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I love him...but I think he's gay
Title says it all really - I think I love someone, who I'm good friends with - I don't think he knows how I feel, or if he does then he's politely ignoring it. He's really pretty and well-dressed, and incredibly sensitive...he's just so wonderful. But people have told me they think he's gay! And I can see why they'd think that - for different reasons. So what do I do? I love him too much! 
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Pretty?
Anyhows, as Markus has said, the simplest solution would be to ask him/bring it up in a conversation, etc.
Anyhows, as Markus has said, the simplest solution would be to ask him/bring it up in a conversation, etc.
I can't do that - if he's not, how embarrassing is that?! We're not such good friends that that kind of thing couldn't not be embarrassing...if you get what I mean. And even if I did ask, am I just gonna go 'Hey Tim, are you gay?'
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Title says it all really - I think I love someone, who I'm good friends with - I don't think he knows how I feel, or if he does then he's politely ignoring it. He's really pretty and well-dressed, and incredibly sensitive...he's just so wonderful. But people have told me they think he's gay! And I can see why they'd think that - for different reasons. So what do I do? I love him too much!
Maybe you could listen to that Celine Dion song, Ziggy, about loving a gay man
Ziggy, his name is Ziggy
I'm crazy about him
He's a boy like no others
But I love him, it's not my fault
Even if I know
That he will never love me
I do not understand this thread.
let me get this straight. (Interesting choose of word there)
You know a guy, he is sort of your friend, his perfect, you want to make a move, but your unsure whether or not he is gay.
I got two pieces of advice -
Instead asking him whether he is gay or not, ask him out on a date like you would if you did not doubt his heterosexuality. Now, obviously if he declines, that by no means actually constitutes him as gay, but whether he is gay or not would not matter because he does not want to be with you.
Also, never take the advice on ones sexuality from others. Especially if it is in the context of primary, secondary, college or even university. People have a habit of lying to degrade another individual.
let me get this straight. (Interesting choose of word there)
You know a guy, he is sort of your friend, his perfect, you want to make a move, but your unsure whether or not he is gay.
I got two pieces of advice -
Instead asking him whether he is gay or not, ask him out on a date like you would if you did not doubt his heterosexuality. Now, obviously if he declines, that by no means actually constitutes him as gay, but whether he is gay or not would not matter because he does not want to be with you.
Also, never take the advice on ones sexuality from others. Especially if it is in the context of primary, secondary, college or even university. People have a habit of lying to degrade another individual.
i hate it when that happens-forget him is my best advice
lil_sweetie
I can't do that - if he's not, how embarrassing is that?! We're not such good friends that that kind of thing couldn't not be embarrassing...if you get what I mean. And even if I did ask, am I just gonna go 'Hey Tim, are you gay?'
If he's called Tim then chances are you're right.
It's always boys called Tim... or Oliver.
Anyway, the only way forward might be to buy a stick-on handlebar moustache and pretend you're a bloke. See how it goes and report back...
At least it's not your actual boyfriend that's confused 
LibertineNorth
If he's called Tim then chances are you're right.
It's always boys called Tim... or Oliver.
Anyway, the only way forward might be to buy a stick-on handlebar moustache and pretend you're a bloke. See how it goes and report back...
It's always boys called Tim... or Oliver.
Anyway, the only way forward might be to buy a stick-on handlebar moustache and pretend you're a bloke. See how it goes and report back...
LOL...I dont know why that makes me laugh... there's a guy called Tim in my school.... and people think he's gay (even though we know he's not)...
Add Jamie to the Tims and Olivers 
Just be subtle...somehow maybe bring up convo with a friend, i.e. "i watched a programme on religion and that religions stance on homosexuality...it was pretty extreme..what do you think?" - just bring something in subtley, maybe then you can weed an answer out of him, even if it isn't a direct "yes, i am gay" etc....it can be an indirect answer....
Just be subtle...somehow maybe bring up convo with a friend, i.e. "i watched a programme on religion and that religions stance on homosexuality...it was pretty extreme..what do you think?" - just bring something in subtley, maybe then you can weed an answer out of him, even if it isn't a direct "yes, i am gay" etc....it can be an indirect answer....
Remember guys can be mistake for gay sometimes... remember the episode on Friends where Chandler found out everyone thought he was gay when they first met him?
To be honest with you, one or two people have actually thought that about me to.. and when I've found this out, I've got really paranoid and I can't work out why they thought that in the first place!!
To be honest with you, one or two people have actually thought that about me to.. and when I've found this out, I've got really paranoid and I can't work out why they thought that in the first place!!
Just ask him
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