[MancBoy]

(Original post by ANM775)
my advice to anyone who is not having much luck with online dating is to either try bars, or start making more female friends... and then you'll eventually get to meet their female friends and then it's so much easier than if you were messaging them through an online dating site or trying to chat them up in bar/club.

Agreed. Less degrading, less effort and less time wasted when meeting girls offline. I was lucky on online dating a few times but I got tired of all the sycophancy and bull****.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by jblackmoustache)
Dating in general gets harder when you're a minority race and you're a guy depending on where you are in the UK.

I feel sorry for Asian dudes. They seem to have it way harder than us black guys unless they're 'model material' or some ****

Agreed , minorities do have it tougher, no matter what people say. Especially asians.

[RealCrazyBliter]

Just a quick follow-up to the impossible meeting thing. Was supposed to meet up with one girl tonight but when it came right down to it-she weren't nowhere to be found and has now all of a sudden stopped replying to text messages :P. Ah the wonders of online. That's enough for me I think. Not nice.

[DancinBallerina]

Tried the whole online dating lark - after being used time and time again, im done with it!!

[Lucia.]

Online dating is leaving a lot to be desired at the moment, although happily there are some good people to talk to. No one amazing yet.

[DancinBallerina]

(Original post by Lucia.)
Online dating is leaving a lot to be desired at the moment, although happily there are some good people to talk to. No one amazing yet.

I got screwed over, so although yes nice people to talk to, go careful! lol

[DamnDirtyGrapes]

I mailed about 4 people tonight, all 'intelligent' people who had a lot more than 'I love to sociliz' 'I luv to laff' on their profile.

And these were messages specific to their interests, as if they had bought them up in a regular conversation. They all looked at my profile and didn't reply.


Self esteem lvl up.

[Dark Horse]

Lol, read this on a 8/10s profile tonight.

In an ideal world i would date someone who is romantic, faithful, about 6'2, muscular, (tall, dark, handsome type), ambitious, had lots of friends and had a good balance between spending time with me and them, a nice car, buys me things, gets on with his mum, gets on with my family, well educated (atleast can spell lol), nice to my mates and is a big softy.
I know it's probs not going to happen but theres nothing wrong with having high standards.
I just made myself sound really shallow... Im not shallow!


No tears, only dreams now.

[Stevo112]

(Original post by Dark Horse)
Lol, read this on a 8/10s profile tonight.

In an ideal world i would date someone who is romantic, faithful, about 6'2, muscular, (tall, dark, handsome type), ambitious, had lots of friends and had a good balance between spending time with me and them, a nice car, buys me things, gets on with his mum, gets on with my family, well educated (atleast can spell lol), nice to my mates and is a big softy.
I know it's probs not going to happen but theres nothing wrong with having high standards.
I just made myself sound really shallow... Im not shallow!


No tears, only dreams now.

The funny thing is, I personally match up quite a bit!

- 6ft 3
- not overly muscular but I work out
- ambitious
- maybe not the lots of friends bit
- no car
- the rest are mostly spot on.


and yet because it is online dating I would have zero chance with her. Admittedly I wouldn't go for this type of girl though because she seems too hung up on the money aspect and i'm not the sort of bloke to be taken for a ride (though I do like to bawl it from time to time but only with girls who don't EXPECT me to do it!)

Online dating sucks You call this girl an 8/10... I wouldn't give her higher than a 2/10, irrespective of picture

[Dark Horse]

(Original post by Stevo112)
The funny thing is, I personally match up quite a bit!

- 6ft 3
- not overly muscular but I work out
- ambitious
- maybe not the lots of friends bit
- no car
- the rest are mostly spot on.


and yet because it is online dating I would have zero chance with her. Admittedly I wouldn't go for this type of girl though because she seems too hung up on the money aspect and i'm not the sort of bloke to be taken for a ride (though I do like to bawl it from time to time but only with girls who don't EXPECT me to do it!)

Online dating sucks You call this girl an 8/10... I wouldn't give her higher than a 2/10, irrespective of picture

She actually is an 8/10 and would probably rise to a 10/10 if her dance moves were good (she states that she's a pretty serious dancer and into various other performing arts stuff).

But I agree, it would be impossible to demonstrate most of these qualities over a dating site.

EDIT: On closer examination she has a mirror photo of her rear in skinny jeans and most of the flesh of her top half showing. So despite her long and detailed profile perhaps she is only interested in digging for compliments. I guess Facebook doesn't provide a high enough flow rate of compliments these days to prime the egos of certain individuals.

[Stevo112]

(Original post by Dark Horse)
She actually is an 8/10 and would probably rise to a 10/10 if her dance moves were good (she states that she's a pretty serious dancer and into various other performing arts stuff).

But I agree, it would be impossible to demonstrate most of these qualities over a dating site.

EDIT: On closer examination she has a mirror photo of her rear in skinny jeans and most of the flesh of her top half showing. So despite her long and detailed profile perhaps she is only interested in digging for compliments. I guess Facebook doesn't provide a high enough flow rate of compliments these days to prime the egos of certain individuals.

I don't rate girls on looks dude...

The money part really grinds me! I'm not working my ass off just so some "8/10" can tell me to spend money on her and nice cars


I would much rather be forever alone than be with that kind of girl. I just don't get how guys can fall for them!

I think the problem which girls have is the problem I have too. You can say one wrong thing or have one bad quality and suddenly you are ruled out. Unfortunately, as a guy, i'd rule said girl out in a heartbeat (for reasons stated) but the girls don't queue up for me so i'm screwed

But in real life, if you get over the stage-fright thing, you can pull soooo much easier! With some balls a lot of guys on dating sites could pull 1000x more girls in real life

[Lucia.]

(Original post by Stevo112)
I think the problem which girls have is the problem I have too. You can say one wrong thing or have one bad quality and suddenly you are ruled out.

Yeah it's dumb. All I said to one guy (after we'd had an exchange of say 5-6 messages) was that getting one message from him made me smile (haha I wasn't lying and it did) and he stopped communicating. I am not the clingy type but what I said probably came across that way to him for whatever reason. Disnae bother me though - more fish in the sea.

I'm about to send my first message (I know haha). Have to attempt to sound like an interesting person now.

People are pretty blanket on dating websites. Any guy who says they are interested in casual sex is off the radar then there are subtleties about how what you're saying comes across. It's not as if you've done anything wrong - people read into what you say based on their own insecurities or relationship experiences. Sometimes a hunch proves correct. I don't blame people for being discerning.

I try and read between the lines and take it with a pinch of salt. You have to give people a reasonable chance.

[NB_ide]

(Original post by RealCrazyBliter)
Just a quick follow-up to the impossible meeting thing. Was supposed to meet up with one girl tonight but when it came right down to it-she weren't nowhere to be found and has now all of a sudden stopped replying to text messages :P. Ah the wonders of online. That's enough for me I think. Not nice.

Happens.

(Original post by DamnDirtyGrapes)
I mailed about 4 people tonight, all 'intelligent' people who had a lot more than 'I love to sociliz' 'I luv to laff' on their profile.

And these were messages specific to their interests, as if they had bought them up in a regular conversation. They all looked at my profile and didn't reply.


Self esteem lvl up.

Eventually you'll take note of my posts in this thread and start sending messages that actually attract replies. Everyone has to learn the hard way, though.

[masterfulprof]

(Original post by Lucia.)
Online dating is leaving a lot to be desired at the moment, although happily there are some good people to talk to. No one amazing yet.

So it's up to me to be the lone voice in the wilderness. Online dating is great for me. I've met most of my mistresses that way and I get plenty of responses to my various enticements. From the mild to wild.

The most entertaining thing is messaging the girls who claim "stay away if you're only interested in one thing" and eventually, meeting and taking them. Typical hypocrisy!

[fleesaurus]

I've experimented on OkCupid. Created four male profiles and messaged the same rather attractive white blonde female who said in her profile she's looking for a nice guy, don't message her if you're going to type a one liner.

Average looking black male photo: messaged her two paragraphs commenting on her profile hobbies and expressing interest in them. Received reply saying she has no idea why I decided to message her an essay.

Average looking Indian male photo and marked profile as high income earner: received a one liner reply in response to three sentences.

Rugby looking white male: asked if she'd be interested in meeting up for a drink. She claims she's currently busy, has no phone, and after a second message to her, she's ignoring me now.

Posh looking white male with profile marked as high earner: sent her a one liner commenting on her bust and she replied me within ten minutes asking for my phone number.

This experiment is just based on one female, but the result is she's only interested in casual sex with a filthy rich white male, despite marking her profile as looking for long-term relationship and acting like she's looking for a gentleman and open minded to all ethnicities. And even though her profile is asking guys not to reply with one liners or "Hi, how are you?" she chose to respond to a one liner only.

[Dark Horse]

(Original post by fleesaurus)
I've experimented on OkCupid. Created four male profiles and messaged the same rather attractive white blonde female who said in her profile she's looking for a nice guy, don't message her if you're going to type a one liner.

Average looking black male photo: messaged her two paragraphs commenting on her profile hobbies and expressing interest in them. Received reply saying she has no idea why I decided to message her an essay.

Average looking Indian male photo and marked profile as high income earner: received a one liner reply in response to three sentences.

Rugby looking white male: asked if she'd be interested in meeting up for a drink. She claims she's currently busy, has no phone, and after a second message to her, she's ignoring me now.

Posh looking white male with profile marked as high earner: sent her a one liner commenting on her bust and she replied me within ten minutes asking for my phone number.

This experiment is just based on one female, but the result is she's only interested in casual sex with a filthy rich white male, despite marking her profile as looking for long-term relationship and acting like she's looking for a gentleman and open minded to all ethnicities. And even though her profile is asking guys not to reply with one liners or "Hi, how are you?" she chose to respond to a one liner only.

Lol I've done stuff like this before. I pinched a perfectly aesthetic males pictures of BB.com Bodyspace. So obviously we're talking a very ripped physique. I implied all the other necessities such as high earner and tried to imply other things in the profile.

The experiment went badly. Was still receiving disappointing replies and even fat girls were being obnoxious. A

And also what is with fat girls on this site listing themselves as "average body type".

[Stevo112]

(Original post by Lucia.)
Yeah it's dumb. All I said to one guy (after we'd had an exchange of say 5-6 messages) was that getting one message from him made me smile (haha I wasn't lying and it did) and he stopped communicating. I am not the clingy type but what I said probably came across that way to him for whatever reason. Disnae bother me though - more fish in the sea.

I'm about to send my first message (I know haha). Have to attempt to sound like an interesting person now.

People are pretty blanket on dating websites. Any guy who says they are interested in casual sex is off the radar then there are subtleties about how what you're saying comes across. It's not as if you've done anything wrong - people read into what you say based on their own insecurities or relationship experiences. Sometimes a hunch proves correct. I don't blame people for being discerning.

I try and read between the lines and take it with a pinch of salt. You have to give people a reasonable chance.

Then you are certainly the exception

I can't stand the dating sites. You spend hours chasing girls who won't give you a chance and then you can go out and pull some random girl on the street by doing next to nothing!

[magicman1]

(Original post by Dark Horse)
Lol I've done stuff like this before. I pinched a perfectly aesthetic males pictures of BB.com Bodyspace. So obviously we're talking a very ripped physique. I implied all the other necessities such as high earner and tried to imply other things in the profile.

The experiment went badly. Was still receiving disappointing replies and even fat girls were being obnoxious. A

And also what is with fat girls on this site listing themselves as "average body type".

lol, a wild snorlax appears and, wait...A HORDE OF THEM!

If you need to make a profile to get replies from women, you already know the answer. They're superficial and are best kept at a distance.

I knew this girl at work who went on POF and by no means is she a looker. She said she gets loads of emssages off guys and she enjoys the attention. I laughed at her for a long time and said to her face "thats why POF sucks". She didn't like that.

(Original post by Stevo112)
I don't rate girls on looks dude...

The money part really grinds me! I'm not working my ass off just so some "8/10" can tell me to spend money on her and nice cars


I just don't get how guys can fall for them!

But in real life, if you get over the stage-fright thing, you can pull soooo much easier! With some balls a lot of guys on dating sites could pull 1000x more girls in real life

I rate girls on the basis of being attracted to them. if I am not attracted to them sexually I wont really see them anything more than a friend.

If I am attracted to her I will then check out her personality, whats she like? How does she behave? What does she say/do?

I have laughed at many girls who are as dense as a freakin brick, shallower than a puddle, stuck-up their own arse and have a sense of worth that because they have a vajayjay, they think they can rule me.

I have a facebook feed of a group with mainly women in their 18-23 age range.they had a few of them break up or had guys cheat and possibly forgetting that 2 men were in this group, they started slagging off the entire male race lol. it was hilarious.

(Original post by Dark Horse)
She actually is an 8/10 and would probably rise to a 10/10 if her dance moves were good (she states that she's a pretty serious dancer and into various other performing arts stuff).

Who cares if she is an 8/10. Come mid/late 20s women either get with the program or suffer. trust me.

[Dark Horse]

(Original post by magicman1)

Who cares if she is an 8/10. Come mid/late 20s women either get with the program or suffer. trust me.

It's a poor strategy because women's looks (atleast in my generation, I feel) start to decline the minute they're allowed to legally drink.

I remember back when I was 18 when most of the girls I knew looked healthy, lean and still had that healthy glow. Now just after a few of years of binge drinking and crap dietary habits and various other influential factors they just look considerably worse. Not butt-ugly but they look worse. I'd even say that their attractiveness is entirely dependent on their dress sense and make-up application.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by repoman)
Im british asian in my mid 20's. I try to message women, and race does not matter to me. Most tend to be white women (due to demographics and they are more white women in this country than other races...duh!). I wouldnt say most women are picky on race, as actually all the dates and relationships ive been with is white women - Apart from one indian girl I went on a date with but stopped seeing her because she never iniated conversation, Ive never had any interest from any other race of women - no asian, afro-caribbean, european etc...Again it does not bother me, but I can't see why only one race of women would be attracted to me.

I did go on a date with a girl a few years ago, afterwards we felt we didnt click and left it as that. I looked at her profile a few days ago and she had made some changes, saying she only wants to date caucasian guys so why did she go on a date with me?!

Like I said, probably most women would say they are not bothered about skin colour when it comes to dating, but I think some dont always tell the truth. On okcupid one of the questions people can fill out and others can see is "Would you strongly prefer to go out with someone of your own race/skin colour". For women in their 20s, I was surprised that quite a few (though less than half) actually said yes. Offtopic but even more surprising, a lot of women in 20s would consider dating guys just for the sex, again I thought women would tend to want to setttle down by then and not want a casual relationship or FWB.

Being a british asian, had the same experience too. All the girls I have ever been with are white.

Actually my ex told me on one of our dates that she never ever thought that she would date a muslim guy. Was my personality that did it.

We ended up getting into a r/ship.

A word of note to people - she has had 'muslim' guys chase her in night clubs. They got nowhere. Probably because it is all looks based in that kind of environment.