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  1. minimarshmallow's Avatar
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    Re: Just got assaulted and can't stop replaying it
    If you know who it was, report it to the police. Even if they only get a warning you'll feel like you were able to do something about it - and if they already have a warning they'll get into trouble and if they don't but they do it again they'll get into more trouble.
    I was attacked by a girl who thought I had come onto her boyfriend when I was in high school. I was with a friend on the way to the toilet and she charged across the school with a massive crowd of people following her. I still replay it in my head now in the same way you do, and it was 5 years ago. But it does get easier.
    And definitely talk to someone, be it a counsellor or a friend.
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    How did they get away with it!?!? Especially if the guy fessed up names
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    Re: Just got assaulted and can't stop replaying it
    (Original post by Aeonstorm)
    How did they get away with it!?!? Especially if the guy fessed up names
    I don't know. My Aunt and Uncle are police officers (well, my Uncle is retired now) but they sort of kept tabs on it. To be honest, after everything, I just wanted to forget about it. It still knocks me sick and I have flashbacks but there's not much you can do really.
    Just goes to show what is wrong with the police. I used to get in a lot of trouble with the police, and it never went further than a "telling off". Maybe that's why there is so much crime, especially in Manchester. BIG generalisation, but maybe if the police were a lot harsher, then the streets would be a lot cleaner.
    But that's just my opinion
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    Re: Just got assaulted and can't stop replaying it
    buy a punch bag, hang it in your room, and release some anger! also it'll help train your punches in case you need them in self-defense
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    Wow, thanks for all the advice. I already do kickboxing and I can throw a decent punch, but with 2 of them squaring up to me and a couple of them behind them, I didn't dare. Especially since my "mates" had already legged it. And I have no idea who they were, and they had hoodys on so I couldn't see. I don't think "chavvy and arrogant" is enough for the police.

    But thanks for the advice
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    And I know that it could have been a lot worse than bleeding, broken braces and pain, it just scared me to think what could have happened
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    (Original post by KnapAttackUK)
    Basically, yesterday when I was walking home from school with 2 friends, someone stopped us and demanded a password. We ignored him and kept walking. Next thing I know, I've been spun around and punched in the face enough to draw a lot of blood. Neither of my friends helped, and there was two off them, so I ran off :/

    Now I can't stop freaking out about "what ifs", like if they knocked me down or if I'd hit them back. The worst thing is I walk past that road every day, and they'll recognise me.

    What do I do, or what should I have done?
    The same kind of thing happend to me last week =/ I was walking from a bus stop I always walk from. As I was walking down the road two 20-30 year olds on bikes asked me, "do you want some pizza?".

    As I looked behind me they had no pizza, so I knew they just wanted trouble. Then after this, one of them pushed me and I tripped over. As I got up one of them went to hit me, completley missed and instinctively I punched him. Then the other guy hit me , in the ribs, so then I knee'd him in the face. They both got back on their bikes and scurried away.

    It was quite invigorating but at the same time I was dissapointed with myself. I just thought why should have I had to defend myself.

    Personally I'm quite noncombatant but you should always be prepared. If it happens to you again, I think you should ask a patrol officer maybe to watch the area.
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    Re: Just got assaulted and can't stop replaying it
    (Original post by KnapAttackUK)
    Basically, yesterday when I was walking home from school with 2 friends, someone stopped us and demanded a password. We ignored him and kept walking. Next thing I know, I've been spun around and punched in the face enough to draw a lot of blood. Neither of my friends helped, and there was two off them, so I ran off :/

    Now I can't stop freaking out about "what ifs", like if they knocked me down or if I'd hit them back. The worst thing is I walk past that road every day, and they'll recognise me.

    What do I do, or what should I have done?
    Password? Sounds like a little kid? And he just punched you man up lol..

    Anyways, you should never be friends with someone who you can't rely on and trust in urgent situations (e.g. this one). Choose your friends wisely; your's seem like cowards (no offence).

    I suggest you start boxing.. Once you learn the technique, you will be much more confident, trust me
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    EDIT: And don't bother reporting it to the police, they won't do ANYTHING useful
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    (Original post by xXxiKillxXx)
    EDIT: And don't bother reporting it to the police, they won't do ANYTHING useful
    While it's true that the police won't do a damn thing, you should still report it. If people don't report crimes when they happen then what's the point in even having laws?
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    (Original post by Klayton)
    While it's true that the police won't do a damn thing, you should still report it. If people don't report crimes when they happen then what's the point in even having laws?
    Well it depends on the severity of the crime. If the OP was stabbed, then okay, he could report it and the police would do something.. But being beaten up will just get the perpetrators a police interview.. (if that).
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    Re: Just got assaulted and can't stop replaying it
    (Original post by xXxiKillxXx)
    Well it depends on the severity of the crime. If the OP was stabbed, then okay, he could report it and the police would do something.. But being beaten up will just get the perpetrators a police interview.. (if that).
    K I don't know about Britain, but in Australia (our law is based on British common law), getting beaten up constitutes 'assault causing actual bodily harm' (battery) which carries a maximum sentence of 5 years jail, and what Billton experienced would likely have been grievous bodily harm, which carries a maximum sentence of 25 years jail. How can people only get a mere police interview in Britain?

    Edit: http://www.inbrief.co.uk/offences/assualt-gbh-abh.htm Actually it is quite similar in Britain, its just that first-time offenders usually get a fine for actual bodily harm. For grievous bodily harm though, you go straight to jail; no chance of a fine.
    Last edited by Aeonstorm; 03-05-2012 at 14:04.
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    Take up something like Krav Maga. Obviously in a confrontation the best martial art is 100 meter sprint-fu but taking something such as Krav will boost your confidence and you'll learn how to not make yourself a target. Also, give your mates a slap, they should have backed you up.
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    All of those people suggesting he takes some form of self defence (whilst its a good idea, not knocking it) You also need to consider that it will take a while for him to become proficient enough to defend himself on the street. And even an experience martial artist would have trouble dealing with more than 2 or 3 people against them.

    just a thought
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    a password for what? :s
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    Re: Just got assaulted and can't stop replaying it
    happened to me once when i was walking home late one evening through Victoria, tended to carry a maglight in my bag since..
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    Re: Just got assaulted and can't stop replaying it
    (Original post by Aeonstorm)
    K I don't know about Britain, but in Australia (our law is based on British common law), getting beaten up constitutes 'assault causing actual bodily harm' (battery) which carries a maximum sentence of 5 years jail, and what Billton experienced would likely have been grievous bodily harm, which carries a maximum sentence of 25 years jail. How can people only get a mere police interview in Britain?

    Edit: http://www.inbrief.co.uk/offences/assualt-gbh-abh.htm Actually it is quite similar in Britain, its just that first-time offenders usually get a fine for actual bodily harm. For grievous bodily harm though, you go straight to jail; no chance of a fine.
    The thing is, in the UK, people who commit crime are let off easily. Getting beaten up will RARELY get the perpetrator a lengthy jail sentence. Seriously injuring someone by stabbing them will get you 5 years in the UK.

    The OP was punched once or twice, unless he sustained serious injuries or the perpetrators have a history of violence, the perpetrators won't even get a fine..

    EDIT: look at this, quite recent:

    http://www.kilburntimes.co.uk/news/t...forgotpassword

    They killed and robbed someone and got 6 years.
    Last edited by xXxiKillxXx; 03-05-2012 at 14:49.
  18. Traininghard's Avatar
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    Re: Just got assaulted and can't stop replaying it
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    Wow, I was nearly killed, in and out of hospital and didn't leave the house for 2 and a half months :lolwut: Sounded like OP could do with someone to talk to. Please, mock the experience which still makes me cry myself to sleep some nights :confused:
    I wasnt mocking I was saying it sounds bad like you dont want to mess with these people?

    why is everyone so sceptical these days
  19. Aeonstorm's Avatar
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    Re: Just got assaulted and can't stop replaying it
    (Original post by xXxiKillxXx)
    The thing is, in the UK, people who commit crime are let off easily. Getting beaten up will RARELY get the perpetrator a lengthy jail sentence. Seriously injuring someone by stabbing them will get you 5 years in the UK.

    The OP was punched once or twice, unless he sustained serious injuries or the perpetrators have a history of violence, the perpetrators won't even get a fine..

    EDIT: look at this, quite recent:

    http://www.kilburntimes.co.uk/news/t...forgotpassword

    They killed and robbed someone and got 6 years.
    That is pretty ridiculous... only 6 years
  20. Sheep's Avatar
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    Re: Just got assaulted and can't stop replaying it
    lol I've seen lots of threads like this on tsr, people who are like "some stranger walked into me while i was on my way to school, i havent been the same since, im scared to leave my house, i have nightmares"

    when did everybody become such a woman ?!
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