[fredscarecrow]

I was never maternal at all and whilst I always thought I'd have kids it was quite a far away idea.
I'm 22 and oh my gosh is my body clock ticking at me. I don't want a kid NOW, but I'm becoming very aware of how much I want them.

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by ratherchloe)
I don't want kids cos I don't think I'd be a good parent. It's kinda scary thinking about having complete responsibility over another human being and how they turn out, how many mistakes you could make. I just want animals


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I was also thinking this of myself...I have 'issues' so I worry that I may not be a good mother, and I worry about bringing into a horrid world.

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[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by ThumbsUp)
There are enough children in this world who need love and care but don't get it, and because of that thinking I'm more inclined to having children via adoption, as opposed to my own since I know I'd love them the same

I'd definately consider adoption...but I hate the fact that adoption is so difficult in this country. It's good we have a rigorous system, but it's so difficult.

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[buchanan700]

I used to think that I wasn't bothered either way, but I have gotten more broody as I'm getting older. It's the thought of giving birth that scares me...

[Bohedie]

(Original post by buchanan700)
I used to think that I wasn't bothered either way, but I have gotten more broody as I'm getting older. It's the thought of giving birth that scares me...

same D:

[SnoochToTheBooch]

(Original post by Dee Leigh)
Anyone here who chooses not to have kids?

Absolutely. Can't think of many things I want less. I don't want the stress, the responsibility, the lack of free time, the energy & money involved in being a good parent, the worrying if they're safe, the restrictions on your behaviour... that's not an exhaustive list. I'm far too selfish for kids and if I had a kid I'd resent it, children are life-ruiners. I can barely look after myself. I'll have to be bored of absolutely everything else in life before having a kid starts looking like a good idea to me.

[Sternumator]

I can't really imagine wanting them but I sort of want to want them if that makes any sense. If I was in a serious relationship I would go along with it if my gf wanted them. I like nice children but hate those little trappy ****s but I am sure I could make sure it was a nice one and not let them get too big for their boots. I am not sure I am capable of love at the moment but I would make sure I am by loving the mother first.

[Rainbow-Dream]

(Original post by Dee Leigh)
Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't.

I was reading about a historian who has decided not to have kids.

But I do know that it is a choice, not compulsory, and not something I am obliged to do.

People often have kids because of societal and cultural expectations, and for selfish reasons.

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Just curious, but how can having kids be selfish?
Oh and to answer your question, I'm 50/50 on the idea of having kids.

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by Rainbow-Dream)
Just curious, but how can having kids be selfish?
Oh and to answer your question, I'm 50/50 on the idea of having kids.

Having kids as a clone or mini-me, having them to slave away for you, having them as though they are property or as something you 'own', as a 'thing' to live their expectations through, because they are 'cute', to have someone look after them in old age, having them to get benefits, having them so they can be a 'slave' to you, having them as an investment or a commodity or a cash cow...

[Ronove]

(Original post by Dee Leigh)
I was also thinking this of myself...I have 'issues' so I worry that I may not be a good mother, and I worry about bringing into a horrid world.

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I'm not sure how old you are but I'd imagine sixth form age is a pretty good guess. I just wanted to say that if you are in fact 18 or so, you will change as a person in the coming few years. You may struggle with issues for a while yet but as long as you keep finding ways to try and deal with them (I'm assuming you mean self-esteem or depression or anxiety and so on) through that time and be proactive about it rather than give up and think they can't be worked on, and indeed worked through entirely with you coming out the other side and no longer having them as issues, your mindset and general life perspective will change a lot. Even if you continue to struggle with issues, if you continue to work on them with the help of people/services available to you, your point of view will change for the better. It really really won't be like this forever. And I can only imagine you suspect it will be. Let me tell you it won't.

[rainbowflurry]

I don't really see myself with children to be honest haha, I'm not opposed to them by any means but I just don't see them as being part of my life

[Dubs_ski]

I've always wanted a family but lately I've realised that I have so many problems and issues and it is difficult to look after myself that I sadly think it would be really hard to have children. I'm so gutted about this.

[Anon420]

I don't like children at all, so having kids really isn't something I want to do.

However who knows in 10 years, I may change my mind but honestly I've never liked them.

[limetang]

I don't want children at the moment. But at some point I do. Although I will admit that I find it difficult to pinpoint why I do.

[PinkMobilePhone]

It's not that uncommon not to want any kids. My aunt and her husband (well one of my aunts) - they've never had children (entirely out of choice).

[PinkMobilePhone]

(Original post by Dee Leigh)
Having kids as a clone or mini-me, having them to slave away for you, having them as though they are property or as something you 'own', as a 'thing' to live their expectations through, because they are 'cute', to have someone look after them in old age, having them as an investment or commodity...

You have absolutely NO idea what it takes to be a parent. I can honestly say that bringing up kids is about the most selfless thing I've ever done in my life. And I'm not saying that to sound as though I'm boasting, it's just the truth, it's ****ing hard work.

[Beckyweck]

(Original post by Scienceisgood)
Me.

Then again, my lack of interest in females could contribute to this decision. Although, adoption has always been an attractive option for me.

I always thought adoption was nice and then my friend who's parents are fostering (I think?) told me all the rules like you're not allowed to cuddle them and if it's a baby, 2 people must be there whilst bathing it and stuff. If I couldn't treat it like my own child, I wouldn't want it.

(Original post by buchanan700)
I used to think that I wasn't bothered either way, but I have gotten more broody as I'm getting older. It's the thought of giving birth that scares me...

I'm actually quite looking forward to that bit, I think I'm in the minority xD. I dunno why, maybe just because it's something that I haven't experienced and I know that it'll hurt like a bitch but at the end there will be something I've always wanted.

To answer the thread, I'm ridiculously maternal and basically the only thing that really matters to me is having children. I'm not that fussed about career and aspirations and stuff. I'd much rather be a housewife. xD

[Luffy.]

Having a child and raising it is very hard. And after I raise it, it will disobey me and I have to shout to it so why should I have a child.

[Huskaris]

Ergh, why even answer this. Ask a 9 year old if he likes beer and cigarettes, most of the time no will be their answer

Ask a 9 year old if they like girls/boys, most of the time no will be their answer.

You don't know what will happen down the line.

[xoxAngel_Kxox]

When I was younger I always said I didn't want kids but I think that was just because giving birth looked rather uncomfortable.. then as I got older I thought I'd foster/adopt, and then when I turned 21 something flicked in my brain and made me think yeah I do want my own children. Giving birth is still terrifying, but the whole process of being pregnant/giving birth/recovering immediately after birth is over in less than a year, and you get to love your child/ren for the rest of you life. So I'm totally up for the whole baby thing now. But I do want to adopt as well. I would love my own child, but would also love to be able to give a better life to someone who's parents let them down. So I will probably have my own baby first and then adopt a couple of years after. Hope to have my own before I'm 24 as I'd like to be relatively young. Then again I was brought up in a place where most people have kids by the age of 16 so I think I'm doing well to wait!