[neondragonz]

Hey everyone I am new to this site Just thought I'd say. So anyway I started my first year at uni in September last year and moved in to the smaller halls as I get an ensuite bathroom. BIG mistake...although they're nice and we have good kitchens, the people here are seriously boring. I am quite an outrageous person, who does go out a lot and likes a laugh and a social alongside doing my work. The halls have been a massive dissapointment. I settled in well at first, and made friends with some people on the other floors and the other block to mine, but now those groups have fizzled out and no one talks to me anymore. I feel so lonely here, it sucks. I regret choosing these halls so much because I hear that people in the other halls are having so much fun. I'm no slacker either. I do my work, I've done enough work this year. I never have anyone to go out with anymore, it seems that people here tend to leave me and I never seem to know why (due to my aspergers) Despite all this I have made friends with this girl on my floor, and she is the only one who has made my year here bareable. If she wasn't here I would have left by now, but she goes back to her hometown regularly (not as regularly now) and also can sleep a lot so there are a lot of times when she is not around for several days or hours, and without her there is no one and I get soooo bored. I have done more work to fill in the hours and I always feel alone especially at weekends, because no one is ever around. I feel so lonely it makes me angry and I cry sometimes. It also doesn't help when my neighbours hate the slightest bit of noise even during the day, so I can't even play my comfort music without them sneakly going to security behind my back. I wasn't expecting halls to be like this. Everything I have heard about halls has been positive, but all this is opposite. However I am grateful because in my class I have made 5 main really good friends including the girl in my halls, but they hardly go out, so when I want to I have no one to really go with. The weekdays are fine because we go to uni all day and sometimes chill in the evenings, but there was a time I used to enjoy weekends. Now I hate them, they're a slow and long drag and I hate that I am counting down the days for summer. I didn't think I would have to feel like that. Sorry for moaning guys but its something I need to get off my chest. Does anyone else have simular problems and how did they deal with it, by not flipping out.Overall I feel lonely when my main mate isn't around, but I can't become dependent on one person can I? Thanks if ppl reply

[Guybrush Sheepgood]

Hey I know how you feel, I absolutely hated halls. Knew hardly anyone and liked hardly anyone. The answer is to go join societies.

[Psyk]

To be honest, this is quite common I think. When you start uni you expect living in halls is going to be really exciting and constant partying. But the reality is that it's not. You might think your friends in other halls are having an amazing time, but chances are they are exaggerating.

[Dan1909]

:O Wall of text!

My advice would be to join as many clubs and societies as you can, they're an amazing way to meet new people. Try taking up a few new sports that are available, you may find you enjoy them, and even if you don't you'll still meet a lot of new people.

[Bey Taco]

Yours sounds pretty good compared to mine tbh.

[DMed]

Make friends with people in your department and join societies. It's easier to make friends with people there as you have a fair bit more in common.

Most of my mates from Uni are from my department, with a few from societies. Come the end of freshers year, I never saw the people I lived with again.

[chronic_fatigue]

OP change the colour of the text and put some paragraphs in I found reading that a bit hard on my eyes.
You will only be there for a few more weeks since since the year is coming to an end.

[Ham22]

Could that be any more offensive to read? I'm not even going to attempt it.

[Dan1909]

(Original post by Ham22)
Could that be any more offensive to read? I'm not even going to attempt it.

No paragraphs - Check
Awful colour - Check

Although, to give the OP credit, the spelling and grammar is pretty good, so it could be worse I guess!

[ForensicShoe]

MY EYES

[Kenan and Kel]

(Original post by neondragonz)
Hey everyone I am new to this site Just thought I'd say. So anyway I started my first year at uni in September last year and moved in to the smaller halls as I get an ensuite bathroom. BIG mistake...although they're nice and we have good kitchens, the people here are seriously boring. I am quite an outrageous person, who does go out a lot and likes a laugh and a social alongside doing my work. The halls have been a massive dissapointment. I settled in well at first, and made friends with some people on the other floors and the other block to mine, but now those groups have fizzled out and no one talks to me anymore. I feel so lonely here, it sucks. I regret choosing these halls so much because I hear that people in the other halls are having so much fun. I'm no slacker either. I do my work, I've done enough work this year. I never have anyone to go out with anymore, it seems that people here tend to leave me and I never seem to know why (due to my aspergers) Despite all this I have made friends with this girl on my floor, and she is the only one who has made my year here bareable. If she wasn't here I would have left by now, but she goes back to her hometown regularly (not as regularly now) and also can sleep a lot so there are a lot of times when she is not around for several days or hours, and without her there is no one and I get soooo bored. I have done more work to fill in the hours and I always feel alone especially at weekends, because no one is ever around. I feel so lonely it makes me angry and I cry sometimes. It also doesn't help when my neighbours hate the slightest bit of noise even during the day, so I can't even play my comfort music without them sneakly going to security behind my back. I wasn't expecting halls to be like this. Everything I have heard about halls has been positive, but all this is opposite. However I am grateful because in my class I have made 5 main really good friends including the girl in my halls, but they hardly go out, so when I want to I have no one to really go with. The weekdays are fine because we go to uni all day and sometimes chill in the evenings, but there was a time I used to enjoy weekends. Now I hate them, they're a slow and long drag and I hate that I am counting down the days for summer. I didn't think I would have to feel like that. Sorry for moaning guys but its something I need to get off my chest. Does anyone else have simular problems and how did they deal with it, by not flipping out.Overall I feel lonely when my main mate isn't around, but I can't become dependent on one person can I? Thanks if ppl reply

First things first, don't use that colour again, ever.

[neondragonz]

I didn't think about people's eyes sorry. I just like the colour that's all...oh well.

[Chronist]

(Original post by neondragonz)
Hey everyone I am new to this site Just thought I'd say. So anyway I started my first year at uni in September last year and moved in to the smaller halls as I get an ensuite bathroom. BIG mistake...although they're nice and we have good kitchens, the people here are seriously boring. I am quite an outrageous person, who does go out a lot and likes a laugh and a social alongside doing my work. The halls have been a massive dissapointment. I settled in well at first, and made friends with some people on the other floors and the other block to mine, but now those groups have fizzled out and no one talks to me anymore. I feel so lonely here, it sucks. I regret choosing these halls so much because I hear that people in the other halls are having so much fun. I'm no slacker either. I do my work, I've done enough work this year. I never have anyone to go out with anymore, it seems that people here tend to leave me and I never seem to know why (due to my aspergers) Despite all this I have made friends with this girl on my floor, and she is the only one who has made my year here bareable. If she wasn't here I would have left by now, but she goes back to her hometown regularly (not as regularly now) and also can sleep a lot so there are a lot of times when she is not around for several days or hours, and without her there is no one and I get soooo bored. I have done more work to fill in the hours and I always feel alone especially at weekends, because no one is ever around. I feel so lonely it makes me angry and I cry sometimes. It also doesn't help when my neighbours hate the slightest bit of noise even during the day, so I can't even play my comfort music without them sneakly going to security behind my back. I wasn't expecting halls to be like this. Everything I have heard about halls has been positive, but all this is opposite. However I am grateful because in my class I have made 5 main really good friends including the girl in my halls, but they hardly go out, so when I want to I have no one to really go with. The weekdays are fine because we go to uni all day and sometimes chill in the evenings, but there was a time I used to enjoy weekends. Now I hate them, they're a slow and long drag and I hate that I am counting down the days for summer. I didn't think I would have to feel like that. Sorry for moaning guys but its something I need to get off my chest. Does anyone else have simular problems and how did they deal with it, by not flipping out.Overall I feel lonely when my main mate isn't around, but I can't become dependent on one person can I? Thanks if ppl reply

Which uni do you go to?

[Chronist]

(Original post by Dan1909)
:O Wall of text!

My advice would be to join as many clubs and societies as you can, they're an amazing way to meet new people. Try taking up a few new sports that are available, you may find you enjoy them, and even if you don't you'll still meet a lot of new people.

This is good advice.

[RoleLikeABuffalo]

Hey everyone I am new to this site Just thought I'd say. So anyway I started my first year at uni in September last year and moved in to the smaller halls as I get an ensuite bathroom. BIG mistake...although they're nice and we have good kitchens, the people here are seriously boring.

I am quite an outrageous person, who does go out a lot and likes a laugh and a social alongside doing my work. The halls have been a massive dissapointment. I settled in well at first, and made friends with some people on the other floors and the other block to mine, but now those groups have fizzled out and no one talks to me anymore. I feel so lonely here, it sucks. I regret choosing these halls so much because I hear that people in the other halls are having so much fun. I'm no slacker either. I do my work, I've done enough work this year. I never have anyone to go out with anymore, it seems that people here tend to leave me and I never seem to know why (due to my aspergers).

Despite all this I have made friends with this girl on my floor, and she is the only one who has made my year here bareable. If she wasn't here I would have left by now, but she goes back to her hometown regularly (not as regularly now) and also can sleep a lot so there are a lot of times when she is not around for several days or hours, and without her there is no one and I get soooo bored.

I have done more work to fill in the hours and I always feel alone especially at weekends, because no one is ever around. I feel so lonely it makes me angry and I cry sometimes. It also doesn't help when my neighbours hate the slightest bit of noise even during the day, so I can't even play my comfort music without them sneakly going to security behind my back. I wasn't expecting halls to be like this.

Everything I have heard about halls has been positive, but all this is opposite. However I am grateful because in my class I have made 5 main really good friends including the girl in my halls, but they hardly go out, so when I want to I have no one to really go with.

The weekdays are fine because we go to uni all day and sometimes chill in the evenings, but there was a time I used to enjoy weekends. Now I hate them, they're a slow and long drag and I hate that I am counting down the days for summer. I didn't think I would have to feel like that.

Sorry for moaning guys but its something I need to get off my chest. Does anyone else have simular problems and how did they deal with it, by not flipping out.

Overall I feel lonely when my main mate isn't around, but I can't become dependent on one person can I? Thanks if ppl reply

[Tokido]

Your friends are probably exaggerating about their own experiences. Halls can be mundane for everyone.

But if you feel like you're missing out your best bet is to join some socieites, but as you mentioned you have Aspergers I'm not sure if this would be too uncomfortable for you. Other ideas would be to keep yourself busy by going to evening lectures at your uni. Most unis run some kind of evening seminar schedule where notable speakers give interesting lectures. This is a good way to learn something, pass the time, and also meet new people in a non-pressurised environment.

Also, you could always do some volunteering, or some paid work, or just study more! If you've got loads of free time on your hands, best to do something productive with it. You might think that uni is all about getting smashed and making new friends, but I know people who did that pretty much their whole first year and their studies suffered and they ended up having to re-take the whole year, which cost them a lot of money, and meant they weren't around their friends very much after that first year anyway.