I started a new job recently and everyone seemed extremely friendly with me. I thought we clicked and this was perfect teamwork.
On the first friday evening, we went out and one of my team (they're all girls) offered me a drink and we spoke for like two hours. I don't think she was flirting, though she mentioned a few times about getting over her recent break up.
Then she asked about my status and I felt a bit awkward for a moment, so only after thinking a few seconds I said that I am engaged. (I felt awkward because I thought you shouldn't talk about those things so quickly with coworkers)
She seemed less happy talking to me afterwards and spoke with another guy...
We all went home together though because we live in the same area.
But worst of all, after that day my entire team is quite cold towards me and mobbing - quite the radical opposite of how it was in the first few days.
I am not enjoying the environment anymore, and it almost seems as if they're all doing it on purpose, e.g. not saying "Hi", not greeting, sounding frustrated when I ask them something, etc.
(Original post by Tudball)
If you don't want my advice, just say so.
There's still a chance to say your fiancée is a bloke.
All I want is to have normal relations, and if possible friendship (it looked like we clicked really really great!), with people whom I will work with more than 10 hours a day.
I have no romantic or sexual interest in any of them >.<
I was confused, until i realised you were male. (Not that i can't get my head around lesbianism, i just didn't think it likely that a random sample of women (your co workers) would all be lesbians.)
Well it's very rude of them. Evidently they are all desperate singletons and saw you as fresh meat until you 'let them down'. I don't know what to say because you haven't done anything wrong... It's all a bit odd as well...who refuses to be nice to someone because they know they can't get into their pants?