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How much do you think appearance really holds you back?

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It affects me a lot. I habe an unhealthy obsession of checking guys out purely because I think 'why can't I be as attractive as this person'. I feel my height really stops be from getting any female thinknig I'm attractive. I look like I'm 14 and I'm actually 20. It's so depressing. Its even starting to affect my studies. Not sure about job yet but I'm sure it will affect me when I have interviews because being as short as I am doesn't exactly suggest I'm a good leader or any sort of alpha male.

Reply 41

__IWalkTheLine

It's a bit of a bugbear with me personally, and it's not because I think I'm devastatingly ugly or something, mine is quite simple - I'm quite short, and young-looking.

Not necessarily bad things in themselves, but I've noticed that a lot of the time I kind of get sidelined if I'm actually trying to have a serious discussion - sort of a "oh, it's so cute when you try to have opinions, awww!" - it's very irritating after a while to be patronised like that.

Plus, whenever I've done work placements in law firms, a lot of people have spoken down to me in a similar, if more subtle, fashion. I don't know if it's my appearance, or maybe the fact that I'm a young female. Nevertheless, it's irritating.

Reply 42

im so academic

Original post by lapples

because the ugly woman might be a nicer person :tongue:

(not saying that pretty girls are nasty) :smile:

Men like pretty AND nice girls. They're the ones that get nice marriage proposals and daily sex from their nice husbands.

Reply 43

508836

Original post by im so academic

No. Why would any sane man do that?

Some pretty girls think their looks alone is enough to satisfy men.

Less attractive girls have to work harder to attract males thus tend to satisfy men more.

Also, less attractive girls tend to welcome men into their vagina without a VIP pass so they're easier to pull. No vagina is better than new vagina.

(edited 11 years ago)

Reply 44

im so academic

Original post by Clip

Just because one is good-looking does not mean that one is amenable to various sexual acts. In fact, the opposite may be more likely.

There are beautiful girls who are willing to do anything sexual for them.

This is why it is every man's fantasy to marry a porn-star.

(I'm not being sexist - every girl wants mind-blowing orgasms too).

Reply 45

lapples

Original post by im so academic

Men like pretty AND nice girls. They're the ones that get nice marriage proposals and daily sex from their nice husbands.

That is not what I meant....

Reply 46

Imposition

Original post by im so academic

I doubt that's true.

By 'every man', you mean you right? :wink:

We should call you 'I'm so obvious' :wink:

Reply 47

im so academic

Original post by lapples

That is not what I meant....

Well what did you mean then?

Original post by VictorDeLost

I doubt that's true.

By 'every man', you mean you right? :wink:

We should call you 'I'm so obvious' :wink:

Why would a man not want to marry a porn star?

Reply 48

Imposition

Original post by im so academic

Why would a man not want to marry a porn star?

Jheeze. I don't know, might have something to do with the fact that she's doing everyone else +you :wink:

Reply 49

Id and Ego seek

Original post by im so academic

Why would a man not want to marry a porn star?

Because some men are attracted to personality and commitment?

Unless she stops becoming a porn star after you're married, I don't see why they would want to marry a porn star lol

Reply 50

Lumos

Aside from the typical dating/popularity issues that come with being 'attractive' or 'unattractive', I'd say appearance affects me most in that I don't look like an adult, so people don't treat me like one. I'm 18, 5"2, have a child-like face, rarely wear makeup and don't wear 'grown-up' clothes - I have been ID'd to buy certificate 15 dvds and at the cinema, and more often than not I buy child train tickets.... Anyway the point is that people don't take me seriously. Because I'm small/look young, people treat me differently, definitely. It's always so awkward doing work experience and applying for jobs, because it seems like everyone is wondering what I'm doing there, that I'm not responsible/ don't know what I'm doing, or they automatically assume that I'm a timid person because of my size. Worse than looking your age and not being 'pretty' if you ask me.

Reply 51

Anonymous #3

The thing is I am fine with my appearance most of the time and I get complimented a lot and told I am attractive so logically I should be fine but although I'm not insecure about it, I am aware of my race especially living in a completely predominantly white country. Whenever I travel anywhere I am scared I will be treated differently because of my colour. It's really sad that I should feel like this in the 2012 but I have been to different parts of the country where other people are uncomfortable because of YOUR race. Some people I hung out with (friends of a friend) wouldn't even make eye contact with me and kind of ignored me and when they talked to me it was very nervously whereas they were friendly with everyone else. I wanted to scream you know, tell them I'm a ****ing human being too you know, I wont bite. I know its not their fault necessarily and they are not being racist but its so frustrating being judged like that because of your race.

And also even though I am told I am attractive I feel like I'm only considered so in a subgroup. I'd be considered a "hot [ethnic group] woman" whereas someone white is just a "hot woman". I am not even insecure with my race, I am completely fine with it and I like my colour, but I do think fear of other peoples perception of my colour and their reaction to it. It holds me back sometimes from trying new things or going different places or accepting dates from people outside of my race.

Reply 52

im so academic

Original post by Id and Ego seek

Because some men are attracted to personality and commitment?

Not solely.

Besides - you still have to be beautiful.

Unless she stops becoming a porn star after you're married, I don't see why they would want to marry a porn star lol

Hot and willing to give orgasms.

Reply 53

Anonymous #3

Sorry about all the mistakes in that last post, kinda rushed it :tongue:

Reply 54

Imposition

Original post by im so academic

Hot and willing to give orgasms.

Are you contemplating on becoming a pornstar in the near future?

Reply 55

Id and Ego seek

Original post by im so academic

Not solely.

Besides - you still have to be beautiful.

What constitutes as beauty to you?

I find people with 'quirky', 'abnormal' features (like an odd nose, attractive lip shape, etc.) that don't coincide with the typical norm of beauty (symmetrical face) to be beautiful.

I'm sure you're beautiful, ISA :wink:

(edited 11 years ago)

Reply 56

lapples

Original post by im so academic

Well what did you mean then?

I wasn't making a generalist statement, just stating that in some cases the less attractive woman may be a nicer person. I was in no way making out that all attractive women are complete b****es......

Reply 57

username91207

Original post by Mr Dangermouse

Personally I think it's more an attitude thing.

Question to girls, is Frankie Cocozza a particularly attractive male? Because if ou ask me, he seems like a fairly average looking guy with brilliant technique.

He's ugly, but for some reason the ladies are all over him. :s-smilie:

Reply 58

Mike Hunt is nice

I think it does make a huge differerence.
Especially when applying for jobs:
http://scienceblog.com/14974/who-knew-good-looking-people-get-better-jobs/

But this is a theory, so don't feel upset as at the end of the day, there are other factors, such as; charm, intelligence, determination are also important.

Reply 59

Blutooth

Original post by Mike Hunt is nice

Article shows that women are more irrational than men since they would typically give the better jobs to more handsome men, whereas men were unbiassed.

I don't think looks hold you back. I'm probably a 7 in terms of looks but I'm kinda short. The only place I feel uncomfortable is in nightclubs since it's harder for personality to shine through and people can't see faces as easily- and attraction solely depends on height it seems.