[im so academic]

(Original post by TheProcrastinator2)
I am a nice guy, and willing to give you a go if you live in you live in the Herts, Beds or Bucks area. We could always meet for a date some time?

If your answer is no, my answer to your question is that you should respond to more opportunities that are opened to you!

2 posts? Willing to hook up with a young girl? All anonymous?

That's not right.

[im so academic]

(Original post by Spontogical)
This.

I used to speak to ISA at lengths in the past (on my old account).. she had some quite ambitious dreams too, so I'm surprised that she's more concerned about this than achieving them.

I don't care about anything else besides finding a nice guy that I find attractive (and he is attracted to me) so we just shag each other.

[Spontogical]

(Original post by im so academic)
I don't care about anything else besides finding a nice guy that I find attractive (and he is attracted to me) so we just shag each other.

Yeah but what happened? Aren't you going to university to do all those things you mentioned in the past? Go to any rusty club on a Friday night if you want a guy to have sex with you.

[Smerky]

Self esteem humbleness and self respect.

[im so academic]

(Original post by Spontogical)
Yeah but what happened? Aren't you going to university to do all those things you mentioned in the past? Go to any rusty club on a Friday night if you want a guy to have sex with you.

There is a big difference between a ONS and sex within a committed relationship.

[Spontogical]

(Original post by im so academic)
There is a big difference between a ONS and sex within a committed relationship.

hmm I dont think you should be looking for a serious committed relationship aged 15 tbh.. then again it may help you grow..

[Lucia.]

(Original post by im so academic)
What if I'm attracted to somebody but they're not attracted to me?
What if someone is attracted to me, but I'm not attracted to them?

Mutual attraction is a very hard thing.

Yes it's hard to find. It's not easy for anyone to find mutual attraction. People who are less attractive aren't as disadvantaged as you think.

No one has complete success with dating. You're not alone. People pretend that they do, but that's not the whole picture. It's not something you can really perfect. Sure, you can work on it. What's more important is to work on yourself and focus on finding your own happiness.

A lot of people feel really lonely before they find their first big relationship. I know that I did. Now that I've had a few, I realise that they're not all they're cracked up to be. I'm reluctant to give up my independence unless the guy is really great.

Enjoy your life as it is at the moment, being free of any huge responsibilities. You might look back on your younger self and think - "What the hell was I worrying about?".

You can't control everything that happens to you in life. Better to take it as it comes. You can work hard academically and feel more control over the outcome. Dating involves a different approach which may seem counter-intuitive - seems like the less you care, the more attractive you appear to others as a romantic prospect. So invest less in this aspect of your life.

(Original post by Spontogical)
hmm I dont think you should be looking for a serious committed relationship aged 15 tbh.. then again it may help you grow..

Yeah I agree with this. Boys of that age are too immature anyway.

[ct2k7]

(Original post by Lucia.)
You sound like a good guy. This is because you're nice as well as being emotionally balanced...because you don't make relationships so self-defining, you'd want a woman who is the same and is able to fend for herself. This is the trick that imsoacademic is missing. Being comfortable in yourself is very attractive..and if you want a quality guy with a backbone, you have to have a backbone yourself. I learnt that the hard way.

Thanks - I see women as mostly an equal, just need a bit more cushioning that I'd give other people, constant validation will get on my nerves; if you feel good about yourself, I will feel good about you.

Example is that I may be in a relationship, long distanced. It's not easy - add to the fact that she isn't in an easy position, and we can only talk for maybe 20 mins once a month. I trust her that much, because I know what's going on. I did offer my support, and it's still there, if she needs it, but I am confident that she won't because I know she's confident in herself to do things - that is very attractive. I am close to the Metropolitan Miami - girls have thrown themselves at me - it's not even funny, yet I will always stick to what I have to maintain trust in the relationship, but more importantly, trust and harmony in myself.

[gingerben]

what you look like doesnt determin who you are as a person
christ iv seen girls who werent the most attractive in the world go out with a lad who by many girls accounts...hot
and vice versa
personality accounts for a hell of a lot

[im so academic]

(Original post by Lucia.)
Yes it's hard to find. It's not easy for anyone to find mutual attraction. People who are less attractive aren't as disadvantaged as you think.

No one has complete success with dating. You're not alone. People pretend that they do, but that's not the whole picture. It's not something you can really perfect. Sure, you can work on it. What's more important is to work on yourself and focus on finding your own happiness.

A lot of people feel really lonely before they find their first big relationship. I know that I did. Now that I've had a few, I realise that they're not all they're cracked up to be. I'm reluctant to give up my independence unless the guy is really great.

Enjoy your life as it is at the moment, being free of any huge responsibilities. You might look back on your younger self and think - "What the hell was I worrying about?".

You can't control everything that happens to you in life. Better to take it as it comes. You can work hard academically and feel more control over the outcome. Dating involves a different approach which may seem counter-intuitive - seems like the less you care, the more attractive you appear to others as a romantic prospect. So invest less in this aspect of your life.



Yeah I agree with this. Boys of that age are too immature anyway.

What do you recommend I do whilst I'm still single?

[ct2k7]

ISA, I think you maybe placing a too greater emphasis on sex in a relationship.

I personally see it as bonding time - and would not want to do it every day of the week, maybe 3 or 4 max.

[Lucia.]

(Original post by im so academic)
What do you recommend I do whilst I'm still single?

Have fun, find new experiences, focus on your studies and build up a good circle of friends. Feel happy in your life as it is and a relationship will happen eventually.

[TheProcrastinator2]

(Original post by im so academic)
2 posts? Willing to hook up with a young girl? All anonymous?

That's not right.

I have no idea how old you are, but I was assuming that information would be provided before any date, so I can retract the offer if need be. There would be some conversation before anything was finalised.

If you're judging people's social status by the number of internet forum posts they've made, that's not a good sign.

Everybody is anonymous until you get to know them.

[Just saw someone's quote saying you're only 15............ for everyone reading this.... I'm not a paedophile. I assumed she was in her early 20s... thought I'd seen someone with a similar username post who was around that age in the past.]

[im so academic]

(Original post by ct2k7)
ISA, I think you maybe placing a too greater emphasis on sex in a relationship.

I personally see it as bonding time - and would not want to do it every day of the week, maybe 3 or 4 max.

I thought people who were in attractive relationships (i.e. where both participants of a relationship are sexually attractive) they would be having it nearly every day; couldn't get away from each other.

[Jakeh]

Brunette (preferably), nice figure, intelligent (anything past A levels), fun! :-) I'm a difficult man to please.

[Lucia.]

(Original post by im so academic)
I thought people who were in attractive relationships (i.e. where both participants of a relationship are sexually attractive) they would be having it nearly every day; couldn't get away from each other.

Only to begin with. And it depends on their sex drives.

I'd want to be having sex at least once every couple of days. Other people prefer less.

[ct2k7]

(Original post by im so academic)
I thought people who were in attractive relationships (i.e. where both participants of a relationship are sexually attractive) they would be having it nearly every day; couldn't get away from each other.

It may start like that, but it would wear off.

[R4INBOW]

ISA, it might just be ugly duckling syndrome! U will find a man eventually


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[im so academic]

(Original post by Lucia.)
Have fun, find new experiences, focus on your studies and build up a good circle of friends. Feel happy in your life as it is and a relationship will happen eventually.

OK.

[im so academic]

(Original post by ct2k7)
It may start like that, but it would wear off.

I thought attractive relationships are dependent on daily(ish) sex.