[Anonymous]

Hey so this is becoming a major problem for me now. I'm 23 (female), have been sexually active for 6 years yet intercourse pretty much always hurts too much. To be honest, ever since I lost my virginity the pain hasn't subsided. The only time when it was slightly less painful was when I have been in stable relationships and have been doing it on a regular basis, but as soon as there would be a 2/3 week break in-between it would start hurting again. The only information I can find online is about vaginismus which is a psychological problem, I highly doubt my pain is caused by this as the same thing happens whether i'm with a boyfriend who I love and trust or a ONS. I've been single for 2 years now and even when I have attempted to have sex with guys I've dated, it has been almost physically impossible due to the intense pain (feels like I'm being stretched way too far). This also has nothing to do with their size, although obviously if they're very big it makes it worse.

I am worried it's a physical problem, Is it possible that my vagina just isn't big enough for sex?! Does anyone else have the same problem. It's really making me depressed that I can't do one of the most natural things everyone else does.

[Anonymous]

anyone?

[butter_god]

Vaginismus- ppl sell dilators for this situation- I have been trying to send you a link, but it keeps getting moderated- I'll PM it to you if you just PM me so I send!

(Original post by Anonymous)
anyone?

[moonymeen]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Hey so this is becoming a major problem for me now. I'm 23 (female), have been sexually active for 6 years yet intercourse pretty much always hurts too much. To be honest, ever since I lost my virginity the pain hasn't subsided. The only time when it was slightly less painful was when I have been in stable relationships and have been doing it on a regular basis, but as soon as there would be a 2/3 week break in-between it would start hurting again. The only information I can find online is about vaginismus which is a psychological problem, I highly doubt my pain is caused by this as the same thing happens whether i'm with a boyfriend who I love and trust or a ONS. I've been single for 2 years now and even when I have attempted to have sex with guys I've dated, it has been almost physically impossible due to the intense pain (feels like I'm being stretched way too far). This also has nothing to do with their size, although obviously if they're very big it makes it worse.

I am worried it's a physical problem, Is it possible that my vagina just isn't big enough for sex?! Does anyone else have the same problem. It's really making me depressed that I can't do one of the most natural things everyone else does.

Sorry for asking an obvious question, but have you been to the doctors, because it sounds like you've only been searching the internet for information. It sounds like a horribly irritating problem, and I feel for you But your GP may possibly refer you to a gynaecologist?

[Anonymous]

(Original post by moonymeen)
Sorry for asking an obvious question, but have you been to the doctors, because it sounds like you've only been searching the internet for information. It sounds like a horribly irritating problem, and I feel for you But your GP may possibly refer you to a gynaecologist?

No I haven't for two reasons really, 1 being that going to my family GP would be insanely embarrassing and will probably just be told that I need to use lube and 'relax' more. 2 if I did get refered to a gynaecologist it would probably involve some sort of examination which will be painful.

[yothi5]

(Original post by Anonymous)
No I haven't for two reasons really, 1 being that going to my family GP would be insanely embarrassing and will probably just be told that I need to use lube and 'relax' more. 2 if I did get refered to a gynaecologist it would probably involve some sort of examination which will be painful.

Well use lube and relax more.

[F Ellen]

Personally I would seek a referral to a gynaecologist. Would you rather a few moments embarrassment and physical examination, or suffer with painful sex all your life? I know which one I'd choose.

[Anonymous]

I actually have the same problem, but only when I've, like you, had quite a break between having sex. I don't see my bf much in the holidays and when I get back to term it's always really painful the first few times. I then give it a break for a day or two, and then just battle with the pain a couple of times until it doesn't hurt any more - I find each time the pain gets less. So essentially I just put up with it, but I understand just how painful it is. I considered going to the doctor about it but I just let it get better itself each time. Could it be that you are particularly sensitive down there? I found that there was a particular region that hurt more. I think if it's persistent you should go for an examination even if it isn't very pleasant - you might receive some cream or something simple that improves it.

[Laurah5498]

You need to go to your GP asap to get this sorted. It's not right that you're suffering. Ask if you could see a different doctor maybe? Your doctor isn't allowed to tell any of your family about what you've been to see them for

Try using lube and relaxing more. It might be worth using a sex toy to get you used to having something up there.

There's nothing the be embarrassed about, doctors see much worse! My mom doing her nurses training had to help with a hairbrush removal from a young man's backside. Just as an example

[Venomilys]

Vagina transplanty

[nish81]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Hey so this is becoming a major problem for me now. I'm 23 (female), have been sexually active for 6 years yet intercourse pretty much always hurts too much. To be honest, ever since I lost my virginity the pain hasn't subsided. The only time when it was slightly less painful was when I have been in stable relationships and have been doing it on a regular basis, but as soon as there would be a 2/3 week break in-between it would start hurting again. The only information I can find online is about vaginismus which is a psychological problem, I highly doubt my pain is caused by this as the same thing happens whether i'm with a boyfriend who I love and trust or a ONS. I've been single for 2 years now and even when I have attempted to have sex with guys I've dated, it has been almost physically impossible due to the intense pain (feels like I'm being stretched way too far). This also has nothing to do with their size, although obviously if they're very big it makes it worse.

I am worried it's a physical problem, Is it possible that my vagina just isn't big enough for sex?! Does anyone else have the same problem. It's really making me depressed that I can't do one of the most natural things everyone else does.

I would definitely go seek a referral from your GP I know it'll be embarrassing, but with some medical problems you just have to bite the bullet imo. If it helps any, your GP has probably dealt with these sort of things before, and is trained to be professional/confidential about everything that comes through his/her door, so you probably think it'll be worse than it'll actually be.

I don't really know much about what the cause of the problem could be..I'm a guy so never had to deal with anything similar

[miniteen]

I have actually heard of some women needing surgery because the hole is just too small. I'm not sure that's your case, but it could be.

Anyway, I'd ask a gynecologist.

[lilac_glitter]

Is it deep inside or more superficial. If its deep inside it could be a cyst or endo which can make sex extremely painful I talk from experience. If its more external its more likely to be vaginismus. Your gp will not be phased at all by this but you need to go see him. If you are really worried you could find your local family planning clinic who will be able to help. Also dont worry if you have to have an examination they will be very gentle and are use to having women experience different levels of discomfort.