What should i do? She uses people for money
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What should i do? She uses people for moneyI have got a friend who went out with this boy for money,although he wasn't directly paying her to do things. She was using him to buy things such as food and her prom dress. At last she got what she wanted and then suddenly said she didn't like him anymore. Her family doesn't provide much for her and shes a bit of a tramp. She did several sexual things with this boy, who was 18 years old while she was 15. He has obviously gone through puberty fully but she hasn't developed yet fully.
What should i do about this situation? She even used my bestfriend for money to buy basic things and even took her phone and ipod to "borrow". I feel really frustrated because shes really a bitch when i thought she was just a troubled person. She harms herself for attention, shes overdramatic about situations and shes never herself. Where ever she goes there seems to be trouble following her.Plus she has this disturbed bestfriend who seems to be following a crowd of self-harmers and teens in troubled situations.
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Re: What should i do? She uses people for moneyIf your close with her have a chat about how she is behaving. If she isn't, there really isn't anything you can do, it's her life after all and if she really is like what you say, people will eventually see her true colours
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Re: What should i do? She uses people for moneyWhy does she act like this? Maybe some role model has taught her to behave this way to get what she wants. Does she ever seem to regret her shameful "people=tools" attitude? Does she try to hide the fact that her family has economic difficulties? Is she ashamed of it?
Of course, one very flippant possibility is that she is devoid of affect (a psychopath DOES NOT MEAN KILLER
). If this is the case, all hope for ordinary behaviour is lost (duh.).
Nevertheless, if she is your friend, you can try to talk to her about it. Try to present flipped situations, would she ever pay for anything for someone? Or is it because she can't?
Self-harm for attention is annoying and frustrating beyond belief: I had a friend who was the same. It was always a case of "You can't understand!", despite the fact that she didn't know anything about what I had actually experienced.
You could show her pictures of surface infections and results of unsterilized scarification. You could also show her a couple of forums and threads where people mercilessly mock emos and goths..(http://gocryemokid.memebase.com/)
Prove to her that her behaviour ain't acceptable, but that you know she's better than that. She might need your friendship and support if she isn't a psychopath
(sorry to bring it up again). Show her her behaviour isn't mature or emotional.
Good luck.
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Re: What should i do? She uses people for moneyI wish men criticised other men as often as women criticise other women.
If a woman uses a man for money all the girls go "omg what a bitch" (rightfully)
Man uses woman for sex all his friends go "good for you man keep it going" -
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Re: What should i do? She uses people for moneyGotta love that feminism.(Original post by Dragonfly07)
I wish men criticised other men as often as women criticise other women.
If a woman uses a man for money all the girls go "omg what a bitch" (rightfully)
Man uses woman for sex all his friends go "good for you man keep it going"
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Re: What should i do? She uses people for moneywhy do they praise each other for using a girl for sex isn't that kinda disrespectful using a girl for her body(Original post by Dragonfly07)
I wish men criticised other men as often as women criticise other women.
If a woman uses a man for money all the girls go "omg what a bitch" (rightfully)
Man uses woman for sex all his friends go "good for you man keep it going"Last edited by kingsarecool; 17-04-2012 at 12:18. -
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Re: What should i do? She uses people for moneyHe was not using her, he was actually in love with her and after she broke up with him and told him the motive of her actions he attempted suicide, so I do believe she is the one in the wrong.(Original post by Dragonfly07)
I wish men criticised other men as often as women criticise other women.
If a woman uses a man for money all the girls go "omg what a bitch" (rightfully)
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Re: What should i do? She uses people for moneyWell obviously but some men are complete ******** so would do it anyways(Original post by kingsarecool)
why do they praise each other for using a girl for sex isn't that kinda disrespectful using a girl for her body
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Re: What should i do? She uses people for moneySurely it would be far better if women just stopped criticising other women behind their back.(Original post by Dragonfly07)
I wish men criticised other men as often as women criticise other women.
Men have far more amicable relationships with each other because we aren't afraid to voice our opinion or be a dick about something if we feel it's deserved. -
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Re: What should i do? She uses people for moneyThis is true I won't deny, but there are a million other inequalities between men and women.(Original post by Dragonfly07)
I wish men criticised other men as often as women criticise other women.
If a woman uses a man for money all the girls go "omg what a bitch" (rightfully)
Man uses woman for sex all his friends go "good for you man keep it going"
1) Man splits the bill - makes him cheap
Woman splits the bill - makes her independent
2) Man stares at woman's cleavage - desperate/Pervert
Woman stares at man's parts - flirting
3) Man works all day long and comes home and cooks - Normal
Woman works all day long and comes home and cooks - Heroine
What figures, there's nothing fair in life...
). If this is the case, all hope for ordinary behaviour is lost (duh.).
