If there is only 1 thing you wish you knew about uni before you started

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That university doesn't change you - if you were shy at school, you don't suddenly become a super cool person with hundreds of friends. Only you can change yourself.

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Original post by Bella_trixxx

That university doesn't change you - if you were shy at school, you don't suddenly become a super cool person with hundreds of friends. Only you can change yourself.

If you're a shy person at school, you will certainly be more valued and respected at university than you were at school. University is finally that chance you've been waiting for to get away from a school filled to the brim with morons. The popularity contest does still continue, but it's much easier to avoid.

My advice would be: Never trust a rah. They are vacuous creatures for the most part, who will never see you as an equal if you didn't go to boarding school and spend every summer in the tropics and every winter skiing. Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of nice people who lived this lifestyle, but there are far more untrustworthy people from this background too.

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Sereni

Original post by AverageExcellence

Is freshers week socially awkward or is it light hearted and easy to socialise?

Depends what kind of person you are. The majority of people at events are very outgoing and your facebook friends list is likely to double, there are a lot of hookups I found and a lot of drinking because for many freshers this will the the first time they can really let go. Obviously if you don't drink or are not planning on going to the events your experience will be different, my gf didnt go the the events and still had quite a bit of fun with flat mates. At the end of the day it isnt very socially awkward because everyone is in the same boat of not knowing everyone and everyone is trying to meet people and be friendly, apart from the handful of people who don't want to meet new people, and you won't see much of them anyway.

It's as freshers end that things can get potentially awkward because it is when social groups are settling down, and if you havn't really found a place in any of them it you could end up feeling a bit of an outsider (this isn't that bad, and it also isnt hard to fix)

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jojayne

In hindsight do any of you regret going to the university you go to now? I start (hopefully) this year, and I'm worried whether I've made a mistake in the uni I chose sometimes. Thanks :smile:

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ReTurd

Original post by Elipsis

whats a rah? how can i spot one?

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Original post by ReTurd

whats a rah? how can i spot one?

They will typically wear Jack Wills clothing. Probably ugg boots (real not fake) with some sort of pjs and a hunting style body warmer. They will say 'yah' a lot more than is necessary. To be honest I think their fashion trends have moved on a tad since I left uni but you will know what i'm talking about when you get there.

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Sparklyblue171

Original post by Bella_trixxx

That university doesn't change you - if you were shy at school, you don't suddenly become a super cool person with hundreds of friends. Only you can change yourself.

Uni can help you develop parts of yourself - if you embrace that opportunity to allow yourself to be developed.
Examples:
- Managing money and being financially stable, is something a student would deal with at uni, beforehand they didn't know much, but by the end they've learnt good lessons.

- Social re-invention isn't too difficult as long as it's not extreme. Someone could've had a hard life at school because they struggled to make friends or shake an image of them. At uni no one would know how you were, but how you've decided to take on a new independent challenge away from home.

- More mature issues like sex, can be made more readily available - enlightment in this area from uni life can't be underestimated

- Overall you can come out of uni a more organised and practical person. 3 years to make something of yourself and survive independently while doing it, both socially and academically - is something I myself, am still currently doing.

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Antifazian

I agree with whoever said that uni can be really overwhelming at times, and you will most likely have some terribly low points, but also some absolutely amazing highs.

You really do have so many opportunities available to you and can really start to steer your life in the direction you want it to go in, however you also have to come to the terms with the fact that there will always be people who get better grades than you, more work experience, are better at sport etc. Uni can drive a competitive person mad. Try to focus on yourself and getting as much out of uni as you possibly can socially as well as academically, they are equally as important in the long run.

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