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STOP me being boring!

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    I need help.

    I am an incredibly boring person; I don't care much for friends, I dislike socialising and all I really love is art and talking about deep or intellectual things.

    I never have anything funny or interesting to say in conversation. I'm the most awkward person EVER. Such awkwardness repels people- I am used to this. But now, I have been shown so much love and kindness from a family in my time of need, and I feel incredibly pressured. They keep asking me to come around, and I see them every week at an event I go to, but it's so damn awkward. I love the parents, they're being so nice to me, but my complete boringness will ruin things...

    Mostly, it's because the daughter is the opposite to me. I really don't think she likes me. She's two years younger, extremely confident, popular and slightly pretentious... it's as though conversation has become so boring between us she doesn't even make the effort anymore. Her fake happiness to see me and her complete lack of enthusiasm to talk to me is obvious, but she's so happy and squealy when others come up to her... I've tried in so many ways, being upbeat, talking about her and asking questions, being funny- and she does NOT laugh or does a little fake laugh and then an awkward silence. She has only ever really said things to which I have no real response and can only laugh. And yes, being my boring, quiet self gets nowhere either.

    So I get super super nervous every time I see them, and I know I'm going to ruin any good thing that comes my way because of my total lack of personality. It always happens with everything, it's become inevitable... everyone eventually gets bored of me.

    Please help. How do I not be boring?
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    If you don't care about having friends and dislike socialising, why does it matter if you are boring?
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    Start caring would be a start.


    Edit: ofc, if you made this thread you obvs care, silly moi. You at uni? Join a society of something you interested on. Talk to the people from the soc. There more you talk to these people, the more your social skills develop. Boom - you become so used to talk to people you won't even care on how to act around them. Social King
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    make up some stories about yourself that are borderline believable like "last summer i saw a deer having sex with a rottweiler..."
    should lead to more interesting conversations

    also maybe state some outrageous views and try to back them up in conversation
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    (Original post by see-are)
    make up some stories about yourself that are borderline believable like "last summer i saw a deer having sex with a rottweiler..."
    should lead to more interesting conversations

    also maybe state some outrageous views and try to back them up in conversation
    The only ever time this would be 'borderline believable' would be in a mental hospital.
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    (Original post by Psyk)
    If you don't care about having friends and dislike socialising, why does it matter if you are boring?
    In this instance, I do care. These parents are so lovely to me and it's nice to know there are such kind people out there! But I have a feeling my awkwardness will mess things up.


    (Original post by ussumane)
    Start caring would be a start.


    Edit: ofc, if you made this thread you obvs care, silly moi. You at uni? Join a society of something you interested on. Talk to the people from the soc. There more you talk to these people, the more your social skills develop. Boom - you become so used to talk to people you won't even care on how to act around them. Social King
    I am at uni, part of a society but conversation with people doesn't tend to go as far as "Heyy how's it going?"... leave me alone with someone for 5-10 minutes and I'll **** myself. What you're saying is true, I need to get used to it so it's natural!

    (Original post by see-are)
    make up some stories about yourself that are borderline believable like "last summer i saw a deer having sex with a rottweiler..."
    should lead to more interesting conversations

    also maybe state some outrageous views and try to back them up in conversation
    LOL
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    (Original post by JJTEASE)
    The only ever time this would be 'borderline believable' would be in a mental hospital.
    As a former mental hospital patient, may I say that no one would have believed this. Even from the man with two broken arms and a tattoo on his face.
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    Become an art thief. You say you like art, and I bet people wouldn't think you're boring when they see you abseiling down the walls of the Louvre to nab the Mona Lisa.
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    Get off the internet.
    You're in a rut, I used to be a boring person until I realised.

    Try something different when the mood strikes, if you're stuck in a rut and you're bored in life.

    But, the key is, not to be too hard on yourself. I'm a guy who enjoys his own company, I don't like smalltalk and saying things for the sake of saying them, which I suppose makes me slightly different to the majority of people who just say the first thing that comes into their head. I enjoy the company of others don't get me wrong, I have quite a decent group of friends and everyone seems to know me through some connection when I go out, which I can't say I ever got. I accept people for who they are, not everyone understands my philosophy in life and I don't understand others, but I work from the assumption people are well meaning. The point is not to force anything, don't try to be something you're not, just try to live life and enjoy your time here my friend.

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