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    (Original post by SciFiBoy)
    how do you find meaning/reasons for living life? I really struggle with this sometimes, like I really don't know why I exist, let alone what I am supposed to be doing and ****.
    Yeah I feel the same a lot. I think if you feel depressed you stop caring about things, which in turn means you don't really have any goals in life anymore, and that can make life feel really pointless.
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    (Original post by meow444)
    Yeah I feel the same a lot. I think if you feel depressed you stop caring about things, which in turn means you don't really have any goals in life anymore, and that can make life feel really pointless.
    I just feel like the whole process of life itself is so devoid of any value or meaning that nothing I can possibly do would matter anyway so there isn't any logical reason for me to care, I mean ultimately I just feel like my existence itself is pointless, like I look at the world and everything and it all just seems to make no sense and to be wrong in some way or another, and then I think about the future and all I see is bad things that are probably going to happen, makes me wonder what the point in continuing to exist is if all that the future holds is darkness. (I don't know I even can make sense of these feelings myself anyway, yet alone begin to express them, but idk if any of this makes sense to someone here, but maybe it does?)
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    Now to see if I manage to do anything productive with my day...
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    (Original post by superwolf)

    I don't feel like this now, but in the past I've definitely had some of those same thoughts. I just got so used to being depressed and unable to do anything requiring the slightest effort that I got scared of the possibility of the possibility that there might be a time when I'd be able or expected to do them again. But yeah, like you've realised you only think this way while you're depressed. Once you stop being depressed it's so much easier just to get on with daily tasks, and you won't mind people expecting things of you (if anything, it can give you pride in showing you that you're at least partially recovered). And in my experience at least, the relief from truly feeling better eclipses any worries about stuff like exams - just keep on trying to get better, and if it comes then welcome it.
    I have just edited your original post with sweaty palms on a touch screenn phone, almost certain that I deserve a prize for that.

    Yeah, I get what you mean. I'm so used to feeling this way that any other way would be weird.
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    (Original post by Webberino)
    No I got scared and thought I'll look pretty stupid if it turns out I'm not. Probably should have done anyway.

    Your mood isn't the only symptom that stops you, feeling lethargic and a general uninterest in anything can make it hard to be productive too. Have you told anyone about how it makes you feel at your appointments? :hugs:

    Thanks, my precious Ronnie is looking in pretty good form!
    Next time you're there it would probably be a good idea to ask of you could, see what he says. :hugs:

    Thanks. I feel so odd. Like I want to jump around but there's somebody sat on my chest so I can't.

    Woooo!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Next time you're there it would probably be a good idea to ask of you could, see what he says. :hugs:

    Thanks. I feel so odd. Like I want to jump around but there's somebody sat on my chest so I can't.

    Woooo!
    Will try not to chicken out next time.

    Maybe a cup of tea will help.

    Agreed to go to my grandma's today, worried I'm not going to get much revision done. Should probably get up now and get started. :yawn:
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    (Original post by SciFiBoy)
    how do you find meaning/reasons for living life? I really struggle with this sometimes, like I really don't know why I exist, let alone what I am supposed to be doing and ****.

    things make so little sense as well, this world just seems so wrong to me in so many ways, yet there are glimpses of good out there, but why do the good worship the bad? I don't know, none of what im saying here probably makes any sense even, my mind is just a mess of thoughts and I don't even know how to begin to express them
    Completely get what you were saying here and in the conversation below ... I have such issues with trying to see the point in life sometimes. But if you mention that to people they immediately think you are going to do something, but its more that I don't see the point in life generally. Which does make it really difficult to try and pull myself out of these feelings are trying and enjoy myself and be happy, because in my head at the end of the day it doesn't matter! And the whole way the world works just doesn't make sense to me at all but IDK! Sorry I know that doesn't make much sense but, pretty sure it was along the same lines as what you were saying!
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    (Original post by Phoenix07)
    Completely get what you were saying here and in the conversation below ... I have such issues with trying to see the point in life sometimes. But if you mention that to people they immediately think you are going to do something, but its more that I don't see the point in life generally. Which does make it really difficult to try and pull myself out of these feelings are trying and enjoy myself and be happy, because in my head at the end of the day it doesn't matter! And the whole way the world works just doesn't make sense to me at all but IDK! Sorry I know that doesn't make much sense but, pretty sure it was along the same lines as what you were saying!
    yeah, I definitely get that, I try to talk to my mum about it and she just gets all funny cause she thinks im being suicidal or something (which I guess in a way I am but makes it impossible to talk this stuff out), that's what I mean really like nothing seems to matter and nothing makes sense so what is the point in things? idk, is like the way peoples lives work in the way the world is, there's no value or anything to be found in that anyway so why even bother looking for it? if this makes any sense at all
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    (Original post by SciFiBoy)
    yeah, I definitely get that, I try to talk to my mum about it and she just gets all funny cause she thinks im being suicidal or something (which I guess in a way I am but makes it impossible to talk this stuff out), that's what I mean really like nothing seems to matter and nothing makes sense so what is the point in things? idk, is like the way peoples lives work in the way the world is, there's no value or anything to be found in that anyway so why even bother looking for it? if this makes any sense at all
    Nah it completely makes sense, I am finishing university this week and my parents and stuff are trying to get me to work out what I want in life. And I just can't see the point in all of it at all, which is just making things really difficult! But yer totally get the everyone thinking you are being suicidal, given up talking about it now because a lot of people just really don't understand at all! I just wish I could understand the world and see a point to it like everyone else but I just don't understand how other people see a point to it all! Sorry not making much sense at all I know but I am stuck in the same train of thought that you are! Makes it so difficult to try and get out of all of this!
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    (Original post by diamonddust)
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    Hey, I just saw Wolfie's reply to you about the uni stuff, and I know it's been a few days but thought you might possibly still need a bit of help?

    Also I'm saying this on the assumption that you go/ were going to UEA? I think I remember you from the UEA threads around this time last year. If not, disregard this reply .

    Basically I agree with Superwolf and I reckon going to the Dean of Students Office (or phoning if you're miles away at the moment) and briefly explaining things to the receptionist (that you're leaving and not sure how it all works) and they'll know what to do.
    When it comes to accommodation, they generally expect people to be out pretty soon after withdrawing, but there is some discretion around it. I'm redoing the year starting in September and even though I've just put in my application, I'm still sticking around until mid-June to see out my contract, and the uni are fine with it because there are so few weeks left and because I need to be around for as long as possible so I can engage properly with the mental health services up here.

    I think I've spent about a third of the last year sitting in the DSO, and they're lovely people. Good luck with it :hugs:
    (And if there's anything I've neglected to mention/ needs clarifying, just quote me. )
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have just edited your original post with sweaty palms on a touch screenn phone, almost certain that I deserve a prize for that.
    You win first prize at the Commitment to the Prevention of DepSoc Over-Clogging by Long Posts awards ceremony. :king1:

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    Soooo, I couldn't find a gong. Will a trumpet do? :blow:
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    (Original post by superwolf)
    For me at least, travel can really lift me out of a depressive phase. However after a time (can be up to a year mind) I go back to feeling like crap again. Possibly if after travelling you kept up with major lifestyle changes, and your depression was in large part circumstantial, you might be able to prevent depression reoccurring. However for me, despite my depression's coming back later, the times I had travelling were so good in themselves that I don't give a monkey's if it was only a temporary solution and that it could have been perceived as my running away (actually I'll freely admit that in large part it was - you try living in Scotland for 18 years ) - even if it is only temporary it's always good to have a break from depression.
    Thanks for sharing your story . I suppose its a case of not really knowing until I try it :yep:

    "Please rate some other members before rating this member again." Hmmmm

    Trust me, it's the depression. I get on perfectly well with myself at the times when I'm not depressed, but then all that changes once I'm feeling bad again. It's even more depressing in a way, cos it feels like it's even harder to change myself when I'm not actually sure which parts of me are 'me' or not. But people I've asked have always said they don't see such a massive difference in me, and you seem lovely to me, so maybe it's all just in our heads.
    Thing is, I've sort of been this way more or less all my life. Well, my first primary school was fine actually cos I did have 3 friends who regularly hanged out with, even "dated" one as well :p:. But that all changed once I moved to a new London borough at 7 and I was finding it so difficult making friends. I floated in and out of having fleeting friendships between loner phases, and it was also sort of the same at secondary school, except I did have some slightly more solid friendship groups, but now I've totally drifted from them since school and not made friends with any new group its all a bit awkward and sucky.

    So yeah, that's why I'm worried there's something wrong with me to not be able to make and keep friends easily or date easily. I'm not sure if I could put it down to just bad luck if I've gone through life meeting so many people and been unlucky with almost all of them. This is kinda why I once speculated on the last thread about possibly having some sort of personality disorder (this was just from reading stuff online though), which may or may not be correct, but whatever it is I don't feel that right.

    This is where casual sex comes in. :sexface:
    See, I'm not meaning to sound fussy but I'm not really sure that appeals to me much. I'm still a virgin and I'm sure I'd heavily regret losing it to a randomer, especially how long I've managed to hold on to it now. And even if I do go have lots of random sex, I don't think it'd really heal my longing for true companionship.
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    (Original post by laut_biru)
    There's a lot of interesting thinking there. Somethings making you angry, that's for sure, probably best to work out what that is. Also, defining yourself as not good enough isn't going to help, ever.
    To be honest I think it's just anger at myself over various different things.



    (Original post by Phoenix07)
    Hey, sorry to butt in on your conversation here ... just wanted to say that I completely understand how you feel! Been with my bf for 4 and a half years and having exactly the same issues as you at the moment, where my self-esteem has hit rock bottom and all my anxiety and depression seems to get taken out on him, and I completely understand the constantly feeling not good enough and stuff! I know how **** it feels, sorry I know that wasn't helpful, just wanted to say I know exactly how you feel! Hope it gets better for you soon though because I know how difficult it can be
    Don't worry about butting in! It's good to know that other people feel the same. I've only been with my bf for about 7 months but the issues feel just the same. Hugs :hugs:


    (Original post by superwolf)
    Greetings.

    Of course it's ok for you to post on here. And I'm glad that some things are improving for you, like work and stuff. I'm not an expert (far from it :lol:) on socialising, but have you tried seeing if you can hang out with your housemates'/boyfriend's friends as well? Or check out the TSR forum for your uni - I managed to meet a really nice girl at my uni this year, on the same course and everything.

    Also, if you feel you're taking things out on your boyfriend too much, next time you feel angry or insecure you could try coming online and venting on this thread - none of us will mind, and it might help you sort your emotions out before speaking to your boyfriend again.
    :hello:

    Thank you The hanging out with other people's friends is definitely something I've considered, but none of my housemates have a lot of friends either, and the boyfriend isn't at the same uni as me so I don't really see him often enough to get to know his friends very well. Plus I always just feel unwanted and like I'm intruding.

    I'll definitely try and post on here more - I do need a place to vent, just someone to talk to, and everyone on here seems really nice and understanding. Thanks for the welcome
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    (Original post by superwolf)
    I've no idea what you're talking about, but it sounds like something to look forward to...
    Let's just say you don't owe me anymore...
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    (Original post by Phoenix07)
    Nah it completely makes sense, I am finishing university this week and my parents and stuff are trying to get me to work out what I want in life. And I just can't see the point in all of it at all, which is just making things really difficult! But yer totally get the everyone thinking you are being suicidal, given up talking about it now because a lot of people just really don't understand at all! I just wish I could understand the world and see a point to it like everyone else but I just don't understand how other people see a point to it all! Sorry not making much sense at all I know but I am stuck in the same train of thought that you are! Makes it so difficult to try and get out of all of this!
    thanks, good to know im not just me being crazy!

    yeah, people ask me what im gonna/wanna do in life all the time :/ never have a clue what to say them!

    exactly, people just don't want to talk about these things it seems!

    mm, I feel like there really is no point and people just seem to pretend things aren't the way they are or something to get by, idk, I sometimes think I know and think about too much or something like that :/
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    My dog dying has just set in. It sucks.

    At least I didn't need to get up insanely early to ready Jack. Oh and I cancelled on meeting someone today.

    Go no life me!
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    (Original post by AntisthenesDogger)
    My dog dying has just set in. It sucks.

    At least I didn't need to get up insanely early to ready Jack. Oh and I cancelled on meeting someone today.

    Go no life me!
    :console: so sorry to hear that, hope you are okay!

    I know what is like to have trouble getting out and stuff, I cancel on doing things all the time, can just seem too much when you feel down anyway, you're not alone though, im sure many people here feel like they have no life, I know I do! wish I knew something comforting to say :/
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    (Original post by SciFiBoy)
    :console: so sorry to hear that, hope you are okay!

    I know what is like to have trouble getting out and stuff, I cancel on doing things all the time, can just seem too much when you feel down anyway, you're not alone though, im sure many people here feel like they have no life, I know I do! wish I knew something comforting to say :/
    Thank you.

    And yeah, I woke up at 11, and got the typical "I just want to sleep forever and do nothing" feeling. Add in the anxiety of actually going out ha.

    Oh and if you're reading this Sabertooth, I will reply to your PM ;o I just got distracted.
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    (Original post by superwolf)
    I don't know any long-term solutions, but TV (south park especially) can help, also playing random internet games (kongregate has a good selection), talking to certain people, either in real life or on skype, reading if I can manage it (Terry Pratchett is nicely easy and entertaining), and generally just doing things which require little effort but take up some concentration.
    Thanks! I could do all of them except for talking to friends because at the moment I'm really detesting most of them.

    Anyway, two things...

    1) Generally, I'm in a better mood today, although I'd rather be asleep again. Usually, I go on Skype every day and talk to a group of friends, but I didn't yesterday, and today I went on and immediately regret it. I don't feel comfortable talking to these friends anymore.

    2) Could my sig potentially be a trigger? Just noticed...
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    Ergh, my brain feels like goo. :nothing:

    Spent the last 2.5 hours searching for articles to write my essay using, I found nothing. How is this possible? I must be doing something wrong but my brain has turned to mush from all the thousands of abstracts I've looked at now. It's not an uncommon or rare topic, it's ****ing community service and electronic tagging, why wouldn't people write about this? And why does my university library have such a **** website? It's impossible to negotiate.

    Also should really go to the gym but I'm just :yucky: No. Just no. Not today. It's raining and it's bank holiday that's my excuse. But now I've got this guilt inside me....I should go, but I've got work to do, but I should go....ergh **** it.
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