[Anonymous]

Anon/delete

I see these threads on here how girls pine over guys they meet or guys that they have a crush on. Why do girls have massive crushes on guys that haven't even had to do anything? Why has no girl ever liked me in that way? Why has no girl gone out of their way to talk to me?

I am not good looking, I would say I'm below average. My social life isn't great but I have met a lot of girls in the past but they have made no intention to get with me. No girl has ever flirted to me or has given me signals. Is it because I am not good looking? Is society that much shallow that due to the fact that I'm not good looking that I don't even get a look in?

Is it because I don't make my intentions clear? Is it because I don't usually approach girls? If so then how come girls always fancy guys that has never even approached them?

I have a friend who is good looking and girls always flirt with him even though he hasn't had to do anything and it really makes me mad.

I ****ing hate this ****! Its making me feel unworthy for anyone and its ruining my well-being (and life). Its al-right for girls because even the ugliest ones get approached. But if you're a guy and you're ugly - you're screwed for life.

Is anyone going through what I'm going through now? I would hope that I am not the only one.

[SugarPuffs]

Physical appearance does play a hefty part in meeting girls and having them come onto you, but being able to talk to them first and successfully flirt with them and keep them as a contact to do things at a later date with is where you'll have more success. I doubt your friend isn't doing anything to have these girls interested in him; his confidence and the way he presents himself are what draws these girls to him. If you lack self-confidence both in your appearance and with who you are as a person (thinking you're unattractive, boring, etc) then you will struggle with meeting new people, especially girls. You must learn to accept the way you look (aspects of your appearance you can't change), whilst focusing on changeable aspects (e.g. getting rid of acne, losing weight, gaining muscle, etc) and working on your inner confidence and self-esteem. There are plenty of web articles to read about how to boost your confidence and self-esteem, so start reading some of them and implement those things into your life.

[defrule]

I know what your feeling bro.

I talk to girls fine but more and more I feel like I end being a listener friend than anything romantic. Bugs me too and I hate it.

[Soph(:]

That isn't necessarily true, loads of girl's don't get approached although I would say it is easier for them. To be honest to change this your just going to have to go up to girl's and make your intentions clear nobody can read your mind- and if you get rejected so what? try again. Admittedly this is easier said then done though ahah.

[MrsLovett112]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Anon/delete

I ****ing hate this ****! Its making me feel unworthy for anyone and its ruining my well-being (and life). Its al-right for girls because even the ugliest ones get approached. But if you're a guy and you're ugly - you're screwed for life.

Is anyone going through what I'm going through now? I would hope that I am not the only one.

¬_¬ Yeah, of course. Well, I'm going to ignore this very blatantly wrong statement as otherwise, this argument could get personal.

Seriously, things aren't always black and white. If a girl did approach you, it isn't certain you'd like her just in the same way girls aren't going to like every guy that approaches them. People always seem to concentrate on the bad factors of their relationship history, thinking more about the times that they were ignored or feelings weren't reciprocated rather than thinking back to anything positive. How old are you? If you're still young it's probably not too strange that you haven't been approached by girls and why they seem to like these more generically impressive guys. Hope things go well in the future

[fl4mers]

(Original post by SugarPuffs)
Physical appearance does play a hefty part in meeting girls and having them come onto you, but being able to talk to them first and successfully flirt with them and keep them as a contact to do things at a later date with is where you'll have more success. I doubt your friend isn't doing anything to have these girls interested in him; his confidence and the way he presents himself are what draws these girls to him. If you lack self-confidence both in your appearance and with who you are as a person (thinking you're unattractive, boring, etc) then you will struggle with meeting new people, especially girls. You must learn to accept the way you look (aspects of your appearance you can't change), whilst focusing on changeable aspects (e.g. getting rid of acne, losing weight, gaining muscle, etc) and working on your inner confidence and self-esteem. There are plenty of web articles to read about how to boost your confidence and self-esteem, so start reading some of them and implement those things into your life.

I believe this hits the spot. Yes, we girls do pay a lot of attention to looks when we first meet someone, but in the end it's a mix of looks and personality that gets us hooked. I know this guy, who the first time I met, I never in a million years thought anything would happen with. I got to know him though and he's just such a happy, confident guy that you can't help but be attracted to him. Physically he's really not much to look at, but his personality is just so open and genuine that you can't help but like him. I therefore recommend starting to take steps to making yourself enjoy your life more and just becoming happy with the kind of person you are. Once you're happy with who you are as a person and what you're doing with your life, I think the confidence should come along right with that and THAT is what will attract the girls in the long run. Wishing you the best of luck!

p.s. When a girl's really into you you become the most beautiful person in the world to her whatever you may look like... just something to remember~!

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Its al-right for girls because even the ugliest ones get approached.

Not so! I wasn't asked out by a single guy while I was at school. I was bitched about and isolated by some of the girls at school, and developed social anxiety, so I never flourished in school.

But when I got to university, I suddenly had guys all over me! I'm frequently told I'm gorgeous, and ever since I started getting attention I've realised I can get any guy I want. My first boyfriend said he couldn't believe no one had ever been interested in me before!

I think it's a confidence thing. I used to think I was ugly, but actually now I think I didn't get any attention because I was a bit of a loser at school, not because of my looks. When I got to university, I was free from that image I had, so suddenly guys wanted me.

That gave me the confidence to start flirting with guys more and acting more available. You can shoot yourself down right from the start by believing no one will be interested.

Just work out what your strengths are, and start playing to them. eg. If you don't think you're a looker, work on your confidence in conversation.

Good luck!

[bloomblaze]

I know exactly where you are coming from OP. Im 22 and ive been 'invisible' to girls all my life. No girl has ever found me attractive or noticed me.

I dont know what im going to do.

I always see girls around that I like the look of and it annoys me that I cant have them; they dont know I exist etc.

[Talented girl]

(Original post by bloomblaze)
I know exactly where you are coming from OP. Im 22 and ive been 'invisible' to girls all my life. No girl has ever found me attractive or noticed me.

I dont know what im going to do.

I always see girls around that I like the look of and it annoys me that I cant have them; they dont know I exist etc.

Im sure your not invisible , every girl see's something that another may think is imperfect perfectly that what i always think and believe in anyways. I mean i've never had a bf im confident and attractive ( not to sound vein :I my friends say and nudge me saying " what are you doing single still??!" ) but guys must think im invisible to haha . Dont be down hearted im sure your lovely how you are and theres nothing wrong with you

[Alpharius]

Well, you know what the answer is for guy's who are ugly when it comes to the ladies...

Time to get rich. You'll suddenly look like Brad Pitt

[Lucia.]

Maybe women have liked you but you haven't realised. I'm not trying to sound dense. That could well be the case.

[tanveer2k12]

girls are over rated anyway

[chronic_fatigue]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Anon/delete

I see these threads on here how girls pine over guys they meet or guys that they have a crush on. Why do girls have massive crushes on guys that haven't even had to do anything? Why has no girl ever liked me in that way? Why has no girl gone out of their way to talk to me?

I am not good looking, I would say I'm below average. My social life isn't great but I have met a lot of girls in the past but they have made no intention to get with me. No girl has ever flirted to me or has given me signals. Is it because I am not good looking? Is society that much shallow that due to the fact that I'm not good looking that I don't even get a look in?

Is it because I don't make my intentions clear? Is it because I don't usually approach girls? If so then how come girls always fancy guys that has never even approached them?

I have a friend who is good looking and girls always flirt with him even though he hasn't had to do anything and it really makes me mad.

I ****ing hate this ****! Its making me feel unworthy for anyone and its ruining my well-being (and life). Its al-right for girls because even the ugliest ones get approached. But if you're a guy and you're ugly - you're screwed for life.

Is anyone going through what I'm going through now? I would hope that I am not the only one.

*sigh* why do so many guys think this? Maybe it is true if you are drop dead gorgeous but the majority of us are not. I don't think I am ugly and I don't have guys chasing after me. Instead of being bitter why don't you try to talk to these girls? They won't know you exist until you talk to them.

[bloomblaze]

(Original post by chronic_fatigue)
*sigh* why do so many guys think this? Maybe it is true if you are drop dead gorgeous but the majority of us are not. I don't think I am ugly and I don't have guys chasing after me. Instead of being bitter why don't you try to talk to these girls? They won't know you exist until you talk to them.

How should he go about making them know he exists? How should he talk to them?

[Indian_Prince]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Anon/delete

I see these threads on here how girls pine over guys they meet or guys that they have a crush on. Why do girls have massive crushes on guys that haven't even had to do anything? Why has no girl ever liked me in that way? Why has no girl gone out of their way to talk to me?

I am not good looking, I would say I'm below average. My social life isn't great but I have met a lot of girls in the past but they have made no intention to get with me. No girl has ever flirted to me or has given me signals. Is it because I am not good looking? Is society that much shallow that due to the fact that I'm not good looking that I don't even get a look in?

Is it because I don't make my intentions clear? Is it because I don't usually approach girls? If so then how come girls always fancy guys that has never even approached them?

I have a friend who is good looking and girls always flirt with him even though he hasn't had to do anything and it really makes me mad.

I ****ing hate this ****! Its making me feel unworthy for anyone and its ruining my well-being (and life). Its al-right for girls because even the ugliest ones get approached. But if you're a guy and you're ugly - you're screwed for life.

Is anyone going through what I'm going through now? I would hope that I am not the only one.

mate youll find someone eventually, stop looking for it, girls at this age are quite silly sometimes, well some can be quite mature but others are quite silly as i said, you think you're ugly but im sure you're good looking in someones eye, just be patient.... you're right on the whole ugly girls get attention too but thats because some guys are just wanting the sex and are quite desperate for it and so are inconsiderate of their emotions and then you get them coming onto here crying that their boyfriend has been cheating on them or dumped them blah blah blah, youll be fine dont worry.

[jam277]

(Original post by tanveer2k12)
girls are over rated anyway

Not trying to be homophobic in anyway, but are you gay? Because it'll explain this statement.

[chronic_fatigue]

(Original post by bloomblaze)
How should he go about making them know he exists? How should he talk to them?

You want some advice? I'm no expert but even just smiling at someone when you make eye contact is nice she might even come to you with just a nice smile. Women can't read minds so they won't know you are interested if you are one of those people who ignores the person they like or look unhappy all the time.

Depends on the scenario, if you are at uni and you see the girl of your dreams outside the lecture hall just walk over and say hi, how are you, where are you from, have you done/started the essay or whatever. If you seem to be getting on well ask if she wants to go to the cafe/SU after the lecture. You need to make it clear that you like her and don't be one of those people who likes a girl for years and gets upset when you leave uni. You shouldn't see women as a different species just talk to them normally the way you would talk to a friend. I have walked up to people I don't really know and said hi and just talked, they may look at me like I'm weird at first but usually they become comfortable.

[bloomblaze]

(Original post by chronic_fatigue)
You want some advice? I'm no expert but even just smiling at someone when you make eye contact is nice she might even come to you with just a nice smile. Women can't read minds so they won't know you are interested if you are one of those people who ignores the person they like or look unhappy all the time.

Depends on the scenario, if you are at uni and you see the girl of your dreams outside the lecture hall just walk over and say hi, how are you, where are you from, have you done/started the essay or whatever. If you seem to be getting on well ask if she wants to go to the cafe/SU after the lecture. You need to make it clear that you like her and don't be one of those people who likes a girl for years and gets upset when you leave uni. You shouldn't see women as a different species just talk to them normally the way you would talk to a friend. I have walked up to people I don't really know and said hi and just talked, they may look at me like I'm weird at first but usually they become comfortable.

Where do you approach and talk to these people you dont know?

[honggau]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I ****ing hate this ****! Its making me feel unworthy for anyone and its ruining my well-being (and life). Its al-right for girls because even the ugliest ones get approached. But if you're a guy and you're ugly - you're screwed for life.

Ok let's get this straight lol it's the reverse my friend! Have you ever seen an ugly girl with a dead handsome guy? Rare. Wait, no, i haven't! But have you ever seen an ugly guy with a beautiful girl? Hell yeah, yes! A lot! Everyday! It's even everywhere on the media, for example: she's out of my league, Kick-ass, and even 21 Jump street, and so forth! A lot of movies did it because it's a norm and because most girls like to hear more than to see and to girls, a warm, caring, sensitive below average guy who knows how to listen and treats a girl right scores better than a hot but selfish guy. They're simply better for long term relationships. (Not to mention the ugly rich guy with super hot model girls!)

And seriously, do you really need those girls who only care about appearance?? You know, you're the one who actually cares SO MUCH about appearance! Why do you think those girls approach your friend because he's good looking but not because there is something special in him that they can see? I guess it's because at least he doesn't think the way you think of yourself! You don't even respect yourself, how can you expect us girls to think differently? Ok just assume that you're really really ugly, even if your face is somehow distorted but if you have a nice personality, passion, hobbies, and you care about people more than your own appearance, right girls will come because you will attract the right girls who know your real value!

Also my friend, appearance is not everything. A charming guy does not necessarily have a good face but he believes in himself, he has a high self-esteem, he makes people feel special when they're with him just because of how he treats people.

And hey, why don't you be the one to approach the girl you like? Be active and take control of your life! Who would turn down a guy who confidently approaches her, politely and nicely talks to her, makes her laugh and makes her feel special? It's your choice to change the situation or not!

Remember everything around you is just the way you see it. It's not necessarily the truth. Well, there is no truth. You're the one who decides your life. Don't blame anyone. Also, I believe everything is uniquely beautiful in their own way. Some just are easier to seen than others, but the hidden part is always the interesting one

[TSRnoob17]

just get hench lad, girls love stacked guys