[WhiteAndNerdy]

Honestly, I don't see why people treat it as some sort of competition - or how people use being a virgin as an insult haha!

[jfinney94]

(Original post by WhiteAndNerdy)
Honestly, I don't see why people treat it as some sort of competition - or how people use being a virgin as an insult haha!

Ok..... but if you get to the age of 30, and your still a virgin, then does it become something bad?

[x-Sophie-x]

I don't get it either -.- I guess it's probably because people think the 'better' they are, the quicker they'll lose it or something? It's ridiculous though :/

[WhiteAndNerdy]

(Original post by jfinney94)
Ok..... but if you get to the age of 30, and your still a virgin, then does it become something bad?

Only if it bothers the person that is still a virgin I guess? haha

[pr0view]

People used to be immature and call one another virgins when we like in year 7,8 & 9 lmao. Everyone seems to have grown out of it now though.

[lightweightbaby]

I think for a guy it can be a source of ridicule, since they aren't considered a man until they have completed the physical act of hiding the sausage.

For girls I think it's different though, I don't think anyone should slag them for it...but the it does depend on the company you keep to an extent.

A girl that takes the piss out of another girl for being a virgin = a girl that looks at sex as a pass time = a slut

[Alpharius]

The consept of virginity is a load of *******s.

It was invented by humans that wished to restrain people, as if virginity made someone a better person. Now, if your a guy, virginity is laughable, yet for a girl, they are seen as good.

Double standards, and pathetic. Why does it matter?

[WhiteAndNerdy]

(Original post by pr0view)
People used to be immature and call one another virgins when we like in year 7,8 & 9 lmao. Everyone seems to have grown out of it now though.

I am at college - and people still do it! :L

[im so fresh]

nobody should have sex at 16. We have all been there and we all know the silly stuff we do at that age. Although i'm just 17 i think you should be fully mature be doing such a thing. i'd say 19-23 approx would be alright for losing it.

but 30/40+ .....well.

[Frank Nero]

Being a virgin is neither bad nor good - it just means you haven't had sex yet.

I dig you, TS - it's very annoying when people throw it around as an insult.

You know what is also annoying? Dudes that brag about taking girl's virginities. It's nothing to be proud of. I've never known a virgin to be a good lay.

All the best.

[EmperorMustard]

Nothing is wrong with being a virgin. As a teen growing up, there was a lot of social pressure to not be a virgin, which is the most ridiculous thing. When I lost it, did I gain any super powers? Did people start looking at me going 'Ohhhh he's had sex'? No of course not, people's virginity is blown way out of proportion, mainly thanks to the media.

[Anonymous]

Well I'm 19 and still a virgin, and quite proud of it tbh. It just shows that I have morals and won't sleep with any girl that crosses my path. I have had the opportunity to lose it a few times but I want to save it for someone I really want to lose it to (possibly current girlfriend in the future?) So yeah there's nothing wrong with being a virgin at all.

[WhiteAndNerdy]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Well I'm 19 and still a virgin, and quite proud of it tbh. It just shows that I have morals and won't sleep with any girl that crosses my path. I have had the opportunity to lose it a few times but I want to save it for someone I really want to lose it to (possibly current girlfriend in the future?) So yeah there's nothing wrong with being a virgin at all.

Good on ya :-)

[Lucia.]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Well I'm 19 and still a virgin, and quite proud of it tbh. It just shows that I have morals and won't sleep with any girl that crosses my path.

It just shows you haven't had sex yet. I've lost my virginity but it doesn't mean I'll sleep with any guy who crosses my path. However I think what you're getting at is the perception that you have to lose is as soon as possible when you're a teenager, and you obviously haven't succumbed to peer pressure but decided to lose it on your own terms. There's no right way to lose it as long as that way is comfortable and enjoyable for you.

Sex really is overrated. People only care about virginity before they lose it.

[Lucia.]

Hmm I saw a post on a forum stating that a woman "loses points" for every man she has slept with. I'm not dumb and I totally get that men want to sleep with women who confess to having standards...However I find that virginity is fetishised far too much, and I don't think it's fair that a woman should be seen to be less attractive for having had sex.

Another point is that people do best to date someone on the same level as them. I think two virgins go together a lot better than people with mismatched levels of experience. For example I know someone who's only had sex with the person they're about to marry. They say they prefer someone less experienced...but I reckon if more experienced, a different opinion would have been formed. I now rate sexual experience a lot higher than I used to but that's only relative to the amount of sexual experience I've had myself.

[CC2010]

To answer the OP:

I think a lot of it is about "status". But, I know a LOT of people who've regretted it and wished they'd waited longer.

I'm still a virgin and I take pride in it. The exact same way I have know girls who've *apparently* slept with over 50 men and are quite pleased with themselves. I guess it's up to the individual.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Lucia.)
It just shows you haven't had sex yet. I've lost my virginity but it doesn't mean I'll sleep with any guy who crosses my path. However I think what you're getting at is the perception that you have to lose is as soon as possible when you're a teenager, and you obviously haven't succumbed to peer pressure but decided to lose it on your own terms.

Yeah that's exactly what I meant, I was in no way suggesting that people younger than me that have lost their virginity have no morals, they may have just found the right person early on, which is fine. But I've only had a couple of girlfriends so far but neither of them I felt close enough to to lose it to them. I have messed around in other ways in bed but haven't gone all the way. What I was getting at was I'm not going to lose it just for the sake of being able to say I have, I want to lose it in a meaningful relationship.

[lad-lad]

There is nothing wrong with it, however...
If it gets to a certain age (if you are a guy) I mean between me and my friends we always joke about "this and that" aspect of sex and it can just make you feel awkward that you can't really make an input because you got no experience.
It can mean that the longer it takes you to "get rid" of it, the more complexes you will develop when chatting/interacting/flirting with girls or you'll just avoid them totally and also girls love to talk about sex so there is another -ve point about it.

For a girl its simpler: she can say I am waiting for my one and only etc. She will definitely be discussed amongst her friends whilst she is absent but apart from that nothing terrible about it.

[jam277]

(Original post by im so fresh)
nobody should have sex at 16. We have all been there and we all know the silly stuff we do at that age. Although i'm just 17 i think you should be fully mature be doing such a thing. i'd say 19-23 approx would be alright for losing it.

but 30/40+ .....well.

Not really, there is nothing wrong with having sex at 16, come on, it's a bit of fun and makes you feel good, if you're using protection and do it the right way, there is nothing wrong with it. Bloody hell, my maturity has improved but really I've seen sex the same way since I was 13 that I do now. In fact I was more traditional about sex that it should be between lovers and be all lovey dubby at that age.

If you want it to be like that, fine, if you don't give a damn about having sex and it's not harming you or the other person, what is the problem? I'm not gonna go mental if I have sex at the age of 15 am I? Just that maybe my family wouldn't want me to be boning a girl who's that age while they're indoors.

Although sex might be better between a bf and a gf who love each other(don't believe in the whole true love term anyway and believe it's more of a prolonged infatuation/having strong feelings about someone) then yeah do that.

[Anonymous]

nobody should have sex at 16. We have all been there and we all know the silly stuff we do at that age. Although i'm just 17 i think you should be fully mature be doing such a thing. i'd say 19-23 approx would be alright for losing it.

but 30/40+ .....well.

Playing devil's advocate, I'm going to be weird and throw a new theory out: Why is there anything wrong with being a virgin at 30?
I see so many people here okay-ing virginity in late teens but frowning on it at the age of 30. Why does the standards have to change when you hit 30? To be honest, I don't understand why losing virginity is that big a deal in either case, but why is it so much worse for a 30 year old to be a virgin than a 20 year old? (bearing in mind that the latter's had four years to change that; why is that so different from 14 years?)
I'm just saying, I don't understand where the boundary is drawn for virginity to be "acceptable" and "unacceptable", and I'd like to know what reason you have for drawning that line where it is.