The bruises and the pole burn isn't the fun bit, the thrill of mastering a move you couldn't do before, putting together a sequence that you weren't fit enough to do before and performing (especially in competitions) is the fun bit. There are plenty of bad points to ballet; shin splints, knee injuries and deformed feet, yet people don't go around saying that ballerinas can't enjoy their art due to some of the negatives.
Ultimately, it's not my issue if people think there is something sexual about the way that I dance using a pole.
If people find the movements the dancer is doing sexually arousing, then that is a problem with them, not the dancer, who (assuming they are not working in a strip club or is your girlfriend giving you a private dance) is not dancing for your personal benefit. Whilst some pole dancers are strippers or prostitutes, many are not, and given that there are many ways you can perform pole dancing now it is really quite silly to assume that the
only way is in a seedy strip club.
Secondly, I have a very similar amount of skin covered to most gymnasts, but because what keeps you on the pole is your skin. This on the whole means that you will need to wear hotpants, and sometimes a cropped top or leotard with side cut outs as some harder moves do require you to grip with your waist. Once again, my outfit is functional, and not for the viewers benefit.
Pole dancing is different to things like gymnastics, in that to be an excellent, world class pole dancer, and serious competitor in competition, you don't have to start in your early childhood. That is certainly part of the reason why I do it.
Bendy Kate I would say is a fantastic example of this.