I thought I will make this thread as I would like to make a change to my current situation of being friendless
After seeing a similar thread out there I thought I'd create this one for people in a similar situation, to find ,get to know and meet people.
Yes it may come across sad to some people but it's a start for people with not many opportunities to meet people.
So an introdution of yourself , what you like, what your looking for in a friend and why you are friendless could be a place to start on here
so i'll start .....
I'm 23, female, currently live in Birmingham, graduated last summer and working as an design engineer now .......
My main problem is my weekends and after work ....having nothing to do. I'm quite out-going but know no-one in Birmingham since everyone left after uni. I am quite quiet and shy and I think that holds me back a lot.
I LOVE music .. mainly rock music ....love gigs, festivals (Download fest) going this year on my own to Camp loner (wow I sound sad) . I like learning new things currently planning a trip to Spain to learn Spanish again on my own. I like the cinema, clubbing, restaurants and pubs. Xbox and learning to drum.
I'm looking for someone to talk to ....I don't have anyone in life to talk to. No family or friends. So people with problems are good, I'm a good listener and relate to peoplelike that.
Someone to share an interest with .
Really looking for someone to go out on the weekends with and travel on weekends breaks etc.
I guess I'm friendless because unlike most people I really find it hard to make long lasting relationships. I'm shy and quiet not that confident and really feels this plays a part.
Tweety you sound like such a lovely gal! I bet you will meet some lovely people in Brum soon. Going to Download on your own is going to be amazing! You will definitely meet some cool people there. I've been thinking of going travelling on my own or volunteering at festivals as a good way to meet people/an interesting experience.
I wouldn't say I'm friendless, but I've lost a lot of my friends lately. It mainly came from splitting up with my boyfriend and losing a lot of our mutual friends. Also, I've been bogged down with uni work and just generally been unhappy because of bad things happening, so I haven't been out much or socialising.
So yeah not really looking to meet any peeps just yet as I'm so busy at the moment, but in the near future I'll be moving (probably to London), so it'd be nice to make some new friends.
Got to respect this post, putting it out there aren't yah lol. I don't think I'd be able to go to a festival on my own, it'd have to with someone.
"I guess I'm friendless because unlike most people I really find it hard to make long lasting relationships. I'm shy and quiet not that confident and really feels this plays a part." Sounds like me tbh lol. I dunno what else to write so....lol
would be interesting if there was a kind of thread like this in each university sub forum, and that each university also participates i.e. in the form of providing a safe 'real life' (i.e. outside the computer) environment (no rapists/pedos/muggers/etc) for the people of each thread... while theres nothing wrong with making friends online, it does help if you were able to make friends in 'real life'. would be quite beneficial for people if their respective unis actually took part unless im not thinking of any negative implications ...
no one likes being friendless (unless they want to), would be great if a uni campaign with this would be involved, especially near the start e.g. freshers... this can be applied to sixthform, secondary etc based on the typical age range of the audience of TSR...
with regard to actually answering your thread:
im 20, male, british indian, born and bred in east london, no im not a chav, i like drawing, watching movies and getting immersed into the entertainment, i really like anime, i want to get into programming as a hobby, as well as possibly martial arts/boxing, im studying physics at nottingham so far and thinking of incorporating programming from computer science into the degree, im interested in making a flash movie (i was planning on making a stickman movie but its been on hiatus for a year or two), im an opinionated person (not political) and like to talk about various things e.g. philosophical discussion... im agnostic atheist, have aspergers (would probably be the reason why im in the same situation as you)... would be nice to just generally hang out with friends even if its not for productive reasons... and relationships that can stay intact even after, say, leaving uni and not just be some contact on facebook that gradually fades away and becomes part of the sea of 'friends' (but not best friends) with increasing time ... people have said its important to have a person you can confide to, in regards to balance of emotion and such... would be nice to have such a friend for this, im not really close to my parents...
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Hi OP. I'm too tired right now to write much, but yeah I like your post as I have a similar problem. I might come back later to write more...
EDIT: Hi. I'm 20, and I live in the south east suburbs of London. I've drifted apart from old mates from school so I don't really have anyone to hang out with regularly these days. I'd so love to go clubbing as it's something that looks kinda fun, but not something you can do alone. At the moment I'm not in education, I'm just looking for a job, which is so hard to come by as well so if anyone could also help me out on that front then that would be awesome . I'm not totally sure what career I want yet, as I am so indecisive, but I'm hoping to come to a good decision eventually. I just have a few volunteer jobs at the moment in arts and retail. I also dream of travelling to lots of places in the world, but just need to somehow save up some money first to do so.
I do have quite a few online friends at the moment, but people I could actually meet up regularly(ish) IRL would just be awesome and ideal
If you'd like to know more about me, just read my TSR profile and/or message me
I was gonna say exactly the same thing too! This is me too!
Last edited by CherryCherryBoomBoom; 13-05-2012 at 19:29.
Well....to be honest I'm quite a lone wolf. I'm working so hard right now to get back to university because this time its all coming out of my pocket. Ever since Uni finished, I pretty much have ended up with only my best friend who I see on the odd occasion in my home town. Problem is even if he is my best bud, I can't always ask him to hang out because he's either not available and other times I feel like I'm being invasive.
I'm stuck in that horrible loop of going to work going home work home and not much inbetween because there aren't decent people to hang out with. I really loathe my hometown it brings back a lot of unpleasant memories from my younger years at school which are difficult to forget entirely when you're stuck back here after university.
Anyway long story short due to so many betrayals from so called 'friends' I always seem to end up on my own. You get used to it eventually but it doesn't solve the problem.
Really its good to have a good group of friends but most importantly its about respect for one another. If you can find decent enough people you'll be able to have a blast.
21, live in London and on a year's work placement.
Perceived by my friends as too nice and often end up getting blown out because I won't "mind".
Like running, football, films and clubbing.
'I guess I'm friendless because unlike most people I really find it hard to make long lasting relationships. I'm shy and quiet not that confident and really feels this plays a part.'
I'm 20 and at art school in London. Love art and design, books and sports. Want to travel for a bit over the summer if I can muster up the courage to just go. I think being too shy and coming across as painfully boring in a place full of a lot of flamboyant people has left me a little bit short of proper friends.
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Reason: didn't actually write about myself!
i actually think this is a pretty cool idea! i only joined tsr cause my mate talked me into it and so far havent really spoke to many people so ill give this a bash
i just turned 21, im from liverpool but im in Hull uni doing computer science (3rd year),
i guess im a nice enough lad, like talking and the usual stuff, i plan on going travelling in the summer.
Spare time i guess just clubbing, restaurants, movies,books, music usuall stuff, also tend to be a bit to nice for my own good and overly honest =]
I hear this! I have friends who I know from school and the 'real world' but we only really socialise online or at school, which is getting very boring. The fact that I live in a small town means there would hardly be anything to do anyway... Hopefully university will remedy this.
This is actually a really good idea. Coincidentally, I live very close to Birmingham, can get there in 30 minutes on the bus
I'm 19 and doing to study A-levels next year
I suppose that my reason for being so lonely is that.. well.. I actually do not know. The only thing that I can think of is my looks, as being skinny and slightly odd looking puts nearly everyone off! I seem to be rather unapproachable and I'm not 100% sure why, but this seems to be my best educated guess.
I'm just looking for anything really, not too fussed, anything is better than what I have now
I just live for music (various types of metal/classical/jazz), movies, food, just what most of the average person would like.
tweet your quite a cool person already to post something like this.
I'm 27 and married and must say it takes guts to post this so good on you.
I have found in life, you will have ups and downs and the best thing to do is concentrate on your job and career as you will eventually work In a place where you will make loads of friends, sometimes it takes a while and it took me many years.
I find with age I am becoming more content within myself although I enjoy company, I enjoy being alone too and value it.
my wife keeps me entertained and does enough talking for us both lol.
but she's lovely to an fair.
I find if you work hard being the best you can be, friends find there way to you, have faith.
OP I am the same with lasting relationships but mostly because I'm a bit odd and really awkward, I always worry people won't like the real me so a lot of my "friends" really don't know me...
My boyfriend is lovely and I can really be myself around him but since moving to uni then dropping out and then moving up to Scotland I feel like I really only have him, and that's not healthy.
Anyways (sorry for the little rant) I'm Jess, 19 going back to uni in 2013 to do Asia Pacific Studies at UCLAN. I'm currently in the process of moving up to Edinburgh from Leicester I love swimming, and gaming and reading and baking and just chilling in the park. I like all sorts of music, from indie to opera the only thing I really dislike is rap. I'm not a girly girl but I sometimes enjoy shopping trips and I love getting dressed up every now and then
I will know virtually no one in Edinburgh so if anyone fancies a coffee sometime or just a chat PM me
I've somehow mustered up the courage to do things I really want to do on my own even though at first it may come across really daunting. I went to Spain alone to learn Spanish on my J's couple of years ago. Met loads of people went out a lot and had fun, wasn't as daunting as I thought before I went. Didn't keep in touch with all of them but had fun.
I really don't want to miss out on things based on my personality so most of the times I just go for it without thinking about it to much. But I think that doing things with people at times would be much more fun.
Well, when I left school I sort of drifted apart from most of my friends and have barely spoken to most of them in the 2 years I've been at uni. At uni, I haven't made any new friends because I am pretty shy and really not into clubbing and that's kindof what everyone talks about (at least at the start). I guess I missed out a lot on the freshers' experience because I was so homesick so spent most of my time on Skype with my boyfriend. Plus, I've never really liked doing stuff on my own, so I just stayed in by myself, and now I'm at the end of my second year with no friends.
About me, well, I'm Hannah. I'm 20 and studying at Manchester uni but I'm from down south. I like books/films/music/tv, and I also enjoy cooking, baking and even cleaning a little bit. I've also recently taken up running.
Would be nice to meet people in Manchester so I can gather a few good memories before I leave, but I'll talk to anyone. So, PM me?
I am 17 (18 in two months), female from South London. I studied ICT in my first year of college where I made a nice little group of friends, but lost contact with them after I transferred to another college for my second year to study Graphic Design. I left that college after two months because the course wasn't really for me and I didn't like the college. I spent the next three months at home being a bum and trying to find a job. At the beginning of this year I started a four week training course with other people my age who dropped out of college, and I made some friends there but lost contact with them, too.
I now have a job which I enjoy but I am sick of not having a social life! I only have one friend who I never see at all, we just communicate by phone and emails.
I didn't have the best group of friends in school, either. They were quite bitchy and I was very shy in school so they never invited me out and used to talk about me behind my back. Luckily I had another small group of friends in my GCSE Art class who I could have a laugh with and be myself.
I think my main problem is that I don't have Facebook anymore so I can't keep in touch with people. The reason I don't have one is quite stupid actually (I don't have any pictures on there) but I really need to get back on.
As for my interests, I am very girly and love shopping, fashion, vintage and the 1950's era. I like watching romantic comedies and reading books. I have never been clubbing before but I think that I would most likely enjoy it. My older cousin says she is going to take me to a club for my 18th so hopefully I will experience it then.
I'm 28, I'm married, and I have three young children, which is probably my main problem with regard to making friends. I can't just meet up with people at the drop of a hat due to my responsibilities, (and money constraints!) so things have to be pre-arranged. I guess that makes me a tad awkward, but by no means impossible.
I like going to the cinema, eating out, bowling, swimming, clubbing. Not that I get to do many of them very often. I go to the cinema about once ever 1-2 weeks, I eat out about once a week, but as for bowling and swimming - they're maybe once a year activities, though not out of choice, just the way it happens. I live in Barnsley, so anywhere in Wakefield, Barnsley, or Sheffield is fair game really. Even Leeds on occasion as I venture there from time to time to visit my mother who lives there.
I go clubbing with my husband about every 1-2 months. We go to a place called Mosh in Derby. Rock/metal music (which is what we're both into). It's all very pre-arranged due to having to get babysitters, pre-book hotels, and so on and so forth. We've so far got booked to go on 22nd June, 24th August, 9th November and 21st December. It's always just the two of us though (apart from once, when we managed to persuade my hubby's friend and her flat-mate to come along), which is fine, but we're pretty much both in need of some more friends. Going out with ONLY your other half gets a little same-old same-old. If anybody would like to come along with us at any point that would be fab.
I guess I'm unlikely to find anybody on TSR who wants to meet up with me really due to my awkward situation, but I do get so bloody lonely. I know, I know, I have my husband and kids....but it's not exactly the same as having some friends. Problem is that everybody wants a friend that can meet up at a moments notice, and nobody seems to be able to relate to me that well due to my responsibilities *sighs*. That's the problem with festivals and so on - I can't go to anything like that because of it being a) too expensive (kids cost a fortune to look after - it doesn't exactly leave me with a lot of spare cash), and b) nobody to watch the kids for the duration of a festival (I can't exactly take them with me!)
Well if anybody would like to be friends (and bear with me if sometimes it takes a bit of planning to work around the kids to be able to meet up) that would be lovely. I'm friendly, I promise
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