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Are parents generally more protective of daughters than sons?

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    (Original post by LeaX)
    It's like that in my family. My brother is 14 and can go out and do what he likes. I'm 17 and only recently have I been able to go on a train to a town like 15 minutes away.
    Me and my brother are the same ages. He was allowed to go into town alone from a much younger age than I was. Its so annoying.
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    (Original post by Sternumator)
    My parents are more protective of my sisters. I think as a parent I would be as well, I don't mean to sound like a chav but I think boys have a better idea of what goes on in the street than girls, a lot of girls are naive and can't read people as well.
    What are you talking about? Physically (in the brain) girls are actually biologically better at reading emotion, intention etc in other people.
    Also from my experiences of being out with my guy and girl mates, ive seen that girls seem to be better at realising dangerous places to be, situations they dont want to be in. They also, myself included seem to be far better at telling when there is someone down an alley or in a field and our group should avoid it.

    As for me and my brother, my brother is far far more looked after then me,i think probably because hes the youngest and partly because of our personalities.
    I was always very stubborn, very outgoing, always wanted to go out and do stuff. My parents had a hell of a time keeping track of where i was and what i was doing so they let me do my own thing, but my brother is less like that so they look after him and are more protective of him.
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    (Original post by IAmTheWumAndOnly)
    Obviously. Girls are weaker and are no good at defending themselves plus they can also be very stupid and put themselves in stupid situations where they can easily be raped.

    Girls need to be more assertive and judge situations better. One of my female friends tried to go home with some guy before and he had a criminal record for rape and got out like 2 months ago and she was gonna go home with him so I had to beat him up. ****ing sickens me how stupid some girls can be. Never go home with a stranger, if you do, you deserve what comes to you for being so stupid.
    Yep judge every female by that one idiot
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    (Original post by Sternumator)
    I am not talking generally. I just mean boys learn before girls that people try to **** you over and are able to recognise those situations better. Boys are more likely to think about peoples intentions whereas a lot of teenage girls are easily fooled. My mum told me that is why she is more protective of my sisters and I do think it applies generally. A lot of it is because boys are used to dealing with males, we have grown up with boys, some of who arent very nice, we have fought in the playground etc and we better understand males because we are one. On the other hand, when girls reach 14 or 15 they have had much less contact with males and the males they have dealt with are nice to them because they are girls. If someone does something bad to you when you are out and about they are more than likely going to be male. Boys know there are males who are like that and are more prepared to deal with it but often girls do not expect it.
    Where do you actually come from? you seem deluded about the way female children are brought up. They have just as much contact with boys as well as girls through primary school, nursery etc unless they are sent to single sex schools. Many girls have just as many male friends and aquaintences as female ones, especially by 14/ 15 because you will have been through nursery and two schools so will have been around them and socialised with them their whole lives.

    And no they dont learn that before girls either, girls are told from just an early age as boys 'dont talk to that man' or 'if someone offers you sweeties dont get in their car'. I think girls are more likely to be told earlier about rape also.

    Also once again, girls are biologically more capable of reading people and judging emotion etc.

    My last point - Dont believe everything your mother tells you
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    (Original post by kunoichi)
    What are you talking about? Physically (in the brain) girls are actually biologically better at reading emotion, intention etc in other people.
    Also from my experiences of being out with my guy and girl mates, ive seen that girls seem to be better at realising dangerous places to be, situations they dont want to be in. They also, myself included seem to be far better at telling when there is someone down an alley or in a field and our group should avoid it.

    As for me and my brother, my brother is far far more looked after then me,i think probably because hes the youngest and partly because of our personalities.
    I was always very stubborn, very outgoing, always wanted to go out and do stuff. My parents had a hell of a time keeping track of where i was and what i was doing so they let me do my own thing, but my brother is less like that so they look after him and are more protective of him.
    Whats with the bit in bold? do women have more extra senses or something? Either you can see or hear someone down there or you can't it doesnt matter if you are male or female.
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    (Original post by kunoichi)
    Where do you actually come from? you seem deluded about the way female children are brought up. They have just as much contact with boys as well as girls through primary school, nursery etc unless they are sent to single sex schools. Many girls have just as many male friends and aquaintences as female ones, especially by 14/ 15 because you will have been through nursery and two schools so will have been around them and socialised with them their whole lives.

    And no they dont learn that before girls either, girls are told from just an early age as boys 'dont talk to that man' or 'if someone offers you sweeties dont get in their car'. I think girls are more likely to be told earlier about rape also.

    Also once again, girls are biologically more capable of reading people and judging emotion etc.

    My last point - Dont believe everything your mother tells you
    I have two sisters and went to mix sex schools so I did see how it works. Girls do have contact with males but they don't have contact with the bad ones, the guys who grow up to be criminals. The ones they do have contact with are the ones who are nice to them so they trust males to much. Who are the males girls encounter? They are either family, people they socalise with and boys who are trying to hit on them. Family are obviously going to be nice to them and while some of the guys who try and hit on them may not be nice, they only get to she their good side because they are not going to be nasty if they fancy her. As for friends and people they socialise with, mean guys don't hang around in those kind of groups. My sisters do actually have a lot of friends but think about it, a lad who enjoys shopping and spending evenings in watching Princess Diaries isn't going to be the kind of guy who goes onto become a mugger.

    Yes, girls get told about bad people at the same time as boys do but you don't take notice of it if unless you have seen it for yourself. You get told a lot of untruthful stuff as a kid and as you reach your teens you realise that and start wanting to see it for yourself before you believe it.

    I don't dispute you may be better at reading emotions but that doesn't help you. Biologically you are better at that because looking after children and being caring towards them requires you to know how they feel. Reading emotion doesnt help you from getting in to trouble, criminals are cold characters. Women have spent thousands of years protected from bad people by males and the males have spent thousands of years protecting women from bad characters and dealing with them regularly so we are going to be better at it.

    I agree that boys being less navie isn't the main reason parents are more protective but I do think it is part of it. Generally it is fathers who are more protective over daughters than mothers. Fathers don't care about their sons getting hurt as much, they see it as part of a male growing up, from evolution it would have been fathers realising the need for their sons to deal with these people so they can protect their family in the future but they dont want to see their daughters get hurt because they can find a man to protect them in the future. It is definately true for my Dad. I got beaten up a couple of months ago by about 6 lads, I didnt stand a chance and my face was a real mess. When my Mum saw she was quite upset by it but my dad laughed about it when he saw and then tried to wind me up by humming the rocky theme tune for a couple of weeks. If the same happened to one of my sisters he would go completely crazy and start trying to track them down to beat them up.

    Its not just about preventing bad stuff from happening its about how you cope with it and boys are less emotional vunerable than girls. Physical harm is a very small part of the damage that is done by most things that can happen and so the physical differences have little to do with how protective parents are. The reason my father didn't care that I go beaten up was because he knew that I didnt care either. I was hurting a bit but that soon goes. whereas if it had happened to my sisters it would have shaken them up and that is the thing that is really dmaging, the emotion impact. Another example, my mother got mugged in her first year of uni and if it wasn't for my grandad near enough forcing her to go back to uni she would have quit because she was scared of being in the city after. Whereas, if I got mugged I wouldnt be any more bothered than if I dropped the money down a drain. If parents are more protective over boys it will be because they are more emotionally vunerable than their girls.
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    When I was younger I was meant to protect my younger brothers. We lived in a rough area and I was the oldest so it was up to me. I got used to it and I liked the freedom, I could go out and stay out all day. But then my parents took a 180 degrees turn and became so overprotective I couldn't even go out after 4 in the afternoon while the boys were encouraged to go out and act like dicks. It was difficult to get used to considering the freedom I was allowed before that. I think they were just scared I'd go out with boys (religious fear - I wasn't meant to have sex outside of marriage or in fact "see" anyone from outside our culture). Of course I went mental and rebelled and they disowned me etc etc.

    As a result of my experience I think I definitely would not protect girls over boys if I ever have kids (which I won't, but just saying).
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    (Original post by effofex)
    Some males are physically weaker than other males though. There is a continuum within the sexes as well. But it doesn't necessarily mean that some males are thus mollycoddled/overly protected as a result.

    Also, surprisingly men (the apparently physicall stronger gender) are more likely to be victims of physical violence.
    My point is that "on the whole" females are physically weaker than males which plays a massive part. My personal belief is that the best parents will protect them both equally. Males are more likely to be victims of physical violence yes but you also have to take into account parents protecting the emotional welfare of their offspring as well.
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    It's the opposite way round in my family. My brother gets much more protecting and fussing. It's ridiculous. Neither of my parents are particularly protective over me and I don't really expect them to be. It's probably because I'm older and have always been more independent than my brother.
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    (Original post by Sternumator)
    Whats with the bit in bold? do women have more extra senses or something? Either you can see or hear someone down there or you can't it doesnt matter if you are male or female.
    didnt mean to put that bit in bold

    And no you can just kind of tell if someones around, you dont really need to hear or see them. like a feeling of being watched.
    If someones behind a door you know they are there but you can see them can you?
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    (Original post by Sternumator)
    I have two sisters and went to mix sex schools so I did see how it works. Girls do have contact with males but they don't have contact with the bad ones, the guys who grow up to be criminals. The ones they do have contact with are the ones who are nice to them so they trust males to much. Who are the males girls encounter? They are either family, people they socalise with and boys who are trying to hit on them. Family are obviously going to be nice to them and while some of the guys who try and hit on them may not be nice, they only get to she their good side because they are not going to be nasty if they fancy her. As for friends and people they socialise with, mean guys don't hang around in those kind of groups. My sisters do actually have a lot of friends but think about it, a lad who enjoys shopping and spending evenings in watching Princess Diaries isn't going to be the kind of guy who goes onto become a mugger.

    Yes, girls get told about bad people at the same time as boys do but you don't take notice of it if unless you have seen it for yourself. You get told a lot of untruthful stuff as a kid and as you reach your teens you realise that and start wanting to see it for yourself before you believe it.

    I don't dispute you may be better at reading emotions but that doesn't help you. Biologically you are better at that because looking after children and being caring towards them requires you to know how they feel. Reading emotion doesnt help you from getting in to trouble, criminals are cold characters. Women have spent thousands of years protected from bad people by males and the males have spent thousands of years protecting women from bad characters and dealing with them regularly so we are going to be better at it.

    I agree that boys being less navie isn't the main reason parents are more protective but I do think it is part of it. Generally it is fathers who are more protective over daughters than mothers. Fathers don't care about their sons getting hurt as much, they see it as part of a male growing up, from evolution it would have been fathers realising the need for their sons to deal with these people so they can protect their family in the future but they dont want to see their daughters get hurt because they can find a man to protect them in the future. It is definately true for my Dad. I got beaten up a couple of months ago by about 6 lads, I didnt stand a chance and my face was a real mess. When my Mum saw she was quite upset by it but my dad laughed about it when he saw and then tried to wind me up by humming the rocky theme tune for a couple of weeks. If the same happened to one of my sisters he would go completely crazy and start trying to track them down to beat them up.

    Its not just about preventing bad stuff from happening its about how you cope with it and boys are less emotional vunerable than girls. Physical harm is a very small part of the damage that is done by most things that can happen and so the physical differences have little to do with how protective parents are. The reason my father didn't care that I go beaten up was because he knew that I didnt care either. I was hurting a bit but that soon goes. whereas if it had happened to my sisters it would have shaken them up and that is the thing that is really dmaging, the emotion impact. Another example, my mother got mugged in her first year of uni and if it wasn't for my grandad near enough forcing her to go back to uni she would have quit because she was scared of being in the city after. Whereas, if I got mugged I wouldnt be any more bothered than if I dropped the money down a drain. If parents are more protective over boys it will be because they are more emotionally vunerable than their girls.
    Yes because in the classroom you are totally separated from the guys who are going to become criminals and those who arent. No through your school years you are exposed to all types every day for 18 years, boys and girls equally. There is no difference.

    As for out on the streets, girls are able to see a group of guys say lurking in an alley way and be able to tell their intentions just as well as a guy walking down them, especially as they can read their face, body language and emotions better, granted they may be less good at getting away from the situation due to less stronger, less speed etc, but they will know what will happen just as well as a guy would

    As for being beaten up etc, that depends on the person, not their gender. I and my female friends have been in fights with chavs etc and tbh we arent that bothered by it, some of male mates have been too and now some wont walk home or go out. It doesnt matter on gender but the personality of the individual.
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    I think there is a lot of speculation in the media about females having awful things happen to them, compared to boys having awful things happen to them, which don't appear in the media so much from what I can see.

    That is all I have to say.
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    (Original post by kunoichi)
    didnt mean to put that bit in bold

    And no you can just kind of tell if someones around, you dont really need to hear or see them. like a feeling of being watched.
    If someones behind a door you know they are there but you can see them can you?
    I put it in bold so you would know which bit I was talking about.

    Of course you can't just tell. How does the information get from where the person is to your brain? You can't tell if you are being watched either. If I got 6 doors and stood behind random ones each time and you had to pick which one I was behind, you would average 1/6.
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    (Original post by Sternumator)
    I put it in bold so you would know which bit I was talking about.

    Of course you can't just tell. How does the information get from where the person is to your brain? You can't tell if you are being watched either. If I got 6 doors and stood behind random ones each time and you had to pick which one I was behind, you would average 1/6.
    maybe its just a kind of intuition you lack.

    Theres been several times ive said to people 'we shouldnt go down there/in that park/field, theres people there', and without being able to see or hear anything ive been perfectly right if someone insists we go that way.
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    (Original post by kunoichi)
    maybe its just a kind of intuition you lack.

    Theres been several times ive said to people 'we shouldnt go down there/in that park/field, theres people there', and without being able to see or hear anything ive been perfectly right if someone insists we go that way.
    Thats just luck. You have the impression that you are right a a lot of the time but that is because when there is someone down there and you predicted it it is more much more memorable. There will have been a lot of times when you said that and there havent been people down there which you would have forgotten about.
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    (Original post by Sternumator)
    Thats just luck. You have the impression that you are right a a lot of the time but that is because when there is someone down there and you predicted it it is more much more memorable. There will have been a lot of times when you said that and there havent been people down there which you would have forgotten about.
    Actually i wouldnt know about the other times, after a few times this happened, we tend not to go places if it is thought there was someone down them so i wouldnt know if i was right or wrong.

    And how many times do you think i have gone roaming round fields? Its not actually loads, so not difficult to remember. Everytime its been said, theres been someone.

    I seriously think you lack some basic intuition, and as you evidently have not experienced the feelings im talking about, you are in no position to tell me im wrong.
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    yes.. maybe because they feel girls are more vulnerable.. and men are supposed to fight.
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    yes, I think parents are more protective over daughters, particualrly fathers being protective over daughters.
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    (Original post by kunoichi)
    Actually i wouldnt know about the other times, after a few times this happened, we tend not to go places if it is thought there was someone down them so i wouldnt know if i was right or wrong.

    And how many times do you think i have gone roaming round fields? Its not actually loads, so not difficult to remember. Everytime its been said, theres been someone.

    I seriously think you lack some basic intuition, and as you evidently have not experienced the feelings im talking about, you are in no position to tell me im wrong.
    What you are talking about isn't a basic skill, it is some super power you claim to have. People have probably done tests on it if there are more people who think you are right because it wouldnt be a hard experiment. I would bet everything I own that you couldnt produce a statistically significant result by just knowing where people are.
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    (Original post by Sternumator)
    What you are talking about isn't a basic skill, it is some super power you claim to have. People have probably done tests on it if there are more people who think you are right because it wouldnt be a hard experiment. I would bet everything I own that you couldnt produce a statistically significant result by just knowing where people are.
    Superpower? dont be stupid and dont start fabricating things.

    All it is is a basic feeling of being watched which will give me a strong reason to say 'that place isnt safe to go', nothing more nothing less.

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