[tracijune]

I've mentioned this briefly before: I'm currently in cognitive behaviour therapy and I don't think it's for me. He's trying to change the way I think without trying to address why I am so sad in the first place. Does anyone have any idea how I can bring this up? Or should I just stick with the CBT for now to see how it goes?

I don't know what to do :-/


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[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by tracijune)
I've mentioned this briefly before: I'm currently in cognitive behaviour therapy and I don't think it's for me. He's trying to change the way I think without trying to address why I am so sad in the first place. Does anyone have any idea how I can bring this up? Or should I just stick with the CBT for now to see how it goes?

I don't know what to do :-/


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I think CBT focuses on the here-and-now, but I was wondering how it all works, especially for me - I am planning on having CBT within the next few months or so, and the problems that I have in the 'here-and-now' have been caused by the stuff in the past, so I do wonder if CBT therapists do get down to the root cause.

I think it's best to talk with your therapist about CBT.

Also from what I've heard, perhaps you wont realise the results of CBT until after a while.

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[SciFiRory]

(Original post by FuzzySheep)
Failing all my exams, can't cope with being at home anymore and exams going badly means I'll stay here for another year. I keep having flashbacks of things too and I just can't blank them out

How are you doing?

you get your exam results back yet? if not then don't panic, I find even if you think you have done badly, can turn out you have done okay when you get the results, so you never know! if you have done well in them before or in other work, im sure you will have done okay you have anything that can distract from the flashbacks maybe?

im okay thanks, a lot on my mind atm though, trying not to think about the future as can't see any situation in which I actually want to be in it tbh.

[LostHorizons]

(Original post by headunderwater)
I was with a few friends and I suddenly couldn't stop laughing - I was in hysterics. And basically I was complained about and thrown out

I thought I didn't know you, then I noticed you're on my friends list and I've just had to do some serious past post stalking to work out who you are. Changes of username are too much for me to cope with, it seems

[kiss_me_now9]

I definitely shouldn't drink coffee.

[SciFiRory]

(Original post by kiss_me_now9)
I definitely shouldn't drink coffee.

how come?

[Meaty_man]

(Original post by SciFiBoy)
how come?

Caffeine is reeeal bad for you in large amounts. Makes you more anxious, restless, and makes it damn hard to sleep, even when you haven't drank anything many hours previous. You can also become too dependant on it, as in you will feel awful if you don't have your fix for the day. Talking from experiance here >_>

At least, that i assume she's talking about

[SciFiRory]

(Original post by Meaty_man)
Caffeine is reeeal bad for you in large amounts. Makes you more anxious, restless, and makes it damn hard to sleep, even when you haven't drank anything many hours previous. You can also become too dependant on it, as in you will feel awful if you don't have your fix for the day. Talking from experiance here >_>

At least, that i assume she's talking about

ah okay, I normally only drink it to wake myself up

[Sabertooth]

I love coffee....got some orange coffee the other day cheap in tkmaxx, it's amazing.

At least 2 strong mugs a day, every day, it's my morning treat. Sometimes 4 or 6 if I'm just chilling at home. Dependent? Hell naw.




I joined a gym with my girlfriend, no ****ing air conditioning, you'd think we live in the 17th century or something. The place is full of huge black guys, who all look like 50 cent, lifting heavy - then there's me and her, both just starting with the weight lifting. Really really not doing my confidence much good, the whole time I can see them watching me and I'm fairly sure they keep laughing at me, of course my girlfriend says it's all in my head but really I don't know. I mean it's conceivable.

And in mcdonald's was filled with school kids, I hate the fact that groups of teenagers still scare me the **** out. I blame it on the bullying when I was at school. There's few things that happen on a daily basis that I hate as much as having to walk past groups of school kids, the whole time I worry about laughter, comments, maybe things getting physical, I'm such a ****ing wimp - 24 and scared of kids.

[SciFiRory]

coping mechanisms...not sure which is worse for my health, the drinking or the other thing

why does nothing distract from how I feel ffs?

[kiss_me_now9]

(Original post by SciFiBoy)
how come?

(Original post by Meaty_man)
Caffeine is reeeal bad for you in large amounts. Makes you more anxious, restless, and makes it damn hard to sleep, even when you haven't drank anything many hours previous. You can also become too dependant on it, as in you will feel awful if you don't have your fix for the day. Talking from experiance here >_>

At least, that i assume she's talking about

Makes me panic now. Which is a shame because I have a gorgeous little cafetiere and a lot of loose coffees which taste amazing, but for the price of spending the next three hours with a headache panicking about... well, absolutely sod all, it's just not worth it. Decaff for me for a little while at least.

[SciFiRory]

(Original post by kiss_me_now9)
Makes me panic now. Which is a shame because I have a gorgeous little cafetiere and a lot of loose coffees which taste amazing, but for the price of spending the next three hours with a headache panicking about... well, absolutely sod all, it's just not worth it. Decaff for me for a little while at least.

I hope you feel better/calmer soon, anything you can do that helps you chill out a bit?

[avhhs]

Have been feeling so ill all day . This stupid hayfever is so annoying.

[insignificant]

Does anyone with anxiety worry about how they will ever get a job? I don't feel like I could apply for a job and not put in the disability section that I have an anxiety disorder with panic attacks and PTSD, because I don't feel like I could sit in a job and deal with panic attacks. What if I had one through the day at the job? I know I wouldn't be able to last an entire day.

Its not like I'm not trying, I've tried medication but I can't have propranolol because of my asthma, infact you can't have a lot of relaxants when you have asthma. I also have tried anti-depressants but they make me feel even more suicidal.

I'm on my third counsellor and coming to a close and still feel like I haven't got anywhere. I don't know what to do.

I also want to add that I think I have some form of bipolar.Every week I describe situations to my counsellor how my mood changes incredibly drastic. I remember one time it was the night before I had to have a 3000 essay in but instead of doing it, I was in hysterics for about 3 hours laughing at this video, like literally I felt like I'd won the lottery. Then I have days like the other day when I just cried and cried and cried and cried and cried AND CRIED and started getting really paranoid. My mood is constantly up and down , but he just seems to write it down and not comment on it.

Speaking of commenting, has anyone else found with their CBT therapist that they really just seem weird? Like when I was crying for 40 minutes in my session the other day he just stared at me, handed me a tissue, and said ''from seeing you crying this must be difficult for you'' . and just sat in silence whilst I cried. I don't feel like they are compassionate or nothing they just seem really impartial and not very warm or comforting or anything.

[Meaty_man]

(Original post by insignificant)
Does anyone with anxiety worry about how they will ever get a job? I don't feel like I could apply for a job and not put in the disability section that I have an anxiety disorder with panic attacks and PTSD, because I don't feel like I could sit in a job and deal with panic attacks. What if I had one through the day at the job? I know I wouldn't be able to last an entire day.

Its not like I'm not trying, I've tried medication but I can't have propranolol because of my asthma, infact you can't have a lot of relaxants when you have asthma. I also have tried anti-depressants but they make me feel even more suicidal.

I'm on my third counsellor and coming to a close and still feel like I haven't got anywhere. I don't know what to do.

I also want to add that I think I have some form of bipolar.Every week I describe situations to my counsellor how my mood changes incredibly drastic. I remember one time it was the night before I had to have a 3000 essay in but instead of doing it, I was in hysterics for about 3 hours laughing at this video, like literally I felt like I'd won the lottery. Then I have days like the other day when I just cried and cried and cried and cried and cried AND CRIED and started getting really paranoid. My mood is constantly up and down , but he just seems to write it down and not comment on it.

Speaking of commenting, has anyone else found with their CBT therapist that they really just seem weird? Like when I was crying for 40 minutes in my session the other day he just stared at me, handed me a tissue, and said ''from seeing you crying this must be difficult for you'' . and just sat in silence whilst I cried. I don't feel like they are compassionate or nothing they just seem really impartial and not very warm or comforting or anything.

I tend to worry about the silly unimportant things way too much and they get me really stressed, anxious and/or depressed. For some reason though the job thing hasn't scared me, and a bunch of other more important things dont affect me nearly as much. Man i'm strange Dx

There are many ways to get around the panic attack thing, one could be working from home, its become a lot more common these days and i know a bunch of people who do it. You'd only have to go into the office once or twice a week or something. There are also places that do flexi hours; you can shift your hours around in your week however you like, as long as you hit your quota for the week.

With the councillors i think they need to be kinda "emotionless", and not get too attached to their patients. If they cared too much for all their patients it might drive them crazy and send themselves into depression. You may have heard about doctors(surgeons mainly) drinking heavily and taking hard drugs like cocaine to cope with the depression and stress they get, since people can die under their care. I think a similar thing may apply to councillors, though not as extreme.

I know how it can be with the mood swings, i can be very volatile at times. I think having a daily routine can help a lot, like aiming to do something productive, even just a little thing, each day. Also waking up and sleeping at the same times, eating at the same times etc.

[Wheek]

(Original post by Sabertooth)
I love coffee....got some orange coffee the other day cheap in tkmaxx, it's amazing.

At least 2 strong mugs a day, every day, it's my morning treat. Sometimes 4 or 6 if I'm just chilling at home. Dependent? Hell naw.




I joined a gym with my girlfriend, no ****ing air conditioning, you'd think we live in the 17th century or something. The place is full of huge black guys, who all look like 50 cent, lifting heavy - then there's me and her, both just starting with the weight lifting. Really really not doing my confidence much good, the whole time I can see them watching me and I'm fairly sure they keep laughing at me, of course my girlfriend says it's all in my head but really I don't know. I mean it's conceivable.

And in mcdonald's was filled with school kids, I hate the fact that groups of teenagers still scare me the **** out. I blame it on the bullying when I was at school. There's few things that happen on a daily basis that I hate as much as having to walk past groups of school kids, the whole time I worry about laughter, comments, maybe things getting physical, I'm such a ****ing wimp - 24 and scared of kids.

Your post made me cry, the reason - I thought I was the only one scared of a bunch of teenagers. I am convinced they are laughing at me and talking about me (although I'm not so worried about the physical, but then my at school bullying was mainly verbal) sitting on a bus with a bunch of kids will have me convinced by the end of the journey that every giggle was them laughing at me. The last few weeks have been awful cos they are on study leave or half term.

You are not a wimp, past experience has shown you that groups of school age children can be mean, spiteful and vindictive and you have carried that through to your adult life as well.

I am trying to challenge my fears of a lot of things and have been in to schools to do sessions on money management and it has helped a bit (I then have the power and the back up of a teacher too just incase) but not as much as I would have liked

[LostHorizons]

Just found out that Student Finance completely messed up in refusing to help me financially while I've been on a leave of absence, so all the ridiculous money stress I've been going through since March which has made my depression gradually worse and worse has been for nothing.

[ViceVersa]

(Original post by littleshambles)
hi! i've been doing ok, had a wobbly day yesterday but generally pretty good! quetiapine side effects are gone and i feel sort of normal (although now have a question mark over how it is going to prevent episodes if it feels completely normal....). so apart from various life problems like moving house and shiz it's going okay! how are you?

Glad to hear it! Nice to hear I'm better thanks, not great but definitely very okay lately!

(Original post by Etoile)
Thanks everyone I've got an appointment for next week (now all I have to do is not throw myself in front of a train before that :L) and I've been keeping a diary & writing down about my previous phases. Can anyone give me some kind of idea what the doctor will say/do? I'm not sure if my hospital actually has a mental health department

You can do it, good luck! The Doctor will most probs just ask you about how you've been feeling and symptoms and stuff, and might make you fill out a questionnaire and then suggest ways of helping you and seeing which one you might like best as help. No biggie

(Original post by rmhumphries)
Right, well I have no idea on the technical bits so I won't comment on them

I am glad you think it went well though, and hopefully you are right, so now you just need to do well on your next paper and your sorted - I have faith in you

Aww thank you, we'll see

[SciFiRory]

I feel utterly confused and drained I don't know why I am even alive anymore, all I feel is sadness, spent bits of yesterday crying, then in the evening tried both drinking and

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to cope but neither worked, think I said something wrong talking to someone cause they stopped replying to me. I **** up everything I do, I have no future, I don't see what worth or value I have as a person even, why am I here? I also still feel like I really just don't belong in this world.

[Sabertooth]

(Original post by Wheek)
Your post made me cry, the reason - I thought I was the only one scared of a bunch of teenagers. I am convinced they are laughing at me and talking about me (although I'm not so worried about the physical, but then my at school bullying was mainly verbal) sitting on a bus with a bunch of kids will have me convinced by the end of the journey that every giggle was them laughing at me. The last few weeks have been awful cos they are on study leave or half term.

You are not a wimp, past experience has shown you that groups of school age children can be mean, spiteful and vindictive and you have carried that through to your adult life as well.

I am trying to challenge my fears of a lot of things and have been in to schools to do sessions on money management and it has helped a bit (I then have the power and the back up of a teacher too just incase) but not as much as I would have liked

Yes...god yes. I have to get the bus home after badminton practice once a week and it's right when school ends, I have my earbuds in but the whole way all the laughing and shouting and staring, oh god it's such a horrible experience. And it's coming up to summer so there will be kids everywhere whenever I leave the house = nightmare.

It's good you're trying to challenge your fears I imagine it takes a lot of work to do. I should really try something similar because things seem to only be getting worse rather than better as I get older. Doing it with a teacher there sounds like a really good idea, I can't really see any other possible way.