Results are out! Find what you need...fast. Get quick advice or join the chat
Hey there! Sign in to join this conversationNew here? Join for free

Thought he liked me but I've been friendzoned?

Announcements Posted on
Will you get the grades you need for uni? Get prepared today and de-stress, sign up to email alerts for course places! 02-06-2015
Waiting on IB results? Our IB results hub explains everything you need to know 01-06-2015
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    So I thought this guy liked me- first day back at uni and he put his arm round me and it ended with us spooning in my friends bed. We had cuddles in bed another couple of times, at one point he had his hand on my bum. He also invited me round to his late at night and we spoke loads online. He teased me a bit as well. Then this week he started becoming more distant and he told me he liked me as a friend, and I found out he's going on a date with another girl. Why did he act like this?
  1. Offline

    ReputationRep:
    If he liked you then he would have made a move on you. Seems like he's just not into you. Sorry.
  2. Offline

    ReputationRep:
    No offence, but it sounds like it was a tad too platonic with you, it didnt go anywhere so he moved on with someone new.
  3. Offline

    ReputationRep:
    Ego-boost. I'm sorry, people do this sometimes.
  4. Offline

    ReputationRep:
    Guys can't friendzone girls :/
  5. Offline

    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by O'Donovan)
    Guys can't friendzone girls :/
    I think you have a point lad!
  6. Offline

    ReputationRep:
    Maybe he had feelings for you, but then they passed. Happens to everyone.
  7. Offline

    ReputationRep:
    I love this guy, what a lad, great tactics.

    Sorry moving away from the subject:

    The problem with girls these days is that they think it will hurt their pride if they say they like a guy, no it won't. If you like him, then tell him, otherwise why are you even posting this.
  8. Offline

    ReputationRep:
    Aww sweetheart, I think it's a case of him potentially having liked you before but then changing his mind. He obviously didn't get deep enough involved to become attached. It's possible he made a move but didn't get the right vibe to take it forward (knowing that takes practise).

    However I think definitely appreciate the fact he's been honest with you by telling you he sees you as a friend rather than leading you on further. People can change their minds - it happens.

    I really think one of the best pieces of advice for dating is remembering that how people interact is mostly down to their own perception. You should try not to take dating rejection too personally because everyone has a sense of what they want, which we ourselves can't pick up on. That's why finding something special is rare and should be treasured.

    (Original post by lad-lad)
    The problem with girls these days is that they think it will hurt their pride if they say they like a guy, no it won't. If you like him, then tell him, otherwise why are you even posting this.
    Can you elaborate on this? Is there a way for a woman to convey her feelings at such an early stage without seeming clingy? That's the thing. Men like the thrill of the chase so there has to be a way to play it where you don't come as an easy catch and bore him with your availability.
  9. Offline

    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by lad-lad)
    I love this guy, what a lad, great tactics.

    Sorry moving away from the subject:

    The problem with girls these days is that they think it will hurt their pride if they say they like a guy, no it won't. If you like him, then tell him, otherwise why are you even posting this.
    100% agreed
  10. Offline

    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Lucia.)
    Aww sweetheart, I think it's a case of him potentially having liked you before but then changing his mind. He obviously didn't get deep enough involved to become attached. It's possible he made a move but didn't get the right vibe to take it forward (knowing that takes practise).

    However I think definitely appreciate the fact he's been honest with you by telling you he sees you as a friend rather than leading you on further. People can change their minds - it happens.

    I really think one of the best pieces of advice for dating is remembering that how people interact is mostly down to their own perception. You should try not to take dating rejection too personally because everyone has a sense of what they want, which we ourselves can't pick up on. That's why finding something special is rare and should be treasured.



    Can you elaborate on this? Is there a way for a woman to convey her feelings at such an early stage without seeming clingy? That's the thing. Men like the thrill of the chase so there has to be a way to play it where you don't come as an easy catch and bore him with your availability.

    I dont like the thrill of the chase.

    Just dive in straight to dat pussaaayy
  11. Offline

    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Lucia.)
    Aww sweetheart, I think it's a case of him potentially having liked you before but then changing his mind. He obviously didn't get deep enough involved to become attached. It's possible he made a move but didn't get the right vibe to take it forward (knowing that takes practise).

    However I think definitely appreciate the fact he's been honest with you by telling you he sees you as a friend rather than leading you on further. People can change their minds - it happens.

    I really think one of the best pieces of advice for dating is remembering that how people interact is mostly down to their own perception. You should try not to take dating rejection too personally because everyone has a sense of what they want, which we ourselves can't pick up on. That's why finding something special is rare and should be treasured.



    Can you elaborate on this? Is there a way for a woman to convey her feelings at such an early stage without seeming clingy? That's the thing. Men like the thrill of the chase so there has to be a way to play it where you don't come as an easy catch and bore him with your availability.
    How can you even call this rejection? This isn't rejection.

    That's like saying every girl that flirts with me but doesn't sleep with me- rejects me. Its not true. The lad probably tried but he didn't feel anything back from her because again, girls are too afraid of loosing the pride of showing that they like a guy. Hence the stale mate in the end.
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    (Original post by lad-lad)
    I love this guy, what a lad, great tactics.

    Sorry moving away from the subject:

    The problem with girls these days is that they think it will hurt their pride if they say they like a guy, no it won't. If you like him, then tell him, otherwise why are you even posting this.
    I told him I liked him and the reply I got back was that he liked me as a friend.
  12. Offline

    ReputationRep:
    Awesome then you got nothing more to worry about darling and this thread doesn't really have a meaning no more.
    Throughout life as humans we meet lots of guys/girls that we like and unfortunately we cannot have them all.
    At least by being honest you found out the answer straight away. You never know perhaps he started liking someone else or just found a reason why it wouldn't work for you.
    Best advice is, don't give it too much thought, human preference is the hardest thing to describe.
  13. Offline

    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by lad-lad)
    I love this guy, what a lad, great tactics.

    Sorry moving away from the subject:

    The problem with girls these days is that they think it will hurt their pride if they say they like a guy, no it won't. If you like him, then tell him, otherwise why are you even posting this.
    I'm not sure about pride per se; but certainly "opening up" and "coming clean" with your feelings leaves you emotionally vulnerable on some level. Personally, I like to play with my cards held close to my chest.
  14. Offline

    ReputationRep:
    You should have initiated some physical teasing. Jeez.

Reply

Submit reply

Register

Thanks for posting! You just need to create an account in order to submit the post
  1. this can't be left blank
    that username has been taken, please choose another Forgotten your password?
  2. this can't be left blank
    this email is already registered. Forgotten your password?
  3. this can't be left blank

    6 characters or longer with both numbers and letters is safer

  4. this can't be left empty
    your full birthday is required
  1. By joining you agree to our Ts and Cs, privacy policy and site rules

  2. Slide to join now Processing…

Updated: May 17, 2012
TSR Support Team

We have a brilliant team of more than 60 Support Team members looking after discussions on The Student Room, helping to make it a fun, safe and useful place to hang out.

New on TSR

Improving your uni offer

Why now is the time to think about Adjustment

x

Think you'll be in clearing or adjustment?

Hear direct from unis that want to talk to you

Get email alerts for university course places that match your subjects and grades. Just let us know what you're studying.

Quick reply
Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.