps even a false one but drinking generally eases these kinds of feelings for at least awhile.
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    (Original post by sexbo)
    Read this, lost sympathy for you.

    1) You aren't really alone. a significant other is probably worth 5 friends. many truly lonely people would kill for a relationship. You know, someone who loves them to spend all their time with so they aren't lonely.

    2) If you managed to get a boyfriend then obviously you can make friends your probably not trying hard enough. Which brings me on to my last point.

    3) The amount of girls I see on here whining "waah i'm so lonely got no friends always on my own.....except for my boyfriend who I spend loads of time with and he loves me lots" leads me to think that you did what a lot of couples do and got so wrapped up in each other that you drove away all your friends.
    That is absolutely not like me at all. We don't see each other that much and we very much lead separate lives. I know you probably don't believe me, but I do know the type of people you are talking about, and I'm not one of them. I do realise how lucky I am to have him, but like I said, I don't see him all that much. We aren't inseparable or anything, and we don't have the type of relationship where I can spend all my time feeling lonely with him.


    Anyway thank you for the replies users. I went to the doctors the next day. Well my mum forced me there actually, after seeing me break down and getting worried about me. Doctor referred me to counselling, but the waiting list is quite long so I've booked in for a private counsellor on Monday, who I'm hoping can help me!
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    (Original post by Airfairy)
    That is absolutely not like me at all. We don't see each other that much and we very much lead separate lives. I know you probably don't believe me, but I do know the type of people you are talking about, and I'm not one of them. I do realise how lucky I am to have him, but like I said, I don't see him all that much. We aren't inseparable or anything, and we don't have the type of relationship where I can spend all my time feeling lonely with him.
    Well get another boyfriend then. What's the point in having a bf if you hardly talk to each other? My other point still stands about if you have enough social skills to get a bf you have enough social skills to make friends. Me now, I don't talk to my family, I don't have a girlfriend and I have no friends. Now that's real loneliness not your "I got family and a bf but still feel lonely because I'm so emotionally needy" loneliness.
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    I've been there before. Took a year off from Uni. Had a big think about my life. It's amazing how not having a routine and just doing what you want to do for a while gives you space to breathe and think about things in the right way...

    ... And then there's the time to 'get back up on that horse' and start the first day of the rest of your wonderful life - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RYlCV...layer_embedded


    (Original post by Airfairy)
    I didn't really know where to place this, sorry. Going for health because I'm starting to think I'm not mentally well.

    Anyway, I hate life basically. This mundane routine that I seem to be stuck in. A path of loneliness, I've lost all my friends and I have no-one now. I do the same thing everyday, and I find it so painful and dull. I find myself taking sleeping tablets at around 6pm, so that I don't have to endure the lonely night. I even took some as soon as I woke up the other day, because sleep is the only time I can escape my feelings. As soon as I wake up I'm upset again.

    I have an appointment with the uni counsellor, but the wait is like three months. I'm finding it quite hard to cope. I'm really not comfortable with being on medication for my feelings. I don't like that, it just sounds so unnatural.

    I think at the end of the day I feel so ****ing lonely, I have no-one in my life but my boyfriend, and I'm very grateful for him but he has his own friends and his own life so he can't always be there.

    Honestly don't know what to do. I just want to runaway from all this, but I don't have enough money to.

    Don't know why I posted this thread. Sorry. I just need to talk
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    Also watch http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3gSSN...eature=related

    I'm not saying that these video's are going to change your circumstance. But they are interesting and later on when you feel better you'll remember them and reflect back on them.
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    Also watch http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3gSSN...eature=related

    I'm not saying that these video's are going to change your circumstance. But they are interesting and later on when you feel better you'll remember them and reflect back on them.
    Thanks for those videos. I haven't watched the longer one yet, but the invocation for beginnings is very good.

    I've been thinking about taking a leave of absence and taking a year off like you did. I don't know what I'd do though. I can't just pick up a job. What did you do? What did you want to do? I know what I'd want to do, but I don't know if I could spend the money doing it.

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