[Anonymous]

(female) Ok so I am currently in an international long-distance relationship and feeling very sexually frustrated... it's all I can think about sometimes! We're 3 months away from living closer together again.

I don't seem to be able to masturbate when I'm on my own, and the only times I do it are on webcam for my boyfriend, or when I get a sexy email from him - he talks dirty to me, and I play with myself. This might be once a fortnight, and while I do enjoy it, it doesn't satisfy me.

I can't seem to get turned on at all without interaction from someone (him). When we're together I never masturbate at all, because I don't feel the need to.

Is this normal? Are there other ways to deal with this frustration??

[unprinted]

It might not be common, but it's normal.

If I have this right, your satisfaction depends on having a partner physically present? This suggests that a monogamous long distance relationship may not be the best thing for you. If you want to change it, you can chose between not being monogamous or not having an LDR (or, indeed, both).

[aftrglw]

(Original post by unprinted)
If I have this right, your satisfaction depends on having a partner physically present? This suggests that a monogamous long distance relationship may not be the best thing for you. If you want to change it, you can chose between not being monogamous or not having an LDR (or, indeed, both).

So sorry you're sexually frustrated... why don't you just cheat on your boyfriend or break up with him? What great advice!

To the OP, I've been in two LDRs and know how you feel. Obviously, tending to your needs yourself isn't the same as tending them together. There's not really much you can do but the good news is that 3 months isn't that long. If you're so turned on by your bf and you need more 'attention', the obvious solution is to fantasize about him a bit more when you're not webcamming... then just try to tough out these last three months.

[coca]

Maybe you could try a vibrator?

[viln]

i have to agree with the post above, get a Vibrator, that may sort out any worries u may have

[Anonymous]

(Original post by coca)
Maybe you could try a vibrator?

(Original post by viln)
i have to agree with the post above, get a Vibrator, that may sort out any worries u may have

Already own two! I only really use them when I'm with my boyfriend. It's not that my fingers won't do the job, but that I just can't get in the mood when I'm by myself.

(Original post by aftrglw)
So sorry you're sexually frustrated... why don't you just cheat on your boyfriend or break up with him? What great advice!

To the OP, I've been in two LDRs and know how you feel. Obviously, tending to your needs yourself isn't the same as tending them together. There's not really much you can do but the good news is that 3 months isn't that long. If you're so turned on by your bf and you need more 'attention', the obvious solution is to fantasize about him a bit more when you're not webcamming... then just try to tough out these last three months.

Thanks, best advice so far!

I realise it's only 3 months, but when you've already done 7 months apart it's quite frustrating. I think about him all the time, (when I go to bed, at uni, when I'm bored at home...) so all that fantasising really wears me down. I don't even think about anyone else, so it's not like I'm about to cheat!

Oh well, just got to hang in there for 3 months, and remind myself how amazing it's going to feel when we're together again. Sex after several months apart is the most amazing I've ever had.

[ratherchloe]

Porn?


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[Ala'a]

^this!