O.K, having a bit of a problem with one of my housemates. Basically he has his girlfriend stay over constantly, and I mean constantly. She is pretty much resident here, she cooks here, washes here, and sleeps here every night. This wasn't really a problem at first, there are plenty of utilities in the house to accommodate the extra person, but a few weeks before Easter some **** went down. Basically they left a cable out next to a pile of my cables. I scooped them all up and took them to my room, not even noticing their cable was among them. The girlfriend goes frantic looking for this cable and apparently when they asked my where it was I "had a smug look on my face" so they searched my room without my permission and found it.
Having totally violated my privacy they came downstairs, yelled at me that I was a thief and started bitching on Facebook. None of my other housemates believe I stole the cable. I thought that was the end of it but since then she's been really passive aggressive, moaning that I never clean (I do) to other housemates when I'm in the room and even checking the bathroom when I'm done with it to check I left it in a proper state.
This has been going on for weeks now and it blew up last night when I found someone had drawn a mustache on the cover of my cookbook. I know that sounds stupid but its vandalism at the end of the day, and I asked, "what kind of dickhead vandalizes someones stuff like that?" They heard, took it to be aimed at them and he retaliated by asking "what kind of dickhead steals someones stuff?" Whilst I was arguing with him that I wasn't a thief she decided to throw a wet tea towel at me because "she felt threatened". I'm hardly an intimidating person and I was sat down. Well I stood up after that and yelled at her. She told me to get out of the house, which is some cheek since she doesn't live here, they both made homophobic remarks and he got right up in my face threatening to punch me and break my glasses.
Basically I want to know what can I do about them? She's refusing to leave, the letting agent says there's nothing they can do but its impossible for me to live with them. Any help is greatly appreciated!
tl;dr a moron housemate has his bitch girlfriend over all the time making me feel uncomfortable. How do I get rid of them?
Since they think it's so threatening, draw a moustache on one of their books. That will show them.
I'm kidding, obviously. That is just an immature move on their part. (If it was them of course).
You pay to live there so you have every right to be there. You shouldn't have to move out because you feel uncomfortable.
My initial reaction would be to open a can of whoop ass on this guy, show him you shouldn't be pushed around and threatened.
However... Unfortunately, that will get you in a lot of trouble, or beaten up.
I suggest you attack the situation like adults, go up to him and say, 'hey, can I have a word? A lot of things have gotten out of hand lately and I think it would be best to straighten things out and get it sorted, after all, we both pay to live here and living with bad feelings is not going to help either of us'.
He will either, A) Be a prick and contest you, or disregard everything you're saying. Or B) sit down like a civilised person and try and sort it out with you.
If he goes with A, you should just ignore it and look for another place to live. If he goes with B, then sit down with him (and maybe his girlfriend) and explain that you didn't mean to take the cables, and it was an accident when you picking up your own things, however you're sorry for not checking just in case. Then look for an apology from them on the behalf of your cooking book.
Then just explain that you don't want to remain hostile, and ask if you're all 'cool'?
He will say yeah, you will both bro fist then get on with your lives, happily ever after.
Or something like that anyway, to put it shortly... Talk to them.
This is precisely why I hate housesharing. If I were you I'd probably go out of my way to inconvenience them, it's not like there would be any love lost, and perhaps they'd start hermiting in at hers rather than yours? It's very rude.
My housemate has his girlfriend at ours 5 nights a week.. She's nice enough, but she hogs the bathroom for an hour in the morning when 4 of us all have to be at work at 9am.. I find that incredibly rude.
I know it doesn't help, but really good housemates are really hard to come by, in my experience at least!
I have a bad flatmate....goes out and gets drunk every night, plays music at full blast and I MEAN FULL BLAST all day, never eats for days on end and has spent more then 5000 in 7 months.....all he wants is to get laid