[kat91s]

Firstly OP, what he said about you getting pregnant was said before there was a real pregnancy and real baby involved. The only thing you can do for now is tell him and see how he responds this time. Of course it's going to be a shock at first, so if his first reaction isn't one of complete joy, give it some time and see if he comes round and is willing to work through this as a couple. All the best

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by Goody2Shoes-x)
"Only white people can be British. I'm black and was born in London but I just say I'm a Black African and tell people I'm Nigerian. If a black/asian person says they're British if I ask them where they are from I will honestly just laugh in their face."

Your exact post.

Lol! I was born and raised in the UK to Nigerian parents. Therefore I would call myself Black British I know people (other ethnic minorities born and raised here) who say the similar things...

I like to say that I am Black British of African descent

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by najabri)
I know I'd choose anonymity and people who are knowledgeable than the worry of telling people who know and will judge you, and probably don't have relevant knowledge.

Exactly this.

That person is so naive, not everyone has someone close they can talk to...especially without judgement...

[ChubbyWatermelon]

Well, if you need any advice, here it is. (It might be a bit late though)
You gotta think about YOU. Boyfriends are replaceable, and he doesn't support you through this traumatizing moment then, you are better off without him.

But, you also have to understand the responsibility of having a child. If you are going to raise it, you must understand your career is going to pay for it. If you have it, one day you will regret sacrificing so much of YOUR life to raise the baby. Furthermore, being a single parent is very difficult. I know this may seem harsh, but it is the truth. However, if you are mature, over 28 or something, and financially stable, have it. Abortions may seem devilish to some extent, but your instinct is always right, especially when you are making a decision.

[JamfulDodger]

(Original post by fleesaurus)
She can make him financially contribute whether he likes it or not. Leaving her won't save his ass.

Unfortunately, I know from experience that there are ways of avoiding having to pay maintenance. If he's anything like my ****er of a dad, he'll find a way.

[mark147celts]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Thanks for your reply.

You're a very judgemental little sap, aren't you? Whilst I'm "re-evaluating" my life, why don't you go out and ride a big fat c0ck, you might be less uptight then.

I see where your coming from regarding no sex b4 marriage... but re-evaluate her life... thats harsh man, you sound bitter as hell. Mistakes happen. If i was in your shoes, i'd keep the child. As for the man your currently with, do you really think he really is going to disown his own child? He might be against it, but when the child is born, he will be totally different. It's his own making whether he like it or not. Do not get an abortion. You will regret it and I think you know this! I hope you do the right thing!!

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by PinkyQT)
Everyone is racist, get over it. Nothing will get rid of racism. Some people just go too far though.

Well let me tell you something...

I'm not racist.

Deal with it, and get over yourself.

[Ellsbells3032]

(Original post by Alpharius)
Re-evaluate her life?

What ****ing planet are you on?


Right, first off it takes two to tango.

Its not your fault your implant failed, its not full proof. Really, he should have still worn a condom, if he didn't he cannot complain (not that he could anyway, unless you've been raping him, not likely).

Accidents happen.

What disgusts me is that he said he'll leave you if you don't get an abortion. You should have read the signs then and got out. He isn't mature enough to be able to deal with the consequences of his actions.

As such, forget about him when your making the decision whether to abort or not. Think; "Could I cope on my own?" Thats the simple question only you can answer, and the only answer that matters.

Having said that, he needs to know. He might see sence and support you either way. He may not. Not letting him know about the pregnancy or your decision is cruel. Thats a guy's perspective.

This...you need to decide what you want and then speak to your boyfriend. think about what other support you have too siblings/parents/close friends that can be there for you.

If he says he'll dump you if you don't get an abortion dump him before he has a chance as he's obv very immature

[Schmokie Dragon]

Wow, this thread is such a train wreck.

Pinky... shush. The rest of you, shush. Focus on the OP, not on getting defensive and aggressive with each other. The more you push someone, the more they'll push back and the whole discussion goes down the pan.

Can we also stop phrasing opinions as statements of fact, and advice as instructions? It's tedious to read 'this is how it is' followed by 'I was only giving my opinion' when challenged.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by PinkyQT)
This is why I am against sex before marriage. I'm going to save my virginity for marriage because it will prevent gross diseases and I won't be in the crap situation that you are in now.

You really need to re-evaluate your life.

Stop being so judgemental, you have chosen that path for yourself but she does not have to, sometimes mistakes happen but judging a person so harshly really doesn't help!

I'd say you'd really need to consider whether or not this relationship with your boyfriend is worth it. If this guy really loved you he'd be more considerate of your feelings. Please think carefully before aborting, it's not just flushing away some cells it can have an emotional effect on you that could last a really long time and it cannot be reversed as I'm sure you already know. Let me ask you this, what would happen if you decided to abort but then your boyfriend broke up with you anyway? Please think very carefully this is such a huge decision, but hopefully you'll have you're family to support you.