Not only is my name unusual but its also a bit hard to say/catch on to when you first hear it. So its always a bit of a nightmare when i first meet new people. I dont mind it so much when its a professional environment but in a social situation like on a night out or when you meet your friends' new uni friends or boyfriend's family/friends etc its really frustrating? I dont get offended at all if people mispronounce it but its just annoying cause i can tell they're avoiding it and i just find the whole thing awkward? Especially when theres drink involved - people normally dont have clue what im saying when i tell them my name! I dont blame them, i just wanted to know if other people have been in this position too and how you deal with it?
Like for example, just the other day i met my best friend from school, Amy's big new group of friends from work with two others.. lets call them Emma, Laura and aijufeoica (me, im kidding this isnt my name but it may aswell be lol) and i could tell people were making more effort with Emma and Laura - though, i dont think i made a bad impression at all if ever someone would refer to me it would be as 'amy's friend'.
Now im not offended by any of this in the slightest.. but surely you understand it gets tedious when this happens ALL the time! like literally everytime i meet someone new (which will be pretty often once i start uni!) How do you guys deal with it? I wish i had a nickname but i dont :/ i cant just make one up! lol. Also how would you feel about getting with someone called sraiuvrw or something ha who was otherwise fairly attractive etc? or is it a turn off as a first impression?
Just had to get this off my chest! thanks for any opinions!
(Original post by PinkMobilePhone)
You can easily just make up a nickname. Or shortened form.
"Hey I'm Aijufeoica, but you can call me Aij because it's easier".
or do like my mother did :
"Hey I'm Diane" (her name was Wladyslawa) lol.
(She eventually got it changed to Dyann by deed poll).
You cant really shorten my name easily.. its not like 'Jessica, Jess for short' or 'Samantha, Sam for short' :/ now i wish my name was aijufeocia or whatever random letters i typed earlier lol, atleast you can shorten it to the first syllable! ..Oh wow, her original name sounds hard to shorten to! What would the first syllable be, 'Wl' ? Or perhaps 'lady' hmm.. . I dont think i could come up with a random name altogether - id feel so awkward! Especially considering my surname is pretty odd too (but much easier to say mind!) so Diane (or anything "normal") would be weird when the rest of it is so odd! But i guess if i was to come up with a random name altogether now is the best time when i start uni and wont know literally anyone up there!
(Original post by M4LLY)
I know a girl called Sharpe (Shar-pay) and everyone just calles her S because she detestes her name. One of the reasons why i enjoy being called Tom -_-
This is what i meant when i said not only is my name unsual but also a bit tricky to say, yes sharpe isnt too common, but how far off will someone be, 'sharp'? still pretty close! or if she introduced herself on a night out 'hi, im sharp-ay' im sure people would catch on! my first letter is S too actually, but i always thought 'hi, im S' would sound a bit odd :/ but something like 'hi im G' or M or L or T etc would be fine? (maybe this is just me being odd!)
(Original post by Manitude)
Nicknames are a wonderful thing, there's got to be some way of shortening your name to something more manageable? Or if you don't like that, go by a completely different name that people can say?
There isnt really a way of shortening it, its only two syllables.. (i dont want to say my real name on here cause im pretty sure if anyone typed it onto facebook theyd soon see im probably the only person with this name!) The second syllable is just a 'er' sound (like at the end of Emma or Jessica) so if i went by the first syllable its still the tricky bit! lol :/
Get people to refer to you by your last name? (Though this is from someone who's last name is Lee... :P)
I'm Chinese so I actually have two names - one Chinese and one English - and I used to be called by my Chinese name. Although it wasn't particularly hard name to pronouce I wanted to switch to Clara when I started secondary school as I knew no one and thought it would be easier to introduce myself and make my name more memorable/easier to spell etc.
So if you are really in distraught with your name then as the others have said use a nickname or shorthen your name etc. Seeing how you're starting uni with a 'clean slate' if you will you could always call yourself a different name as long as you think it suits
I was never refered to Clara (all my family still calls me by my Chinese name by the way) before I started secondary school but I never has a problem of not reconising that someone is talking to me.
Is their not a nickname you could get from your surname either? I know you said it's unusual but I know plenty of people that go by a nickname from their surname eg Smithy from Smith, Gibbo from Gibson, Robbo from Robinson, (I know their fairly common names but you get the idea?)
I find it sadder that I have acquired a nickname over the years, taken from saying my last name in a different fashion. The thing is, I think this nickname is great as a name and often I've thought to myself that I like this nickname more than my given name, even though I have a good given name. I don't think I could ever change my name though