[dead101]

I want to have children, 3 at least. I've always wanted a big family, probably because I only had a brother and always wished I had more siblings.

[goldilockz1984]

(Original post by Ano1)
How has our society got to this point, I think that sounds great!

I agree that we can all achieve so much with uni, travel the world in our 20s.
But after some years in the office we're going to come to a stage when we ask 'is this it'.

Having kids is the only thing we leave behind unless we are famous.
Leaving your dna behind, and raising your own children should be The priority in life.
Not getting a 1st, and getting pissed until your 40 - and realised you messed up by not having kids.

Personally I think this is a very narrow-minded opinion. This might be the case for you but certainly not for everyone. If all everyone left behind was their offspring, nothing would progress and nothing would be achieved. People leave behind so much more and for many people there is so much more to life than having childre. Personally, if I had kids I would think 'is this it?' Not having a career, not being able to travel, see the world and different cultures, I would feel stiffled. You are wrong to suggest that leaving behind our DNA 'should be the priority in life'. After all, we live NOW, not when we are gone. I know of many people who have had kids and do not feel it is the ultimate fulfillment. Getting an education, progressing in our careers, helping other people, those are things that make us feel fulfilled other than just popping out some sprogs. I think you've been brainwashed by television ads.

[Aspiringlawstudent]

Yes; aside from the fact I simply don't like children, my priority is my career.

[Some random guy]

Probably not. The Great House of SRG must continue to flourish long after I am gone!

[Leora1127]

I don't want kids and never have. It always irritates me when people tell me I'll change my mind. I won't. I am not maternally inclined and always feel awkward and uncomfortable around children. The idea of pregnancy and childbirth disgusts and frightens me. I could go on and on. Kids are expensive. I want to travel and like independence. I don't know think my boyfriend understands how serious I am about this though...

[Gary Barlow]

Don't want em. As you get older and all your friends start having them i imagine the pressure will mount up but hopefully i'll be too busy enjoying other things to care.
I like every man, hate children and have no ability whatsoever to deal with their requests. It's enough struggling small talk with idiots my own age.

[Skaði]

(Original post by SillyMilly)
Im going to sound a bit wierd crazy,

All I really want to be in life is a mum, of course im going to build a life for myself a carrer and a name for myself, but my end goal in life is to be married with children, I guess ive had problems with my mum and I want to have a child and bring them up the way i wish i had been brought up.

I'm the same Whilst I also want a well-paid career (who doesn't?) and to achieve academically, I honestly can't remember a time in my life when I didn't want kids. And like you, I've had problems with the way my mother's raised me, and I don't want to repeat the same mistakes she did. Ideally, I want three kids: two boys and a girl. Boy, boy, girl, in that order (though of course it's all a matter of luck ). I even have their names picked out, procrastinator that I am

I've had a few remarks from people in the past about how 'backwards-thinking' I am for saying that the thing I most want in life is children, but I genuinely don't see what the problem is in wanting them. And besides, lots of women have good careers and go on to have children. Personally, I see no reason in not following their example.

[Cll_ws]

I feel as though right now I have a quite selfish frame of mind, in which i'm thinking, what will I benefit from having kids? I don't know whether that's something you lose as you get older? but right now I can't see myself changing my frame of mind. I'm not exactly against having children and I do like them, but looking after one myself seems quite a bit of effort!
..i'm only 20 though, haha.

There's things that I enjoy doing in life right now that would be difficult to do if I had responsibility over a child, and if I like doing these things now, then I don't see why in 10-20 years i'll no longer want to do them and instead want kids?

I might just leave the baby-having to other family members, then I can be like the awesome uncle or something. Seeing a kid every now and again will satisfy me enough
I also have a 6 year old sister, which is a 14 year age gap, it sort of feels like having a kid with her around haha.

[SillyMilly]

(Original post by marky--mark)
I feel like I'm pretty rare amongst men, in that I want to have kids... Me and my ex- had actually already decided that we wanted three, two girls and a boy... We'd called them Thomas, Molly and Amelia... Still, that was before she ran off with some Irish guy in March.

Still, I do really want to have kids- and I'm still set on two girls and a boy, even if the names change a little bit. Maybe by the time I'm, 26 it might be nice to have kids.

amelia good choice in name :P not that im biased!

[JessicaUk]

(Original post by SillyMilly)
amelia good choice in name :P not that im biased!

Amelia, lol hello! I take it you are called Amelia? The thought of having kids just now actually scares me! xx

[Darkstar1993]

I would love kids, i just wouldn't want to bring them into this crap world.

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by goldilockz1984)
As someone who is probably older than most people on these threads, my advice would be stay true to yourself, try to discover what it is that you really want to do with your life whilst drowning out the voices of society and other people, and know that your choice is personal to you and someone else's might be completely different yet entirely as valid.

Good advice!

Might use that quote in my sig...

And yes, thinking about it I do agree - deciding not to have a kid might just be as selfish as deciding to have one...I guess it depends on the reasons...

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by Sabertooth)
I'm getting to the stage in life where I need to think about this seriously. I'm getting married this summer and I think in a couple of years time there will definitely be little Sabertooths running around. Honestly I can't wait! I would love to have kids, I think I'd make a great dad.

Today I was wandering about in central London and somehow the idea of kids popped into my head. I'm leaving the UK soon and I couldn't help but think how I'll return in say 10 or 15 years time with my kids and show them around. It's gonna be awesome.

Lol Sabertooths!!

You're emigrating?

Where to?

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd)
I do want kids but with my mental health, I think it's safer not to have them and be child free

Tbh, I feel this same way...

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[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by Aoide)
While I'm still young, I am very certain I don't want children. I'm a strong believer in picking your own goals making the most out of the one life you have. I want to live my life for me (yeah ok some people think it is selfish but the arguement for that really don't stand up) and having children would require me to put many limitations on my own life. I plan on taking as many oppurtunities as I can and having to put money aside and focus my energy on caring for someone else doesn't work alongside that. If I had kids i would end up resenting them for stopping me living the life I want. I guess it helps that I have no interest in living the traditional family life.

A bit like me...

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[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by SillyMilly)
Im going to sound a bit wierd crazy,

All I really want to be in life is a mum, of course im going to build a life for myself a carrer and a name for myself, but my end goal in life is to be married with children, I guess ive had problems with my mum and I want to have a child and bring them up the way i wish i had been brought up.

However if I am not in a stable realtionship, do not have enough money to pay for my baby to have everything it wants/needs then no i will not have kids. I will only bring a child into the world if i can give it the lifestyle it deserves. Ideally I want kids by 26/27 bit wierd for a 19 year old to think !

What kind of problems, if you don't mind me asking?

I know how you feel except I'm almost like that total opposite - I may choose never to have kids!

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[sinfonietta]

No. I definitely want to have children. Not yet, though - three of my four closest friends from school are mothers now (we're all age 19-20) and I'm far from ready to go through that! I've a number of things I want to do for myself first (including finishing my education) before having kids.

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by Skaði)
I'm the same Whilst I also want a well-paid career (who doesn't?) and to achieve academically, I honestly can't remember a time in my life when I didn't want kids. And like you, I've had problems with the way my mother's raised me, and I don't want to repeat the same mistakes she did. Ideally, I want three kids: two boys and a girl. Boy, boy, girl, in that order (though of course it's all a matter of luck ). I even have their names picked out, procrastinator that I am

I've had a few remarks from people in the past about how 'backwards-thinking' I am for saying that the thing I most want in life is children, but I genuinely don't see what the problem is in wanting them. And besides, lots of women have good careers and go on to have children. Personally, I see no reason in not following their example.

What problems, if you don't mind me asking?

I kind of know how you feel but I would choose not to be a parent!

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[abc:)]

Maybe I'll never have kids and I don't wanna act like that would be the end of the world as I know people who haven't had kids who are perfectly happy. However I do love babies and children and think I have a natural instinct so I hope I do have children one day

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by Darkstar1993)
I would love kids, i just wouldn't want to bring them into this crap world.

Same here.

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