[d123]

(Original post by SciFiBoy)
ah, I do that too I get really paranoid and stuff if people don't reply to my messages and start thinking they hate me and stuff idk why it gets me so much, I always reply like straight away to messages from anyone really, maybe im just weird doing that though? :/

I try to do that too, I text back as soon as I see the text. This one was an 'I'm going home tomorrow so do you want to come round and hang out later' text. It obviously requires a reply! Even if it's 'no, I can't'. I'm assuming the lack of reply means it's a no, which sucks, but I'd like to know for definite. I need to stop getting so worked up about this though.

[SciFiRory]

(Original post by d123)
I try to do that too, I text back as soon as I see the text. This one was an 'I'm going home tomorrow so do you want to come round and hang out later' text. It obviously requires a reply! Even if it's 'no, I can't'. I'm assuming the lack of reply means it's a no, which sucks, but I'd like to know for definite. I need to stop getting so worked up about this though.

yeah, same, not just texts either like if people quote me or message me on here or on facebook I try to reply as soon as I can too yeah, that's definitely something you should expect a reply too! is pretty crappy of the person not to even reply even if it is a no :/ I know what you mean, I get way worked up over things too!

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I don't have a hangover which is always good, though I didn't get as much sleep as I would've liked so might try and nap soon, mood is bleh atm, last night was good I think, or that may just be that I was drunk anyway, hopefully a nap will mean I am more awake and therefore maybe able to cheer up a bit!

[d123]

(Original post by SciFiBoy)
yeah, same, not just texts either like if people quote me or message me on here or on facebook I try to reply as soon as I can too yeah, that's definitely something you should expect a reply too! is pretty crappy of the person not to even reply even if it is a no :/ I know what you mean, I get way worked up over things too!

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I don't have a hangover which is always good, though I didn't get as much sleep as I would've liked so might try and nap soon, mood is bleh atm, last night was good I think, or that may just be that I was drunk anyway, hopefully a nap will mean I am more awake and therefore maybe able to cheer up a bit!

Yep, and if he is coming I'd like to know sooner than ten minutes beforehand so I can shower and tidy up and things. Whereas if he isn't, these things are less urgent. Also, it was him who said he'd come and see me before I go home. It's not like I'm being presumptuous by asking him to come over. #rantyrageyness.

Glad you're not hungover and that last night was good, though bleh mood now is bad

[superwolf]

(Original post by headunderwater)
Aw thank you. I'm freaking out a tiny little bit though

Well yeah, this means a hell of a lot to you, but you are a great candidate. Lots of calming stuff, lots of being nice to yourself, and lots of remembering how awesome you are.

[SciFiRory]

(Original post by d123)
Yep, and if he is coming I'd like to know sooner than ten minutes beforehand so I can shower and tidy up and things. Whereas if he isn't, these things are less urgent. Also, it was him who said he'd come and see me before I go home. It's not like I'm being presumptuous by asking him to come over. #rantyrageyness.

Glad you're not hungover and that last night was good, though bleh mood now is bad

yeah exactly that's fair enough, I hate that, when people just turn up or say they are coming without giving you any notice, cause my room at Uni was always a mess and stuff so used to really annoy me when people did that (luckily didn't happen too often, but even so!). that's strange then :/ maybe he didn't get the message or something?

yeah, is annoying, sometimes I have a good night out with friends or something, but then next day just feel super flat whether hungover or not makes no real sense to me but oh well.

[Anon420]

(Original post by SciFiBoy)
yeah exactly that's fair enough, I hate that, when people just turn up or say they are coming without giving you any notice, cause my room at Uni was always a mess and stuff so used to really annoy me when people did that (luckily didn't happen too often, but even so!). that's strange then :/ maybe he didn't get the message or something?

yeah, is annoying, sometimes I have a good night out with friends or something, but then next day just feel super flat whether hungover or not makes no real sense to me but oh well.

Maybe it's because you had such a good time that spending the next day by yourself in your room/house by your PC isn't as great as enjoying other peoples company in a bar.

I'd just say focus on the next time you have plans and think that will be fun and how positive you can feel over it, or if you have no plans; Try to make some

[SciFiRory]

(Original post by Anon420)
Maybe it's because you had such a good time that spending the next day by yourself in your room/house by your PC isn't as great as enjoying other peoples company in a bar.

I'd just say focus on the next time you have plans and think that will be fun and how positive you can feel over it, or if you have no plans; Try to make some

that's probably part of it yeah, good times are annoyingly transitory!

that's a good idea yeah, I mean, I am planning to visit Uni and friends there early next month, possibly via visiting my best friend so if that goes ahead (need to finalise plans and sort out where im staying/travel) then definitely will be looking forward to it

[d123]

(Original post by SciFiBoy)
yeah exactly that's fair enough, I hate that, when people just turn up or say they are coming without giving you any notice, cause my room at Uni was always a mess and stuff so used to really annoy me when people did that (luckily didn't happen too often, but even so!). that's strange then :/ maybe he didn't get the message or something?

yeah, is annoying, sometimes I have a good night out with friends or something, but then next day just feel super flat whether hungover or not makes no real sense to me but oh well.

Maybe. He can't be not speaking to me because he replied to a tweet. Either he hasn't got the text, or he's got it and didn't reply because a) he's not coming but didn't think it was important to let me know b) he doesn't know if he can come yet so he's waiting till later to reply once he knows c) he's not coming but doesn't want to upset me by telling me so. I think a) and c) are the most likely options.

MUst stop analysing this. It's not even important, really.

Maybe it's just the comedown? I get that too sometimes, I'll be having a good time and be happy, then once that stops I feel worse because in comparison to the good times, it's suddenly ****.

[SciFiRory]

(Original post by d123)
Maybe. He can't be not speaking to me because he replied to a tweet. Either he hasn't got the text, or he's got it and didn't reply because a) he's not coming but didn't think it was important to let me know b) he doesn't know if he can come yet so he's waiting till later to reply once he knows c) he's not coming but doesn't want to upset me by telling me so. I think a) and c) are the most likely options.

MUst stop analysing this. It's not even important, really.

Maybe it's just the comedown? I get that too sometimes, I'll be having a good time and be happy, then once that stops I feel worse because in comparison to the good times, it's suddenly ****.

could be yeah, though you never know and it might be B and he will text you soon! hopefully he let's you know one way or another anyway

that's okay, I tend to way over analyse even small things myself, like something as trivial as how someone talks to me in one conversation, I can spend hours worrying about or getting my hopes over that

I think so yeah, I mean, I normally feel pretty low after having done something fun and it being over yeah. just wish it didn't make me feel quite so low sometimes though, to go from having a good time with friends one day to having really bad thoughts and stuff the next is definitely not fun!

[Anon420]

(Original post by SciFiBoy)
that's probably part of it yeah, good times are annoyingly transitory!

that's a good idea yeah, I mean, I am planning to visit Uni and friends there early next month, possibly via visiting my best friend so if that goes ahead (need to finalise plans and sort out where im staying/travel) then definitely will be looking forward to it

Yeah it is indeed...

However you can ease the downtime, e.g. spending time with people whilst at work, studying with people whilst at uni etc.

I used to limit myself to only certain people I enjoyed most, but I realized I enjoy the majority of peoples company and I should open up to other people and spend time with them too, even if I've only just met them.

Aligning your schedule with others can be difficult task, then you have to factor in cost, travel etc... if you meet people online they could live miles away, 20-30miles in any direction isn't too bad, but when someone lives say 500miles away, you can't see each other realistically every weekend.

What do you currently do, full time study or?

[d123]

(Original post by SciFiBoy)
could be yeah, though you never know and it might be B and he will text you soon! hopefully he let's you know one way or another anyway

that's okay, I tend to way over analyse even small things myself, like something as trivial as how someone talks to me in one conversation, I can spend hours worrying about or getting my hopes over that

I think so yeah, I mean, I normally feel pretty low after having done something fun and it being over yeah. just wish it didn't make me feel quite so low sometimes though, to go from having a good time with friends one day to having really bad thoughts and stuff the next is definitely not fun!

Hopefully. I feel mean for getting a bit mad at him over this, but I don't want to say anything to him or have a go at him in case he just walks away and decides he doesn't want to be my friend anymore.

The come down is definitely not fun Hope you feel better soon!

[Sabertooth]

(Original post by headunderwater)
Argh, it's tomorrow

Good luck, I hope it goes great for you.

[SciFiRory]

(Original post by Anon420)
Yeah it is indeed...

However you can ease the downtime, e.g. spending time with people whilst at work, studying with people whilst at uni etc.

I used to limit myself to only certain people I enjoyed most, but I realized I enjoy the majority of peoples company and I should open up to other people and spend time with them too, even if I've only just met them.

Aligning your schedule with others can be difficult task, then you have to factor in cost, travel etc... if you meet people online they could live miles away, 20-30miles in any direction isn't too bad, but when someone lives say 500miles away, you can't see each other realistically every weekend.

What do you currently do, full time study or?

that's the problem for me right now really, I am at my mums cause im intermitting my 2nd year of Uni, but I have no friends here or even nearby (almost all my friends I made through Uni so live hours away), I mean, I apply for part time work here but most places don't even respond so idk (technically my GP advised me against that though, he said the extra stress was probably a bad idea for me right now given my mental health :/) but I feel like I should at least apply cause I would rather be able to help my mum out a bit more, as is im living on the money that I would have had for Uni this term instead, which is a lot to be fair, but I know that will run out probably by the summer then I just have my DLA to live on which isn't so easy to do. sorry im kinda rambling on here now lol

(Original post by d123)
Hopefully. I feel mean for getting a bit mad at him over this, but I don't want to say anything to him or have a go at him in case he just walks away and decides he doesn't want to be my friend anymore.

The come down is definitely not fun Hope you feel better soon!

idk, seems fair enough to be a bit annoyed at least if he doesn't reply tbh, I mean, I would have thought is okay to maybe just politely mention that you would prefer a reply one way or another in future even if is no?

that's for sure, thanks

for now I think I might nap

[superwolf]

I dunno how to revise for an exam I might not be sitting. I want to sit it, and do well, but everything's so up in the air I don't know what's best for me and my degree. Waiting on answer from my personal tutor and for seeing psychiatrist on Wednesday for hopefully useful advice.

I only did an hour and a half's revision all this week and I doubt I'll do much more.

[d123]

(Original post by SciFiBoy)
that's the problem for me right now really, I am at my mums cause im intermitting my 2nd year of Uni, but I have no friends here or even nearby (almost all my friends I made through Uni so live hours away), I mean, I apply for part time work here but most places don't even respond so idk (technically my GP advised me against that though, he said the extra stress was probably a bad idea for me right now given my mental health :/) but I feel like I should at least apply cause I would rather be able to help my mum out a bit more, as is im living on the money that I would have had for Uni this term instead, which is a lot to be fair, but I know that will run out probably by the summer then I just have my DLA to live on which isn't so easy to do. sorry im kinda rambling on here now lol



idk, seems fair enough to be a bit annoyed at least if he doesn't reply tbh, I mean, I would have thought is okay to maybe just politely mention that you would prefer a reply one way or another in future even if is no?

that's for sure, thanks

for now I think I might nap

Yeah, I'll try and mention it to him - I'm always hyperaware of what comes across as clingy so I tend to avoid telling people that not replying annoys me, even though it does, in case they think I'm being clingy or pushy.

Have a nice nap!

[d123]

(Original post by superwolf)
I dunno how to revise for an exam I might not be sitting. I want to sit it, and do well, but everything's so up in the air I don't know what's best for me and my degree. Waiting on answer from my personal tutor and for seeing psychiatrist on Wednesday for hopefully useful advice.

I only did an hour and a half's revision all this week and I doubt I'll do much more.

I see the problem Would revising for it take away from anything else you need to be doing, and is it going to stress you out and make you worse? If you want to sit in it's probably worth revising, unless it's just going to exacerbate your problems and take away from other things you should be doing.

[Nut.]

I ****ing love low carbing.
My creativity, and what can only be described as "zest" is back.

I'm writing, I'm drawing, I'm vibrant.

Aaaand it ain't mania, because there are no grandiose thoughts, no sleeplessness, no fidgets, no spending.

****ing awesome.

[Anon420]

(Original post by SciFiBoy)
that's the problem for me right now really, I am at my mums cause im intermitting my 2nd year of Uni, but I have no friends here or even nearby (almost all my friends I made through Uni so live hours away), I mean, I apply for part time work here but most places don't even respond so idk (technically my GP advised me against that though, he said the extra stress was probably a bad idea for me right now given my mental health :/) but I feel like I should at least apply cause I would rather be able to help my mum out a bit more, as is im living on the money that I would have had for Uni this term instead, which is a lot to be fair, but I know that will run out probably by the summer then I just have my DLA to live on which isn't so easy to do. sorry im kinda rambling on here now lol



idk, seems fair enough to be a bit annoyed at least if he doesn't reply tbh, I mean, I would have thought is okay to maybe just politely mention that you would prefer a reply one way or another in future even if is no?

that's for sure, thanks

for now I think I might nap

I'd take your GP's advise and no doubt your parents will support you through that, the fact you've tried to anyway and gone against your GP's advise shows how selfless you're willing to be, I'm sure your parents get that and don't expect you to after your GP told you not to due to extra stress.

It's always hard to think about the future when things may not be so great for you now, but being positive and having a health outlook can make a difference to how you feel

(Original post by d123)
Yeah, I'll try and mention it to him - I'm always hyperaware of what comes across as clingy so I tend to avoid telling people that not replying annoys me, even though it does, in case they think I'm being clingy or pushy.

Have a nice nap!

Clingy can go both ways, but I actually think it's more of a positive trait if anything, you're always there and very prompt to reply. Although I do find you'll get the best and most positive replies from people who care and want to know you and be around you.

[Sabertooth]

I bought some shorts in Primark today, showed my girlfriend a photo to see if they looked alright
- "why do you buy such long shorts?"
- "because I'm fat, I hate myself and want to hide as much as possible"
- "you're a ****ing retard, no one looks at people's thighs" (paraphrased)

[Sabertooth]

(Original post by superwolf)
I dunno how to revise for an exam I might not be sitting. I want to sit it, and do well, but everything's so up in the air I don't know what's best for me and my degree. Waiting on answer from my personal tutor and for seeing psychiatrist on Wednesday for hopefully useful advice.

I only did an hour and a half's revision all this week and I doubt I'll do much more.

How hard is the exam exactly? I finished uni without revising for a single exam and your Russian seems pretty good to me.