[Lyman]

After finishing school last summer I lost contact with many of my schoolmates through the holiday and then over this year. I was always something of an outsider in the friendship group I was part of; I went through nursery and primary school with most of my friends and upon reflection only really associated with them because my mother had been close friends with their parents meaning that we’d been drawn together through play dates and moms meet ups. Most of my group went travelling over the summer, something I couldn’t afford without giving up a job that was crucial to me being able to sustain myself university. I suppose you could say that we simply drifted apart and after meeting people at university who I got along with more readily the impetus to maintain what were fundamentally nonfunctional relationships fell away. My social life outside of university isn’t ‘over’ per se; the three-year relationship I have with my girlfriend is still strong and I do have one childhood friend who I’m extremely close to. However, as term winds down in preparation for the summer recess I have come to worry that the failure to continue my old friendships (whatever they were) will leave me isolated over an extremely long summer break. My girlfriend leaves for South America in June on a three-month trip, a number of university friends have invited me to stay at theirs during the summer (people will visit me as well) and despite the fact that I am sailing around the Baltic over august I have realised that there will be a number of weeks over the summer during which I’ll be fairly bored and isolated. I’m not asking for advice or anything but I was wondering if there were other people who have found themselves in a similar situation through whatever means?

[Raiden10]

(Original post by Lyman)
After finishing school last summer I lost contact with many of my schoolmates through the holiday and then over this year. I was always something of an outsider in the friendship group I was part of; I went through nursery and primary school with most of my friends and upon reflection only really associated with them because my mother had been close friends with their parents meaning that we’d been drawn together through play dates and moms meet ups. Most of my group went travelling over the summer, something I couldn’t afford without giving up a job that was crucial to me being able to sustain myself university. I suppose you could say that we simply drifted apart and after meeting people at university who I got along with more readily the impetus to maintain what were fundamentally nonfunctional relationships fell away. My social life outside of university isn’t ‘over’ per se; the three-year relationship I have with my girlfriend is still strong and I do have one childhood friend who I’m extremely close to. However, as term winds down in preparation for the summer recess I have come to worry that the failure to continue my old friendships (whatever they were) will leave me isolated over an extremely long summer break. My girlfriend leaves for South America in June on a three-month trip, a number of university friends have invited me to stay at theirs during the summer (people will visit me as well) and despite the fact that I am sailing around the Baltic over august I have realised that there will be a number of weeks over the summer during which I’ll be fairly bored and isolated. I’m not asking for advice or anything but I was wondering if there were other people who have found themselves in a similar situation through whatever means?

It happens, people move on to other things. Same thing happens after Uni.

[Friends-Addict]

This happened to me as well, sometimes you make friends simply because they're there and you're there and that is the thing you have in common. I find that in school this was the way things were but we never notice it until you leave and that's when you see who your real friends are.
Not to suggest that at one point in time you weren't good friends, but they aren't always going to be there.
It's sad sometimes when you realise that back home you only really have one friend, but just because you are no longer friends with other people doesn't mean you can't remember the good times and feel nostalgic about it.
I am expecting life to continue on after this, after Uni, losing some friends, making some in other aspects but moving on and remembering old friends...