[dulciemae]

I'm answering in terms of physically and personality wise, thought it'd be interesting to see what floats everyone's boat.

Copy and paste this template and substitute your own if you want

Turn On
Personality - Intelligence and A GOOD SENSE OF HUMOUR!

Appearance - Stubble, ginger hair, (but I'll draw the line at ginger stubble) dark hair's good too. Blonde's are alright. Lol I'm not really that fussed. A nice smile. A strong jawline makes me go a bit mental sometimes. And tall! But only cos I'm a female giant! Well built, as in a bit muscly but a bit of fat too - my vision of 'manly' lol. Edit: OMG how can I forget: I don't care what anyone says, Northern Accents are the pinnacle of all levels of sexiness, with Irish not following to far behind.

Turn Off
Personality - Guys that fancy themselves too much, Ignorance, shallowness (tbh, if a guy was that shallow then they wouldn't fancy me so I wouldn't have to worry about not fancying them ahah)

Appearance - A guy that looks like he spends longer in the bathroom than me. I.e fake tan and greased back hair WHAT'S THAT ABOUT? But also, bad hygiene and long nails are really disgusting.

Ahaha neggers (can I say that...?) are blatantly over-conceited Southeners with ginger stubble and stick thin arms. NO LOSS.

[Jim_Metrin]

Turn on

Charm and sophistication , Great smile and cute

Turn off

Easiness, Arrogance, No sense of humor

[jazzykinks]

Turn On
Personality - someone who is caring, fun-loving and trustworthy. Intelligence is also nice too because I like having deep talks. Confidence, but not to the point of arrogance. Manners! I'm really big on manners and etiquette. Romantic too.

Appearance - tall (I'm quite tall), sexy, built...and if they're Mediterranean, I am there! Tattoos are nice so long as they're not tacky. I love a couple of piercings too, but not required.

Turn Off
Personality - Any sexist views/misogyny. Arrogance, narcissism, lack of consideration for other people/things.

Appearance - shorter than me, overweight or too skinny, ginger, not attracted to Asians either.

[PinkMobilePhone]

Turn on :
Personality -
good sense of humour
kind
at least some similar interests to me
able to hold an interesting and intelligent conversation

appearance -
taller than me to at least some degree
average weight
erm......a nice face haha. I'm not specific about what makes up a "nice face" as I find many different faces attractive - likewise I don't have a hair style or colour preference, it's whatever suits them really.


Turn offs :
personality -
smoker/drug taker
sadist/masochist
chauvinistic
chav

appearance -
wearing chav attire (i.e. if they look like Devvo!)
lankiness
to a certain extent obesity is a turn off, though my husband is obese so I'm obviously more accommodating than some would be. He's working on it though.

[jd66]

Turn on
Intelligent, can hold a decent conversation, honest, gives the impression that she genuinely wants me and doesn't make me do all the work, at least moderately attractive appearance wise, pretty face, nice eyes, nice smile, nice accent.

Turn Offs

Has slept with a fair few guys recently (in the past year, before that I'm not bothered as we all change), bad breath, dishonesty, arrogance, feels a sense of entitlement just because she's a woman, massively overweight, facial piercings, has cheated on someone in the past, issues with an ex.

[DavidTheYoung]

OP you just described me Although I can be an overly confident fella

ANYWAYS

Turn On
Personality - Intelligent. Witty. Caring. Not too clingy, give a man some space (not loads, but allow him to take longer than 5 minutes to reply to a text). Likes reading. Likes the outdoors. I love a deep chat so someone who can keep up.

Appearance - Tall girls! 5ft 7 - 5ft 11 is ace (I'm 6ft and I like girls around my own height). Pretty, but isn't overly aware of it. Slim/Athletic. Long hair (not bothered about colour, it's all good!).

Turn Off
Personality - High maintenance, ditsy girls, stuck up, rude, bitchy.

Appearance - Fat (I'm sorry, it just doesn't rev my engine), ridiculous number of piercings, greasy hair.

[Lucia.]

Turn ons
Personality
can make me laugh
good conversationalist
highly intelligent
emotional depth
loves to read
compassionate
a few shared interests
likes to travel
good with kids/family oriented
would stand up for me
is attentive
really shows interest in me (you'd be surprised how hard that is to find)

Appearance
Taller than me
good posture
ability to grow facial hair
Average build, not too skinny and slightly muscular but not insanely so
A handsome face - not specific about qualities like hair colour - A handsome man is a handsome man. If forced to divulge, my ideal would be the dark and handsome variety. It's not a deal-breaker though. I take people on their own merits.

Turn offs
Personality
anything suggesting criminality or dodgy morals
no interest in sex
someone who throws their weight around to act like the man
lack of intelligence
divergent political views
lack of ambition
miserly
no backbone/clingy
in a relationship sense, I'd have to say someone with a different communication style to mine

Appearance
poor hygiene
terrible fashion sense
too many tattoos and piercings
long hair
being at the extremes of the weight scale

[Loveuraliens]

turn on:
Personality:
Emotional depth
intelligence
Thinking outside the box
Vegetarianism or at least some kind of understanding on the animal rights issues.
Ability to be quiet when there is nothing important to say
Ability to take and allow personal space


appearance:
Taller than me
Big built. I am big (not fat, just big and muscular) and I prefer my man to be the same.
Long hair and or dreadlocks
smiling eyes
piercings and tattoos are hot as well if they fit the person

turn off:
Personality:
stupid
clingy
show off

appearance:
Does not take care of his appearance at all
bad breath
oily skin
too short /neat hair (I prefer my man shaggy)
too preppy and cute clothes

[Dee Leigh]

Turn On
Personality
Good sense of humour and funny
Intelligence
Can remain positive most of the time
Caring
Ambitious
Assertive
Honest
Trustworthy
Good manners
Organised
Gives me space when I need it
Spontaneous
Open-minded
Comforting
Considerate
Emotional depth
Confidence
Self-esteem
Listens to what you have to say
Respectful
Calm
Kind
Gentle
Humble
Gentleman-like
Loving
Appearance
Dapper
Stubble
Bit muscly
Taller than me
Looks fit and healthy
Dark hair
Handsome
Great smile
Takes a bit of pride in appearance

Turn Off
Personality
Arrogance
Ignorance
Negativity
Always miserable
Toxic
Miserable 24/7
Nasty
Mean
No morals
Condescending
Clingy
Overprotective/controlling/oppressive
Aggressive
Authoritarian
Narrow-minded
Bad habits
Racist
Passive
Always making negative comments about EVERY SINGLE THING (especially when it's towards you)
Putting me/others down
Sexist
No sense of humour
Rude
Violent - TOTAL NO NO
Disrespectful
CHEATER
Nit-picky
Expecting me to be something/someone I'm not
Fake
Not valuing my opinion
Ignoring me
Inconsiderate
Showing conditional love or unloving
Appearance
Fake tan
Smelly
Overweight
Too skinny
Messy hair
Dirty clothes
Bad hygiene
Dirty
Bad teeth
Bad nails
Monobrow
Bad breath
Lack of pride in appearance

[Anonymous]

On...

Personality - happy, funny, intelligent, likes football, likes racing, has to have good manners, has to be able to eat properly with the correct cutlery! caring, loving, country loving, from a good family.

Must want to work and absolutely no aim to claim benefits, smoke or do anything criminal.

Looks - cute, I like a bit of chub!

Off...

Personality - arrogant, sexist, shallow, chavvy, no council house types.

Looks - tattoos, piercings, long hair, lack of possession of shirts, monobrow.

[Anonymous]

You see, I read the girls' turn ons and stuff, and I'm pretty sure every one of them would like my personality..

Yet whenever I ask a girl out, they say no, and never find out that they might like me..

I've seen long hair as a turn off. How long is "long"? My hair is like, longer than almost every guy I meet, but its not like, really long. Touches my collar at the back, my jaw line at the sides and the fringe will come down to the end of my nose. I swear appearances matter waayy more than people let on.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Anonymous)
You see, I read the girls' turn ons and stuff, and I'm pretty sure every one of them would like my personality..

Yet whenever I ask a girl out, they say no, and never find out that they might like me..

I've seen long hair as a turn off. How long is "long"? My hair is like, longer than almost every guy I meet, but its not like, really long. Touches my collar at the back, my jaw line at the sides and the fringe will come down to the end of my nose. I swear appearances matter waayy more than people let on.

Most girls that I know like short 'clean looking' haircuts. Professional

[little_wizard123]

(Original post by Dee Leigh)
Turn On
Personality
Good sense of humour and funny
Intelligence
Can remain positive most of the time
Caring
Honest
Trustworthy
Good manners
Organised
Gives me space when I need it
Spontaneous
Open-minded
Comforting
Considerate
Emotional depth
Confidence
Self-esteem
Listens to what you have to say
Respectful
Calm
Kind
Gentle
Humble
Gentleman-like
Loving
Appearance
Stubble
Bit muscly
Taller than me
Looks fit and healthy
Dark hair
Great smile
Takes a bit of pride in appearance

Turn Off
Personality
Arrogance
Ignorance
Negativity
Always miserable
Toxic
Miserable 24/7
Nasty
Mean
Horrid
Condescending
Clingy
Overprotective/controlling/oppressive
Authoritarian
Narrow-minded
Bad habits
Racist
Always making negative comments about EVERY SINGLE THING (especially when it's towards you)
Putting me/others down
Sexist
No sense of humour
Rude
Violent - TOTAL NO NO
Disrespectful
CHEATER
Nit-picky
Not valuing my opinion
Ignoring me
Inconsiderate
Showing conditional love or unloving
Appearance
Fake tan
Smelly
Overweight
Too skinny
Messy hair
Dirty clothes
Bad hygiene
Dirty
Bad teeth
Bad nails
Bad breath
Lack of pride in appearance

You've just named every positive and negative attribute that exists

Good effort making a list that long though.

[duharvalgt]

Turn ons: intelligent, sporty, funny.
Turn offs: arrogant, rude, overweight.

[Wilfred Little]

Turn ons:

Personality

- Really easy to talk to, when conversation just flows
- Has their own opinions
- Has real hobbies, not just "chillin n drinkin wiv me mates lol xx", just passion for something they really have an interest in and is unique to them, it could be anything from stamp collecting to flying model aeroplanes etc
- Isn't shy to pay me compliments but not forced or generic, example if I said something funny or did something good and she notices and lets me know, I think that's cute
It's quite hard to pinpoint individual traits actually but the best way to "turn me on" with personality is to become my friend, if that makes sense

Looks

- Cute features, i.e. small, chubby cheeks, that sort of thing
- Stands out, and I really don't know how to describe this but it's the way they dress, I've noticed it in "emo" type girls, I think their style is good, they just have to be different
- Thighs that are kinda thick and quite muscly calves, hard to explain but shapely calves are such a turn on
- Dresses modestly

Turn offs:

Personality

- Use of terms like "haters" and "YOLO", please don't
- Attention seeker
- Talks negatively about her friends to me, lack of honour etc
- Follower
- Flirtacious (this is probably the biggest one)

Looks

- Cleavage out
- Tries too hard
- Bad hair
- Generally dressing to get the attention of men

I think that's it, that's quite hard to do haha.

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by little_wizard123)
You've just named every positive and negative attribute that exists

Good effort making a list that long though.

Lol I got a bit carried away

[Brand New Eyes]

Off the top of my head

Turn Ons:

Funny
Is French
Intelligence
Similar interests
generally okay/good looking
Taller than (5"3)

Turn Offs:
Excessive Romance
patronising
Being Shorter/skinnier/younger than me
Overweight
not making the same/enough effort

[mel_1991]

Turn Ons

Looks
Tall- Preferably around 6ft 4.
Medium build
Little bit of facial hair or stubble
Hair long enough to style into a quiff or bed head style.
Olive skin is nice but not vital
Dimples. *-*
Handsome face
Dresses sort of indie
Clean
Good smile/nice teeth
Maybe tattoos depending on if they suit the guy.


Personality
Good Sense of Humour
Gentleman
Witty
Open minded
A friend as well as a boyfriend
Interests that are more than just "gettin wreked and pullin birds wiv da lads"
Similar Political stance to me
Treats people all the same/with respect
Manchester United fan
Optimist
Trusting/Honest
Clean
Can take the piss out of himself
Will remove any insects for me
Humble/Down to earth



Turn Offs

Looks
Skin head or looks like they took a bath in hairgel style
Chavvy dressing
Too muscly (Think Jersey/Geordie shore)
Bad teeth
Short


Personality
Uses terms like yolo/tries to act like a hardman
Supports Man City
Sexist/Racist/Homophobe
Has no clue about news events past who won X Factor
Gets drunk all the time
Sleeps around
Negative
Sleazy
Clingy
Shallow
Arrogant/Cocky/Thinks he's amazing
Cheater
Condesencing
Vain
Ignorance
Doesn't let you have space

[mel_1991]

(Original post by Anonymous)
You see, I read the girls' turn ons and stuff, and I'm pretty sure every one of them would like my personality..

Yet whenever I ask a girl out, they say no, and never find out that they might like me..

I've seen long hair as a turn off. How long is "long"? My hair is like, longer than almost every guy I meet, but its not like, really long. Touches my collar at the back, my jaw line at the sides and the fringe will come down to the end of my nose. I swear appearances matter waayy more than people let on.

I think your hair sounds like the perfect length! .

I'd call long hair like, right down their back.

[Knighted]

Cooking skills are no where to be found on any of the lists