Need to be relaxed and it shouldnt hurt that much, if your not relaxed or calm then yeah it wont be pleasant.
Last edited by Sazzy890; 22-04-2012 at 22:02.
Reason: misuse of anon
Make sure it's at least a nice guy if not someone you really like and trust. Don't do the one night stand with a random guy you met at a club!! When you're kissing and before clothes come off just let him know you're pretty self conscious and to be gentle because you've never let anyone before so... type thing.
You've got nothing to be scared of. Most people felt exactly the same as you did.
Few things will make you feel more comforatble with showing your nakie body:
1)make sure you're nice and clean everywhere. This might sounds a little ott but if you reckon that a particular night will be the one then carry moist toilet tissue and have a little freshen up before things 'get going'
3)smell good (see 1)
Because it is your first time it may hurt but less so if you're relaxed. So make sure he knows how you're feeling and that you are a little nervous. 1, 2, 3 will just help you to feel more relaxed as well.
Don't worry. Just don't let it be someone that's going to use and abuse you.
Take care sweet
Last edited by Sazzy890; 22-04-2012 at 22:03.
Reason: misuse of anon
For myself it's important it is with the right person, not a disrespectful dishonest user or game-player.
Having major surgical scarring myself, if I'm going to get naked with someone, respect is pretty damned important - someone disrespectful who will gossip in an immature way behind my back is an absolute no-no.
I fail to sympathise with views which say respect or integrity aren't that important. Having sex with someone is pretty intimate and by its nature involves a large extent of trust. Nothing damages trust more than dishonesty or game-playing. A disrespectful sexual partner has the potential to lead to a lot of mental and emotional hurt.
So I'd suggest finding the right person (not necessarily a life-partner but certainly not just any old user either), not just losing it to whoever for the sake of it. Having sex should also be a personal decision and NOT the result of peer pressure or trying to be "cool". Nobody is a "loser" for not having experienced it.
Oh and finally, forget about religious zealots who judge premarital sex as a sin, not just for themselves but judgmentally imposing their standards on everyone. They are brainwashed and deluded.
Nothing wrong with a bit of "do it yourself" too to find what floats your boat.
P.S. The hell was that worthy of a neg for?
Last edited by Mequa; 23-04-2012 at 05:20.
Last edited by shy-girl666; 22-04-2012 at 19:56.