[blackraven]

(Original post by murpo)
all women are beautiful so therefore I think you are trolling

your photography is stunning and really impressive. Who's the girl in your sig?

[murpo]

(Original post by blackraven)
your photography is stunning and really impressive. Who's the girl in your sig?

I think you quoted the wrong person! I don't do any photography, sorry

If you quoted the right person then my sig is Daisy lowe.

[No Man]

(Original post by im so academic)
That's the whole ****ing point. Do you think I like not being pretty? Do you think it's easy to live with? How much I have to cope every day to cope with my ugliness?

Have you perked up the courage to post a couple of pic yet? Or do you think that girl in the video ^^^ is better looking then you?

[blackraven]

(Original post by murpo)
I think you quoted the wrong person! I don't do any photography, sorry

If you quoted the right person then my sig is Daisy lowe.

the owner of the tumblr in your sig does photography. thought that was you...oops!

[murpo]

(Original post by blackraven)
the owner of the tumblr in your sig does photography. thought that was you...oops!

No.... but the girl in that photography pic is gorgeous (You're not having her name though )

[MancBoy]

(Original post by im so academic)
Yep.

No really, I am UGLY. I experience how it feels to be ugly every single day.

You say you're 'ugly' but would you ever date an 'ugly' guy?

Most of the people who complain about other people being shallow are usually the ones who primarily go for the attractive people, get rejected and are bitter because of it.

[Cinnabar]

(Original post by johndoranglasgow)
Come to Glasgow, seriously you want to see some of the goblins knocking about with girlfriends and spouses up here

Sometimes I see a face and think 'only in Glasgow!!'

[Cinnabar]

(Original post by MancBoy)
Most of the people who complain about other people being shallow are usually the ones who primarily go for the attractive people, get rejected and are bitter because of it.

This is a golden nugget of truth.

[almalibre11111]

jesus are people in 2012 that still think like that?

[Simplicity]

(Original post by Goody2Shoes-x)
OP is clearly a troll. And if not, then she's seriously an ugnrateful cow. People are taking the time to type out genuinely thoughtful anwsers (and I'd like to point out that this is growing to be a rarity on TSR) and yet you just ignore the advice and keep wailing about how nobody will love you. Well you know what? With that attitude you're right, because nobody does love ungrateful whingers. If you have a genuine problem, follow advice given and get counselling. If not, then just accept everyone has imperfections and get on with it. And to prove this, I am going to post a pic of me in all my hungover, greasy haired glory looking quite craptastic - and yet I'm quite content.

I suppose you got a lot of dominant features. But, you aren't ugly. Most men would sleep with you. I suppose you aren't stunning in the sense, but you aren't ugly.

But, yeah personally you should have no trouble getting a bf. If you look like that when you are crap I'm sure when you are done up and don't look depressed you can get guys if you act approachable.

The thing is OP and ISA are probably uglier than you to the point where most men wouldn't even sleep with them unless they are desperate.

[Anonymous]

OK, everyone I appreciate all the positive comments.

I'm going to get help. I'm going to see a councillor and get myself together. I want to help myself. I can't live like this forever.

I am going to try to take better care of myself, accept my flaws and work on whats on the inside. To the person who said I'm not intelligent because I got a C in maths, that was the only C I got in my GCSE's, the rest were A*'s and A's and I have an offer from Warwick university. So there.

I'm very insecure and have extremely low self-esteem. But I am willing to take the steps needed to get better.

This isn't going to be easy but it needs to be done. I hope ISA and many other girls who feel like I do follow suit. It's time to take control of my life and get my **** together.

PS, I'm not a troll, I've just hit rock bottom and need to get professional help. But I am willing to help myself.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Simplicity)
I suppose you got a lot of dominant features. But, you aren't ugly. Most men would sleep with you. I suppose you aren't stunning in the sense, but you aren't ugly.

But, yeah personally you should have no trouble getting a bf. If you look like that when you are crap I'm sure when you are done up and don't look depressed you can get guys if you act approachable.

The thing is OP and ISA are probably uglier than you to the point where most men wouldn't even sleep with them unless they are desperate.

You don't even know what ISA and I look like. We're very insecure, but that doesn't mean what we say about ourselves is true.

[Goody2Shoes-x]

(Original post by Anonymous)
OK, everyone I appreciate all the positive comments.

I'm going to get help. I'm going to see a councillor and get myself together. I want to help myself. I can't live like this forever.

I am going to try to take better care of myself, accept my flaws and work on whats on the inside. To the person who said I'm not intelligent because I got a C in maths, that was the only C I got in my GCSE's, the rest were A*'s and A's and I have an offer from Warwick university. So there.

I'm very insecure and have extremely low self-esteem. But I am willing to take the steps needed to get better.

This isn't going to be easy but it needs to be done. I hope ISA and many other girls who feel like I do follow suit. It's time to take control of my life and get my **** together.

PS, I'm not a troll, I've just hit rock bottom and need to get professional help. But I am willing to help myself.

See, that's so much better! An offer form Warwick is really good, you should be really proud of yourself. I hope you find what you're looking for, good luck with everything.

[Goody2Shoes-x]

(Original post by Simplicity)
I suppose you got a lot of dominant features. But, you aren't ugly. Most men would sleep with you. I suppose you aren't stunning in the sense, but you aren't ugly.

But, yeah personally you should have no trouble getting a bf. If you look like that when you are crap I'm sure when you are done up and don't look depressed you can get guys if you act approachable.

The thing is OP and ISA are probably uglier than you to the point where most men wouldn't even sleep with them unless they are desperate.

My point in posting the pic is to show that everyone has their imperfections, their good and bad days, and we just need to accept that. I'm personally content with my looks, other than the fact I'd like to be slimmer, but I'm working on that. If I were to obsess over every little detail about myself that's not perfect, I'd drive myself bonkers because as you pointed out, I'm certainly no stunner. And I say (or type) this with a smile because I'm happy just being me. It's my face I'm used to it and that's good enough for me.

[ilovelabradors]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I'm 18 years old, still single, never had a boyfriend, still a virgin never been kissed etc. I am extremely and repulsively ugly. I have been told this by people at school and I am 100% sure this is true. Call me insecure, but only people who look like me are very insecure with themselves.

When I was younger, I was very delusional. I believed that one day I'd marry a rich and attractive man and we'd have kids and live a nice life. Total bull****.

I was even told once by boy, that I'm too ugly to get married. He asked his friends if they agreed with him and they said yes. Mind you, this came out of the blue.

What can I do? I'd love to have kids, I adore babysitting my neighbor's kids and teaching them.

I also believe I'd be a good wife too. I can cook well, I'm intelligent and hard working, I listen, I care, I make people laugh. I'm always supportive of people in my life. I do selfless things all the time.

But since I am shocking unattractive, I am as they say "forever alone".

Its heartbreaking because I want to live a regular life, but I can't. Whenever I see couples/women with children/new born babies I can't help but feel depressed.

When I read the title, I thought this was about someone severely ill, with an illness that would prevent them to do most things...

First of all, beauty, or the lack of it, is a subjective matter. Second of all, in the real world (out of sixth form) lots of things are different. When people grow up, and I am surprised that you haven't noticed that since you are 18 already, people tend to be more sensible and don't really judge people on their looks. Who cares what those guys said? They probably idiots, otherwise they wouldn't act like that anyway. Then you should also consider that you just don't find the right guy because you have the right face, but because you have the right attitude. I will give you an example. I don't mean to sound cockey, but when I was in sixth form I had a friend that was always mocked by stupid guys in school because she sent a letter to one of them and they all replied with offensive words calling her monster and such like that. The guys that were not making fun of her were simply ignoring her. I had loads of guys inviting me out, wanting to be my friends because I was considered very pretty (so they used to say). Now I am 27 and I am single. I am happy that I am single, but sometimes I wish I had found the right guy! My last boyfriend was such an ass that it took well over a year to get over it. I am now feeling like it would be good to meet someone special again, but I spent all this time feeling so miserable because of the experience I had with him. The boyfriend I had before him went ok but if I look back I can tell that my love life pretty much sucked immediately after a levels, which was when I started to have one anyway as before I was more interested in studying and hanging with my friends. The other girl is happily married and she's expecting a baby. She married like 4 years ago but dated for 1 or 2 years the same guy she's married with.

The difference is that if you are usually seen as less attractive by guys, only really cool and honest guys try to meet you/be with you. If you are considered to be attractive you'll attract all sort bloody idiots out there and you will end up liking one of them and it will end badly. For some reason, most really cool guys tend to think they don't stand a chance with you if you are considered to be attractive by most of people because they think you are out of their league.

Of course you need to like yourself, I am sure you're overreacting, my friend is not ugly like they used to say, I wouldn't say she is beautiful but she surely isn't ugly. It's just that people in school are really mean. Like someone else say, it will feel good if you have a good body as that will make you feel better. But most importantly, it's important that you feel good about yourself and carry a smile in your face. A smile in your face makes you beautiful instantly.

Besides you're too young to think about rejection! Just enjoy yourself try to have good friends (not idiots that only care about appearance) and be happy.

[victorialou23]

you're comparing yourself to all the other women around you with the marriage and kids thing, at your age its you should be worried about, focus on your school/education and social life and activities be a first rate version of yourself not a second rate version of some ideal. saying that you'd be a good wife in the traditional sense is great but thats not all guys look for these days. If you focus on yourself give yourself as many new opportunities as possible you will find your good at something maybe you'll be really good at volley ball once you find something like that your confidence will grow and the things that you do and enjoy will make you a more interesting person, confidence and being interesting are qualities that you can make shine, its not all looks in this day and age you know these things will add to your personality and for every guy thats attracted to look theres another attracted to personality, thing more about what you want to do for a career and travelling than being a wife and mother. anybody can become that but you need to find your thing that makes you you and gives you a sense of self identity x

[im so academic]

(Original post by MancBoy)
You say you're 'ugly' but would you ever date an 'ugly' guy?

Most of the people who complain about other people being shallow are usually the ones who primarily go for the attractive people, get rejected and are bitter because of it.

Depends what you mean by "ugly".

You should never be in a relationship if you don't find the person sexually attractive.

[PlanetTea]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I'm 18 years old, still single, never had a boyfriend, still a virgin never been kissed etc. I am extremely and repulsively ugly. I have been told this by people at school and I am 100% sure this is true. Call me insecure, but only people who look like me are very insecure with themselves.

When I was younger, I was very delusional. I believed that one day I'd marry a rich and attractive man and we'd have kids and live a nice life. Total bull****.

I was even told once by boy, that I'm too ugly to get married. He asked his friends if they agreed with him and they said yes. Mind you, this came out of the blue.

What can I do? I'd love to have kids, I adore babysitting my neighbor's kids and teaching them.

I also believe I'd be a good wife too. I can cook well, I'm intelligent and hard working, I listen, I care, I make people laugh. I'm always supportive of people in my life. I do selfless things all the time.

But since I am shocking unattractive, I am as they say "forever alone".

Its heartbreaking because I want to live a regular life, but I can't. Whenever I see couples/women with children/new born babies I can't help but feel depressed.

Looks seem to be too important in this culture. I doubt you're as bad as you think, and if you do look a bit rough around the edges this can be improved upon easily - for your confidence, for your self esteem, not because you feel you should be a certain way. There are so many women I would describe as 'normal' looking, not exceptionally pretty just normal, but it is their personalities which make them something special. And don't listen to those people who say that 'nobody really cares about personality, its really about looks' - this is NOT true.

Yes, people who are physically attractive I believe have an easier time of it, people like them quicker and they get breaks purely because of their appearance. But in the end their looks need to be backed up with a personality thats going to make people think their worth having around.

Someone like you, who is thoughtful, clever and hard working is the sort of person I would love to be around and I'm sure that many men would feel the same.

Please inbox me, I don't like the idea of you upsetting yourself over something like this. Its a waste of your energys.

[snowyowl]

I used to think like you, OP, when I was 18. This is me now:



I'm 21 now - it's been a slow process but I'm learning to accept myself. I've been with my partner for 2 and a half years now and we plan to have kids together in the future, something I thought would never happen to me. Someone out there will love you as you are.

[7tinsdear]

when the time will come you will get your soul-mate for sure till then have patience and believe in God...