First time having sex in a new relationship
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Re: First time having sex in a new relationshipI went out with 1 guy for 4 years before I did anything, even then we had broken up haha!
Was so nervous back then! Another was about just over a month into the relationship.. and with my current boyfriend it happened extremely quickly, he was hard to resist! lol not quite the 1st date though 
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Re: First time having sex in a new relationshipWe met a week before in a club, we talked and snogged on that night but I was busy so we had to wait a week until we could go out. During that whole week we text and got to know each other better. So by the date I already felt quite comfortable around him.(Original post by Anonymous)
:L thats up to you. Why did you choose to on the first date though? Just wondering
Our actual date was amazing, he cooked me dinner, we chatted LOADS, then we went out for drinks, then we went out dancing.... by about an hour in i was smitten and by two hours in I knew I wanted to sleep with him...... but i waited until the date was 5 hours in....
It worked out well, we have been dating for three months now
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Re: First time having sex in a new relationshipwow that sounds like an amazing first date! Congrats! goodluck(Original post by Arkaria)
We met a week before in a club, we talked and snogged on that night but I was busy so we had to wait a week until we could go out. During that whole week we text and got to know each other better. So by the date I already felt quite comfortable around him.
Our actual date was amazing, he cooked me dinner, we chatted LOADS, then we went out for drinks, then we went out dancing.... by about an hour in i was smitten and by two hours in I knew I wanted to sleep with him...... but i waited until the date was 5 hours in....
It worked out well, we have been dating for three months now
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Re: First time having sex in a new relationshipFirst relationship, it was about three months. With the current beau, we flirted and teased for about two months before we slept together ... I think I rushed it a little bit, but I don't regret it
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Re: First time having sex in a new relationshipI enjoy the build up and the tension, so around the six week/10th date marker for me, though it was two months with Mr TJW... not merely because he was abroad for half that time, making me feel very chaste and proper. :P
I find that ten dates is a good pilot study for finding out if there's any possible romantic future. Obviously if he lets me down within that time (not calling when he says he will, being inconsistent/not on time, being boring conversation etc), then it's no deal.
I don't wanna give it up too soon, because then, what's to differentiate me from any girl he could just go to a club and meet and go home with? It doesn't make me feel special in myself, and also, I get too emotional about guys I have sex with to take the risk. I'd hate to be that girl who writes on here saying 'I slept with a guy on the first date, now I haven't heard from him, why?' And since there's no DISadvantage to enjoying the build up (so long as you don't wait TOO long!), why rush?
By my experience, if a guy is confident and laddish enough to know that he can pretty much go to a club and get laid if he wants, then he's not gonna stick around 'getting to know' yet another girl who gives it up straight. And since I like guys who are confident with women, the only solution is to demonstrate that the bar is higher for me and he'll have to do more than take me out for a night on the town like every other garden variety bozo (can't blame 'em though, if it gets results! But not my style).
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Re: First time having sex in a new relationshipThis.(Original post by Arturo Bandini)
my relationships usually follow on from having sex with someone, rather than the other way around
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Re: First time having sex in a new relationshipThis too tbh.(Original post by Lucia.)
1-2 weeks. Even when I lost my virginity to my first bf it was less than a week.
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Re: First time having sex in a new relationshipAbout 1 month to 2 months. I wouldn't sleep with a guy before we knew we were definitely in a relationship. Otherwise, it might just be mutual lust rather than actually liking the person.
It's important to know the attraction isn't just physical. Whilst the sex side is great, I think personality is more vital to a long lasting relationship.
Was so nervous back then! Another was about just over a month into the relationship.. and with my current boyfriend it happened extremely quickly, he was hard to resist! lol not quite the 1st date though 
