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Why am I like this when it comes to clothes? How can I make an effort ??

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    Ok so Im trying to wear more fashionable clothes because all i ever wear is jeans and a sports jumper really. Im sloppy when it comes to clothes because Im either working- in which case I wear work clothes, doing sports - i'l wear sports gear or I'l just be staying in the house all day. I just think well theres no point wearing nice stuff and wasting it on being at home. But then when im at home i'l nip out to the shop or whatever and look scruffy so I have the label of 'plain jane'. How can I convince myself to wear nice stuff? My hobbies involve getting sweaty in sport or else dog walking I dont really drink/socialise much.

    Also I dont know how others go about it. Do you wake up and think what to wear, what matches what etc? Or do you decide the night before? Even when im going to uni I think well i'l oly be in the lecture for an hour and am not likely to meet any nice guys or anything nor get approached so i might as well wear jeans and hooded top s they are comfy. Thing is ive still not got a boyfriend so want to make an effort.

    So yea almost every girl i see these days has nice trendy clothes on (not dressed like a tramp like me) so they must think its worthwhile looking nice...
    I do have nice clothes but every day I think 'theres no point wasting them if im not doing much today' but then they never get worn. I cant be bothered deciding what matches what every morning but how do most girls go about this?

    Its same with pjamas, i sleep alone obviously so dont mind going to bed in a scruffy t shirt even if it has a stain on it. It would totally turn a guy off but then ive no boyfriend so whats the point? How can i change my mentality?
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    Most girls will dress nice to feel good about themselves. That's why I do it.
    As for deciding what to wear, it depends on where I'm going and whether it's planned. Sometimes before bed, I will think about possible outfits but usually it's spontaneous and whatever is ready to wear in my wardrobe.
    I think you just need to decide whether the extra effort is worth it
    As for pjs, wouldn't worry too much about them. I have lots of nice sets but usually go to bed in just a vest because I get too hot! And there is nothing wrong with not wearing anything nice if you're not going anywhere!
    Just take small steps, e.g next time you're in uni, wear something nice that you'll feel good in
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    I often decide what I'll wear the night before. If not then I'll think about it in the shower. I don't want to go out looking scruffy. I don't make a huge effort if I'm just going to the opticians/dentist/hairdresser (mostly 'cause my make-up would risk getting messed up!) but I'll dress up for everything else. Eg: even if I'm just going to grab coffee with my best friend of 15 years I'll still make the effort to look nice even though I know she wouldn't care if I look plain - same when I go out with her for dinner (our monthly "thing" because we don't see each other much since leaving secondary school). I always make an effort for college too or even if my friends are simply coming over. For me, I don't care who it is I meet - I want to look presentable and to give the general impression that I'm confident/respect myself.

    My way around it is not having too many clothes for just lounging around the house in. I've only one pair of cropped trousers and a couple of tops that I don't care if they get destroyed (I've four cats. They have claws. Claws + fabric = not a good look) and that's about all I wear inside. I never wear the same clothes in the house that I wear outdoors unless I wore them earlier in the day.

    As for PJs - I find the less material the better is most comfortable for me. I even keep a spare vest top with lace trim and a pair of shorts in the bag I take to clubs (also spare contact lenses and a toothbrush!) just in case I end up staying out for the night at someone's house.
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    I always make an effort with my clothes (and make-up, my hair does it's own thick wavy thing that's not worth styling daily). I just feel more 'put together' and capable of everything that I might do in a day if I'm looking as good as I can. But that doesn't mean being overly trendy, wearing designer clothes or looking 'sexy'. It means wearing clothes that flatter my body shape and are comfortable to move around in. Like today as it's raining I'm just wearing jeans, converse and a plaid shirt but the jeans are rolled up to show a little ankle (my legs are my best feature), I've matched the shirt and undershirt to the bra that at some point will (actually did) show due to me not being aware of how my movement effects my clothes and I've made the same effort with my make-up and jewellery that I do every day (I won't leave the house without my 'face' on). Even if I'm in a big hoodie with my hair tied up in a very messy bun (as I was at the supermarket this morning) I still do my make-up and generally carry myself in a way that makes me feel confident. And I never plan what I'm wearing the night before as my mood (and the weather) changes far too often for any forward planning. Generally I'll just put stuff on or if I'm in a hurry plan my outfit in the shower.
    So yeah, feel confident in what your wearing and wear stuff that flatters you. Honestly, I think that it's really not worth trying to be trendy but rather just make sure that whatever you're wearing looks good on you and makes you feel good. A person in a well-fitting pair of jeans and a cute hoodie looks miles better than someone struggling in heels with their ill-fitting tights falling down and dress clinging to all the wrong places.
    Also, I've met more guys wearing 'comfy' outfits than I have when I've tried to be trendy. People notice confidence, not how fashionable you are.
    As for nightwear, I sleep in a giant tee (mens size extra-large) and knickers... What's the point in spending money on stuff that you're just going to sleep in? (Also, men seem to find it very attractive when you wear their tops to bed...)
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    (Original post by nextplanet)
    Ok so Im trying to wear more fashionable clothes because all i ever wear is jeans and a sports jumper really. Im sloppy when it comes to clothes because Im either working- in which case I wear work clothes, doing sports - i'l wear sports gear or I'l just be staying in the house all day. I just think well theres no point wearing nice stuff and wasting it on being at home. But then when im at home i'l nip out to the shop or whatever and look scruffy so I have the label of 'plain jane'. How can I convince myself to wear nice stuff? My hobbies involve getting sweaty in sport or else dog walking I dont really drink/socialise much.

    Also I dont know how others go about it. Do you wake up and think what to wear, what matches what etc? Or do you decide the night before? Even when im going to uni I think well i'l oly be in the lecture for an hour and am not likely to meet any nice guys or anything nor get approached so i might as well wear jeans and hooded top s they are comfy. Thing is ive still not got a boyfriend so want to make an effort.

    So yea almost every girl i see these days has nice trendy clothes on (not dressed like a tramp like me) so they must think its worthwhile looking nice...
    I do have nice clothes but every day I think 'theres no point wasting them if im not doing much today' but then they never get worn. I cant be bothered deciding what matches what every morning but how do most girls go about this?

    Its same with pjamas, i sleep alone obviously so dont mind going to bed in a scruffy t shirt even if it has a stain on it. It would totally turn a guy off but then ive no boyfriend so whats the point? How can i change my mentality?
    If you like wearing jeans and a hoodie, you could try nice skinny jeans and a shirt/blouse or something, it's not too different but would accentuate your figure and stuff.
    Also knitted jumpers instead of hoodies?
    I don't dress really fancy all the time, I am a sucker for leggings, so I'll either wear them with shorts or a skirt with a t-shirt or vest top. It's still pretty casual and super comfy but a bit more fashionable.
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    If I'm staying in my flat and revising all day then I'll just be in jeans and a jumper/shirt because there's not point making an effort

    But if I'm going out somewhere then I'll definitely put on something nicer, and I don't feel comfortable leaving the flat without foundation or eyebrow pencil on
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    I love my comfy hoodies and jeans! unless it's about -5 outside, then I'll usually wear some jeans, (skinny or baggy boyfriend), a t-shirt and long cardigans. My style is pretty much the same but I try and accessorise with different scarves, bags and coloured cardigans and stuff.

    Don't dress to impress. There's no point, because you won't feel as confident as you do in clothes you're happy with. X
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    You don't need to look like you're just off a fashion runway, it's very easy to dress for lectures and remain comfortable. You do NOT need to be uncomfortable to look good and feel a little bit more well-dressed. the most important thing with clothing after all, is that you're comfortable.

    Jeans: jeans are going to be the highlight of your wardrobe. You already wear them, so just make sure you have a pair that look good, fit well and make you feel great. Skinny jeans are without a doubt the most popular. I'd suggest getting a dark denim pair, a black pair and a paler denim wash at the minimum. Topshops supersoft 'leigh' jeans are my personal favourite, but New Look do a similar super soft pair. They're more comfortable and they look great. Another alternative to dress up jeans a little more are the incredibly popular different coloured jeans that are in all the shops now. If you don't want to go wild with colours, you could just pick something like bright cobalt blue (still quite 'jeansy'), it looks great paired with a crisp white top.

    Leggings: Get a few good quality pairs that aren't thin or see through. Just make SURE that you always cover your ass when you're wearing leggings.

    Tank tops and tunic tops are both great, comfortable and simple things that can be worn, layered and mixed for different looks, and they're usually pretty cheap so you can get a variety of different colours, styles, slogan tops, etc. If you're feeling particularly lazy, a long tank top, leggings and a slouchy cardigan with ballet pumps look great. you don't need to make a massive effort to look good.

    If you want to be a little bit more 'girlie', a sheer shirt looks beautiful when it's worn over leggings (again, provided the shirt covers your ass).

    Dresses are hugely versatile and way more comfortable than people give them credit for, especially 'fit and flare' style ones that flare out at the hips and can easily be worn with tights (like http://www.topshop.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?beginIndex=0&view AllFlag=&catalogId=33057&storeId =12556&productId=5692666&langId=-1&sort_field=Relevance&categoryI d=208523&parent_categoryId=20398 4&pageSize=200&refinements=categ ory~[257491|208523]&noOfRefinements=1#1342473818113 1&currencySymbol:£^preferr edUrl:www.topshop.com^langId:-1^country:Ireland^languagenglish^explicit:true^viewed:true ^storeId:12556^salesCatalogId:33 057. If you want to dress them up a bit, they look great with a fitted blazer or leather biker jacket.

    Shoes are another way to dress up or down an outfit. Ballet pumps can be very cute but if you prefer wearing runners then there are TONS of more fashionable ones you can wear, they don't have to just be boring white ones. Vans, converse and keds all do great styles, as does any good shoe shops 'own' range.


    Accessories are absolutely key to making your outfits 'feel' different. If you have your ears pierced, a cute pair of oversized studs can make an outfit a lot more fun and interesting, and they're so cheap. Necklaces and cocktail rings are great if you're bothered as well.

    Best places to shop for this kind of thing: Forever 21, New Look, H&M, Topshop, vintage shops/markets, ebay, Primark, etsy.com, ASOS.

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