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Would you ever convert for someone you really love?

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    (Original post by SunderX)
    That implies belief is a choice, that you can just 'choose' to change everything you hold to be true and your fundamental world view. I'm of the opinion that belief changes just happen.

    And would it be necessary? You don't have to love your mother-in-law for a successful marriage, so why a god? There are plenty of people in loving, interfaith relationships.
    Belief is a choice(IMO). Having a life is a choice, having arm is a choice, having a leg is a choice. That implies his opinion.
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    Depends on why she wanted me to convert. If she wanted me to convert from what I am now (an atheist) to something else because she wanted me to have the same beliefs as her, then no way. It would just be her lying to herself that I follow the same belief as her as I won't - which would just be self-deception.

    If, however, it was for marital reasons and just for the sake of being able to marry me in regards to something such as parents, then sure, I can abandon a label for something much more important. But changing my beliefs and forcing myself to adhering a certain belief - no way.
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    I would never be able to 'love' someone that was religious.

    I may find them physically attractive, but on a mental level I would never be able to accept it.

    I couldn't love someone that was insane or stupid.
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    (Original post by Bey Taco)
    Weird that some atheists are saying they wont :/ , surely if you don't view religion to be important and see it as a act alike believing a man in the sky then this should be like purchasing a book about fairy tales? Big deal, you had to take part in some random acts and people read random scripts and **** you couldnt understand, isnt it like celebrating christmas and eating a egg on easter?

    I am surprised that some athiests are connected to athiesm like a catholic to God, church or just their religion in general.

    To answer the question, yes, I would.
    This is pretty much the attitude that I have. As long as the religion I'm converting to doesn't ask much of me in terms of any rules that I have to follow, then I wouldn't mind pretending to have a faith/religion just for the sake of being with the 'one'.
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    (Original post by internet tough guy)
    Strong fetish there broseph, I can see what you got going though, its just like how theres porn involving women dressed as nuns :lolwut:, theres definitely something very 'naughty/bad' about it which I can understand adds extra appeal for some men.

    Personally for me, although I'm an atheists/agnostic, I wouldn't mind converting, its not like I ACTUALLY believe in this mumbo jumbo, as long as theres not alot of things I MUST do as part of this religious facade (like having prayers 100 times a day), then I'm alright with it, its just like going along with my mate's support for a rugby league team - which I couldn't give less **** about if I'm honest :lol:
    I'm not attracted to them because they're a challenge what I'm saying is my usual type of girl usually, coincidentally, are religious
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    Almost certainly not. I'm not going to lie to someone I love, or live a lie for any reason.
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    I would, but it would have to be the One (girl) I absolutely love and want to spend the whole of my life with.
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    Personally no.

    But my boyfriend's friend did. He used to be an atheist, a physics genius (dropped out of uni because of a lack of commitment, yet had a theory for the Higgs Boson in the running for the Nobel Prize if it turned out to be correct) He would flat out deny the existence of a God and give physics theories to back up his opinion.
    He married a Mormon and converted for her (Mormons believe that Heaven has levels, and unless you are both Mormon, you will not be on the same levels of heaven and will not see each other in the afterlife.)
    Now, he truly believes the Mormon faith, is the head of his church's child movement and has even tried to convert his family to Mormonism.
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    No.

    I have some christian family members, so i go to church for special occasions like weddings/christenings/funerals and i sit through the prayers and the hymns. I feel uncomfortable doing it but i realise the occasion isn't about me so i happily put up with it. I wouldn't want to be with someone who wanted me to go to church with them every sunday even though i felt really uncomfortable being there.

    I have religious friends but i've never had a religious boyfriend. I can't see myself dating a religious person because i think we'd just be on completely different wavelengths.
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    No....no disrespect to anyone who would, it's just that for me personally, my views on religion are very important to me, so I don't think I could love someone who couldn't respect that or who would expect me to change my views. Also I think I tend to be more likely to go for people who have the same views as me anyway. And, if I were to convert, it would only be theoretical, I can't force myself to believe something, even if I change my lifestyle.
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    you see thats a bit of an awkward situation...

    assuming me and the girl had different beliefs, are you asking would i convert solely do to my love for her? whether the act of love would make me want to share whats common with her?
    if the girl loved me back, would that not mean we would convert to each other (still being of different beliefs)?

    im an atheist, i dont care much if my partner were theist or atheist... if they truly loved me for who i am, id hope theyd feel the same about me..
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    No lol, I wouldn't even if the whole human population was at stake.
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    (Original post by Bey Taco)
    Weird that some atheists are saying they wont :/ , surely if you don't view religion to be important and see it as a act alike believing a man in the sky then this should be like purchasing a book about fairy tales? Big deal, you had to take part in some random acts and people read random scripts and **** you couldnt understand, isnt it like celebrating christmas and eating a egg on easter?

    I am surprised that some athiests are connected to athiesm like a catholic to God, church or just their religion in general.

    To answer the question, yes, I would.
    I think that's an assumption - many (but not all) atheists view religion to be important in the sense that they see it as damaging to society. Now whether or not you agree with that I guess that goes some way to explaining why they wouldn't convert. Also, people's beliefs are important to them in general. I guess that's the other reason
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    (Original post by Bey Taco)
    Weird that some atheists are saying they wont :/ , surely if you don't view religion to be important and see it as a act alike believing a man in the sky then this should be like purchasing a book about fairy tales? Big deal, you had to take part in some random acts and people read random scripts and **** you couldnt understand, isnt it like celebrating christmas and eating a egg on easter?

    I am surprised that some athiests are connected to athiesm like a catholic to God, church or just their religion in general.

    To answer the question, yes, I would.
    thats not converting... thats called a lie...
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    people should love others for who they are and what they believe in, not who they are not or what they don't believe in
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    No. I couldn't see myself falling in live with somebody so narrow minded and arrogant that they would insist that I must believe the same things that they do anyway.
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    Of course not.

    You believe something through your own choice, not through someone else's influence.
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    (Original post by Bey Taco)
    Weird that some atheists are saying they wont :/ , surely if you don't view religion to be important and see it as a act alike believing a man in the sky then this should be like purchasing a book about fairy tales? Big deal, you had to take part in some random acts and people read random scripts and **** you couldnt understand, isnt it like celebrating christmas and eating a egg on easter?

    I am surprised that some athiests are connected to athiesm like a catholic to God, church or just their religion in general.

    To answer the question, yes, I would.
    As an atheist, I couldn't tolerate being with someone of a different belief to me initially, let alone go along with their airy-fairy rituals...
    Why shouldn't atheism be a similar belief system? I believe in Science and reason, and would find it offensive to have God shoved in my face, just as Theists do vice versa.
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    no, im not religious (not anti religion though) and find it hard to believe id fall for a religious person so religious that theyd want me converting :/ ..... id be cheating myself, just because i convert doesnt mean my views will change, il still find religion a fictional delusion :/
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    No..because I wouldn't want to convert for the sake of it and not take it seriously. I'd need to convert because I believe it's the right thing to do and not because my religious beliefs need to coincide with someone else's for our relationship to work. I wouldn't expect someone to ask me though tbh. Having said that, I can understand why they would...for their parents sake and acceptance. I mean the whole 'if he loved me then he'd accept me for who I am' stuff is great in theory but love only gets you so far.

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