[Anonymous]

(Original post by Scienceisgood)
Not trying to be horrible here, but, you being straight have PLENTY of options available to you where as, me being gay have narrowed my choices down DRASTICALLY because, well as you can imagine, not many people are gay.

I have a guilty crush (who I believe is the pinnacle of sexiness) on someone I know (or should I say did, got over it knowing it would never happen). However, we are friends, he knows I am gay, he doesn't know I liked him. =l
I even have a picture of the guy, I know that sounds creepy but I think he took it by accident with my phone. =l
Honest, I SWEAR I AM NOT a stalker. =l

I appreciate your point, but tbh when you're in love it's difficult to see it that way. When we hug hello or goodbye, I'm wishing he would hold me close for that bit longer and kiss me or something. When we're watching a dvd together I'm wishing I could snuggle up to him. I know that there are other guys out there. It's getting over this guy that's going to be so difficult.
The last bit of your post made me laugh. In a good way though.

[Scienceisgood]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I appreciate your point, but tbh when you're in love it's difficult to see it that way. When we hug hello or goodbye, I'm wishing he would hold me close for that bit longer and kiss me or something. When we're watching a dvd together I'm wishing I could snuggle up to him. I know that there are other guys out there. It's getting over this guy that's going to be so difficult.
The last bit of your post made me laugh. In a good way though.

I sorta understand where you are coming from.
Whenever we would meet in the hallway, he would either shake hands with almost everyone or pat them on the shoulder (He is about 6ft) so, not hard thing to do.
Anyway, I remember him patting me on the shoulder and for some reason, that stuck with me up until this day (been a little under a year now).

Thing is, he goes around with more females than males.

It's the little things which make all the difference to how you see someone.

[odkfn]

(Original post by Anonymous)
We've been really close friends for close to 5 years now, and I've been in love (I don't use the term lightly) with him for quite a while now. It came as a bit of a shock because (and I hate to stereotype) he's really into football, cars, and typical 'bloke' stuff.
The realisation that nothing will ever happen between us has left me feeling a bit down. I know that if he'd liked me he would have made a move by now, but I guess I always had hope somehow.
And I can hardly distance myself from him now to try and get over him. He said I'm the only person that knows (so far) and he'll probably get the wrong end of the stick and think I'm homophobic or something. (We're both 19 and 20 btw).
I'm not sure why I've posted this exactly. I just feel a bit lost right now.

Why so srs? On the bright side you have a guarenteed BEST FRIEND for life - a friendship that will never be messed up by feelings for one another, etc.

[goutham]

How do u know he's not lying to u?

[Anonymous]

(Original post by goutham)
How do u know he's not lying to u?

Why would someone lie about being gay?

[Anonymous]

(Original post by odkfn)
Why so srs? On the bright side you have a guarenteed BEST FRIEND for life - a friendship that will never be messed up by feelings for one another, etc.

...because it's confirmation that we'll never be anything more.

[Goody2Shoes-x]

I would consider telling him you had feelings for him - not that you love him, but that you did have feelings for him - so if he ever does catch you being a bit strange and/or distant with him, he'll know it's because of your feelings, not disgust at him coming out. I really feel for you, OP, this is a rubbish situation to be in.

Normally distance is what helps you get over unreciprocated love, but in this case, your friend needs you to be there for him. Time will help, and once he has a better support network, you should be able to distance yourself a bit and allow yourself time to get over him.

Remember, there are plenty of other guys out there and though it may not seem like it right now, there IS light at the end of the tunnel. And he clearly considers you a close enough friend to confide in you, which I know may not seem like much comfort, but he clearly thinks highly of you and considers you a good friend.

PM me if you want to talk more, hope you feel better soon.

[odkfn]

(Original post by Anonymous)
...because it's confirmation that we'll never be anything more.

I understand that but in this day and age where relationships really do come and go you've got yourself a best friend for life! And he trusted you, above all others in the world, to come out to! You are the number 1 person in his life! Fact.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by odkfn)
I understand that but in this day and age where relationships really do come and go you've got yourself a best friend for life! And he trusted you, above all others in the world, to come out to! You are the number 1 person in his life! Fact.

The whole situation sucks but I guess I am lucky to have him as a best friend.

[WatermelonDemon]

Wow, that really is a crap situation to be in. I do think telling him you have feelings for him (but not that you're head over heels) could help as you can spend less time with him without him wondering why. Do be there for him though, as I'm sure it's tough on him too.
Hope you get through this.