[Vohamanah]

I don't want kids. Its just not something that appeals to me, I've never experienced "broody" and am not very maternal.

Oddly enough, I quite like kids. Probably because they're on my wavelength But I couldn't handle them in more than short doses. I don't like babies at all, though. Really don't see the attraction. I don't think they're cute, they're noisy, they smell, they want attention all the time...

I'm terrified of giving birth. My friend discovered she was pregnant at six months, that's like my nightmare. Plus in my job you only see the horrific things that happen when women give birth. You don't get happy birth stories, you get death in childbirth, emergency hysterectomies, tears in the rectal sphincter, brain damaged babies etc. Best way to put you off having kids!

I'm fully comfortable with the idea of not having children. I don't feel the urge to procreate or "create a family" for when I'm old. I'm very independant and like doing my own thing. I'm also ambitious, and my career comes first to me.

[*Thedreaming*]

(Original post by Dee Leigh)
Having kids as a clone or mini-me, having them to slave away for you, having them as though they are property or as something you 'own', as a 'thing' to live their expectations through, because they are 'cute', to have someone look after them in old age, having them as an investment or commodity...

Agree with all of this...people seem to want kids to be looked after in their old age...the child is their own person..what if they have a draining career or move to a country different to yourself..how will they look after you?

[NB_ide]

All reasons for having children are selfish, in my view, and I don't want to be responsible for bringing even more suffering into the world.

[Obadetona]

(Original post by Terpsikhore)
I definitely don't want children.

The concept of putting your life on hold for 18 years is more selfless than I am capable of. I'm too independent, and too interested in doing stuff.

Exactly this.

[Dirac Delta Function]

(Original post by Dee Leigh)
Anyone here who chooses not to have kids?

The people you're asking really are not at the stage of their lives where they will be taking seriously the idea of having kids.

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by PinkMobilePhone)
You have absolutely NO idea what it takes to be a parent. I can honestly say that bringing up kids is about the most selfless thing I've ever done in my life. And I'm not saying that to sound as though I'm boasting, it's just the truth, it's ****ing hard work.

Oh sorry, I didn't mean what I said in a bad way. I have no idea what it is like to be a parent, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with having kids.

It's good that you are selfless, but I do know (even from experience) that some people have kids for selfish reasons.

[Rish7]

Only once I'm a good position to raise them well. I'd need to be financially stable, with a good home and a loving partner to give them a good quality of life.

Until then I wouldn't want to bring a child into this world knowing I wouldn't be able to do my absolute best for them.

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by Bellissima)
in bold, what do you mean? just want to be clear..

Having kids as a clone or mini-me, having them to slave away for you, having them as though they are property or as something you 'own', as a 'thing' to live their expectations through, because they are 'cute', to have someone look after them in old age, having them to get benefits, having them as an investment or commodity...

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by Bellissima)
wow... you think most people have kids for this reason?

I don't think every single parent has kids for these reasons...

But there are some who are conditioned into having kids...and then there are some who have kids but don't treat them like humans...

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by Vohamanah)
I don't want kids. Its just not something that appeals to me, I've never experienced "broody" and am not very maternal.

Oddly enough, I quite like kids. Probably because they're on my wavelength But I couldn't handle them in more than short doses. I don't like babies at all, though. Really don't see the attraction. I don't think they're cute, they're noisy, they smell, they want attention all the time...

I'm terrified of giving birth. My friend discovered she was pregnant at six months, that's like my nightmare. Plus in my job you only see the horrific things that happen when women give birth. You don't get happy birth stories, you get death in childbirth, emergency hysterectomies, tears in the rectal sphincter, brain damaged babies etc. Best way to put you off having kids!

I'm fully comfortable with the idea of not having children. I don't feel the urge to procreate or "create a family" for when I'm old. I'm very independant and like doing my own thing. I'm also ambitious, and my career comes first to me.

Same here, I am a very hardworking and ambitious person, so an education and a high flying career is going to come first. Plans to have kids? That is definately on hold.

I am a young woman, but I don't feel any 'duty' to procreate. That is only an option, not something I feel I have to do.

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by *Thedreaming*)
Agree with all of this...people seem to want kids to be looked after in their old age...the child is their own person..what if they have a draining career or move to a country different to yourself..how will they look after you?

True...my parents are planning to go back to their home country, they can take care of themselves! Both my grandparents take care of themselves - I guess being in their home country helps, and my late great-grandmother HATED having people looking after her...

Also I may live abroad or in a different part of the country so...

[faber niger]

Yes. I don't lack interest in females (after all, it's not as though sex is inherently linked to reproduction any more) or have an unhealthy interest in career progression, I just have an ethical objection to bringing more people into an already overpopulated world, and hope that I'd be able to stick to it.

I don't hold anything against others who have kids, since we're programmed to do so and there may well also be all kinds of individual reasons why people rationally decide to do so, but I don't think I'm going to have any. So I'm a genetic dead-end and proud of it.

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by NB_ide)
I don't want to be responsible for bringing even more suffering into the world.

I feel a little bit like this too...


This was posted from The Student Room's Android App on my GT-S5830

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by Dirac Delta Function)
The people you're asking really are not at the stage of their lives where they will be taking seriously the idea of having kids.

Ok...but some people know from a very young age that they will not have kids...people who often decide they want to remain childless tend to know from a very young age...

[EckoGecko]

I've never had maternal instincts, and I doubt they'll be kicking in any time soon.
Maybe when I'm older I'll suddenly become a mothering person...

[NB_ide]

(Original post by EckoGecko)
I've never had maternal instincts, and I doubt they'll be kicking in any time soon.
Maybe when I'm older I'll suddenly become a mothering person...

This does happen. I'm in my mid 20's now and have had some female friends since uni or before - the topic came up and they'd be all like "nah fock dat lol", but now they're craving kids. It just happens, NATURE INNIT.

[TheBritishBloke]

I guess in the long run it's something I'd want to do. It's just something that I'd love to experience in life.

Yes, having kids is a financial ruin; but I still want to do it once I have an established career, in a committed relationship etc.

[Dmon1Unlimited]

i dont want kids... i dont like the thought of raising a kid that may have the same life as me... doubt a asperger/depressive like me would make a good father nor would i want it passed down, depression runs through my family :/

however time changes people, i cant speak for the future, if for whatever reason i did, and the mother could compensate for any traits i lacked, ideally two would be decent (boy/girl) rather than being an only child that could be lonely, nor have billions and end up in financial hell...

[LETSJaM]

No.

I do want to get married and have children, but not for at least another decade, and I wouldn't give up my life for them.

<3 x

[shezshez]

I do want kids, but I want to live my life before teaching someone else how to live theirs.
Perhaps when in 10-15 years, I'll think about it.