Live with my parents who I don’t get on with at all. Have ajob which I really don’t enjoy anymore, don’t get on with the majority of thepeople I work with and feel really out of place there. Have no friends here andso no social life either.
So, I’ve been thinking for the last few days if its time forme to move away and start all over again. I feel like I can’t be myself here, I’mgay and none of my family know so for the last few years I’ve been living a lieand I’m not sure how much longer I can cope with it. I can’t come out to thembecause I know they won’t accept it.
I’m struggling so much with work and have come close toquitting so many times, my boss is aware and so far has managed to talk mearound but I know that the next time I say it it will be the end for me. I knowa lot of people don’t enjoy their work but when you work in my sector if youdon’t enjoy it you need to get out.
The lack of a social life is starting to really bother me, I’monly 23. When I’m not working I’m just sat in the house doing nothing. I wantmore than that. But I know that if I stay here I’m not going to get it.
I moved out a couple of months ago and although it helped alot, I still wasn’t happy. That’s why I know if I do it it has to be somewherenew where I can be myself and not worry about people finding out all the time.
So, can you think of any reasons I should stay? Or is itworth the risk to be happy for a change?
Have you considered counselling? There seem to be a lot of issues at hand here, and running away tends to exacerbate pre-existing problems. If you're truly unhappy with your job then leaving could be an anwser, yes, but what would you do then for money? Have you considered maybe you'd enjoy your work more if you had a social life?
Hang out in pubs, chat to people online, forming friendships isn't always easy, but worth the effort. If you decide to move, that's your decision, and you may truly be happier, but I would seriously recommend councilling.
As for the gay thing, are you sure you can't come out to your family? It would take a lot off pressure off you... I'm sure they'll love you just as much as they do now.