[ChapelTom]

(Original post by anonforme)
Lol no i didnt come on here for sympathy.

i came on to ask a few questions like if i do hear any more about this which will likely be a caution and a fine will this stay with me forever ?

for example will i have to declare this on job applications and visa applications or uni/course applications and things like that.

Thanks for the replies so far to those who arnt ridiculing me for it. We were all young once. I dont think im exactly scum of the earth for peeing in a corner at 20 years of age at 2:30 in the morning when i was out for a few beers with my mates.

You asked a genuine question and no-one has been nice enough to answer.

We are all young once. Your not scum of the Earth. I can tell you, mates of mine have actually done the alternative and pissed themselves, now that is not funny, especially having to dry out those clothes and go to Uni in them the next day... oh we had it covered with a fantastic excuse!! No-one ever guessed anyway. Had another mate throw up all over a train carriage which was funny, seeing as it was 2 carriage train... everyone piled into one...

[TheSownRose]

(Original post by ChapelTom)
You may think that but people aren't idiots, some genuinely cannot handle their drink and it may surprise you people don't always aim to get completely off their faces although it does happen because people want social lives, want fun, want a laugh.

Bringing me back to my point of maybe they shouldn't be drinking if they know they can't handle it.

I get addicted to things too easily - if I drank, I wouldn't stop, I wouldn't be able to. So I don't drink. And it's not always the easy choice. Don't you think I might want fun and to have a laugh? I watch my friends go out drinking and it destroys parts of my social life because I can't join them, can never join them.

But I still don't drink. It's no easier for me than it would be for other people who can't handle their drink.

Now for me, take this.

Beer is one of my hobbies, I suppose that would be a problem to you? I enjoy drinking, because I like the taste of craft beers, real ales, trying beers. I absolutely love a beer. Its one of many passions. At 19, when I'm in Uni just 8-10 hours a week 26 weeks a year, it may surprise you people do actually have a lot of spare time and if I want a drink, I'll have one and when I want to go on a pub crawl and get smashed out of my face and live, I will do. What gives you the right to tell anyone else what to do?

If people cannot make errors, get into situations like the OP and 99% of those who have had a drink and are students, will have done something they regret, are embarrassed about then really what is the point in living? Its funny, something to look back on when your older, when life is boring. I've woken up in a field before, covered in mud, no idea how I got there, bit embarrassing but something I can laugh about.

There's nothing wrong with enjoying a drink or enjoying going too far ... until the point where it does impact on other people. Then they have some right to tell you what to do.

Being drunk, no inherent effect on other people. Being a violent drunk who attacks other people has an effect on other people. Being a drunk who vandalises property has an effect on other people. Similarly, waking up in a field covered in mud doesn't affect another person. If you'd trespassed on a farmer's field and killed his crops, that does affect someone else.

Hence why being drunk (in private), being in a field and being covered in mud aren't crimes, whereas assault, vandalism and trespassing are. The law does, incidentally, have the right to tell you what you can and can't do.

[jamboogy]

(Original post by silent ninja)
I was playing football last week and at half time one of the guys goes in the corner near the fence and starts peeing. I thought it was disgusting. Dogs do that. There was a toilet not 3 minutes away. Let's just say I never shook his hand after the game.

The percentage of people not washing their hands after going to the toilet is another topic altogether. It's shockingly high and disgusting. Ugh.

Sorry, but how dirty is YOUR penis? Chill out mate

[Alkranite]

this has gone from someone tellimng us about an embarrasing incident to discussing how dirty people penises are LOL

[silent ninja]

(Original post by jamboogy)
Sorry, but how dirty is YOUR penis? Chill out mate

I apologise for being raised with common sense hygiene.

[Frodo Baggins]

Social norm in india...

[jamboogy]

(Original post by silent ninja)
I apologise for being raised with common sense hygiene.

Better than shaking hands with someone who doesn't wash their hands after giving birth to a brown baby boy.

[GirlAfraid.]

This thread makes for interesting reading…

I had to pee in an alleyway on a night out during Fresher’s Week because I was really desperate and there wasn’t anywhere where I could have gone to use an actual bathroom.

I posted about it on here because the reaction of the people who I was with at the time had made me feel really embarrassed about having to wee outside:
http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=1789545

TheSownRose was very vocal and judgmental in that thread too.

When the majority of people in the thread above told me not to feel bad, and that what I did wasn’t really that much of a big deal given the circumstances, she started a thread on “How acceptable is public urination” in the hope of getting a different consensus: http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=1790520

I would agree with the OP that, in the big scheme of things, having a wee in dark corner somewhere when you have exhausted all other options really isn’t that big of a deal. Since I made my original post, I have known several people at uni who have had to do it on nights out (girls as well as guys).

I also agree with this:

(Original post by crazybored)
There's a big difference between 'normal' needing to pee i.e. I can hold it til I get home, and 'been-drinking' needing to pee i.e. I went ten minutes ago and yet I feel like my bladder's about to explode

TheSownRose obviously has no direct personal experience of this distinction as, by her own admission, she never drinks.

[mattamz]

after enough to drink, no one can tell when they'll need a pee, and if you can you haven't drank enough!

[TheSownRose]

(Original post by GirlAfraid.)
This thread makes for interesting reading…

I had to pee in an alleyway on a night out during Fresher’s Week because I was really desperate and there wasn’t anywhere where I could have gone to use an actual bathroom.

I posted about it on here because the reaction of the people who I was with at the time had made me feel really embarrassed about having to wee outside:
http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=1789545

TheSownRose was very vocal and judgmental in that thread too.

When the majority of people in the thread above told me not to feel bad, and that what I did wasn’t really that much of a big deal given the circumstances, she started a thread on “How acceptable is public urination” in the hope of getting a different consensus: http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=1790520

I would agree with the OP that, in the big scheme of things, having a wee in dark corner somewhere when you have exhausted all other options really isn’t that big of a deal. Since I made my original post, I have known several people at uni who have had to do it on nights out (girls as well as guys).

I also agree with this:



TheSownRose obviously has no direct personal experience of this distinction as, by her own admission, she never drinks.

Well, at least I'm consistent.

What can I say? I think public urination is disgusting, dirty and discourteous to everyone else, and if you do it you deserve to be judged IMO. I don't drink, I've not hidden that, but I have been in situations where I was bursting for a wee. I had a spell of UTI infections, including one that possibly had renal involvement as well, one of the symptoms being frequent need to urinate. Guess what? I still avoided pissing in the street.


I'd also like to add that I think it's quite cowardly that you made this post discussing me without quoting me in it at any stage so there's a decent chance I'd never see it.



EDIT: Having re-read the threads to remind myself of the details, I'd like to make a more detailled response lest everyone reading blindly accept the version above.

I made two posts in that thread. In response to the question "I'm now really worried that people are going to be judging me and thinking badly of me, so just wanted some other people's perspectives on whether what I did was really that big a deal or not?", I replied

Have to admit, personally I wouldn't be too keen on befriending someone who urinates in a public alley - I'm sure you weren't hundreds of miles from your halls.

Later on the in the thread and in response to the many comments about how everyone does it, I posted

How the **** is public urination as acceptable as it seems to be on this thread?

It's at this stage that I decided to make the second thread, which did not at any stage name GirlAfraid., link to her thread or even directly refer to it - it just mentioned a thread. Exact sentence:

I've been very surprised by the reaction to a thread that seemed to suggest that most people deem public urination to be an acceptable and normal part of life.

[rugbyladosc]

(Original post by jamboogy)
Better than shaking hands with someone who doesn't wash their hands after giving birth to a brown baby boy.

or Mr Sticky sticky

[jamboogy]

You guys need to chill out. There are things a lot worse than this, i.e. a woman not being in the kitchen.

[Psyk]

One way to help this is to make it a law that all pubs have to stay open for at least an hour after last orders. That way there is enough time to not only finish your drink, but also urinate most of it back out. If I finish a pint as the pub is closing, I'll go to the toilet right before leaving, but I'm still going to have a pint or so of liquid making it's way to my bladder. My bladder might be empty just as I leave, but it's going to be completely full again about 15-20 minutes later.